Life After Christian Fundamentalism


Life After Christian Fundamentalism

Recovering from the side effects of Christian fundamentalism is not easy.

•The ongoing fear of Hell
•Rejection from family members
•Ongoing guilt
•Loss of community

If you can relate, join.
This is not a debate group.

Members: 519
Latest Activity: Dec 17, 2013

Welcome to "Life After Christian Fundamentalism."

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This group was born out of my meeting with Nate Phelps during the American Atheist Convention in Atlanta.

My wife Angela and I took Nate and his fiancée Angela out to enjoy the evilness of The Varsity. Almost instantly we hit it off, and felt like we had been friends for years. Not only did we have similar backgrounds, but we all shared the desire to help others who were leaving Christian fundamentalism.

I asked Nate to write about his experiences in Atlanta on my blog Life Without Faith. He graciously accepted and you can read it here.

As support for this group, Nate has graciously allowed Atheist Nexus to post the entire transcript of his Atlanta speech. It is long, emotionally moving, and a must read. Check it out here.

Below is a documentary on Nate's Family entitled, "Fall From Grace." Play All Videos In Order (8)

Here is a recent news story featuring my former church:

Brother Richard

Nate's Website: Nate Phelps
My Personal Website: Life Without Faith

Discussion Forum

Video: "Coming Out" to your Evangelical Family

Started by Richard Haynes. Last reply by Joan Denoo Jun 2, 2013. 8 Replies

UU Church

Started by CD Free. Last reply by Dan Tabor Apr 24, 2013. 4 Replies

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Comment by Steph S. on October 9, 2011 at 9:24pm
Thanks for the recommendation Glen - I'll have to get that book.
Comment by Steph S. on October 9, 2011 at 10:24am
Welcome new members! How is everyone doing today?
Comment by Ramon Escamilla on August 21, 2011 at 12:16am
Hi guys,

New member here. I was raised in a hyperconservative Reform church, basically Calvinist. I'm sure my experiences are very similar to those of others here, but just for some context, here are some snippets from my religious education:

In Sunday school, I was taught:
-that gay men should be killed and lesbians "driven from the land";
-that it was okay to kill "abortion doctors" - we might go to jail, but we would be specially rewarded in heaven;
-that women were created only as "help-meets" to men and should not speak in church, preferably not work, never drive a car when their husband is also in the car, etc.

I had to sing at an anti-abortion rally when I was 12.

I was sent to an Institute for Creation Education weeklong workshop when I was about 10, where I was taught that scientists had calculated the date of creation to have been October 23, 4004 BC.

When my father left my mom for his lover (hidden on the side) of 12 years, our church blamed my mom for being "an unsubmissive wife," and EVERY member of the church shunned her. My father was allowed to remain a member.

My parents certainly would have disowned me if they'd known I'd broken with religion, so I never talked about it - but the major break happened in college, thanks in part to the demeaning treatment I received at the 'Asian Baptist Student Koinonia' in Berkeley, and early struggles with being gay.

I try not to be bitter, but residual guilt about being created wrong/badly/as an abomination and lingering fear of hell entirely consumed my life from ages 13 to 19. I did a number of things I regret (like alienating LGBT people I could have been friends with) on the basis of my religious brainwashing, and I want to get involved in non-theist activism to try to help younger people avoid similar nonsense.

Very glad to be here!
Comment by James Allison on July 5, 2011 at 10:46am

Hey, I have been involved in fundamentalism christianity on and off since the early seventies. I actually wanted to be a preacher at one point. But the deeper I looked in the faith, and the bible, the more cracks I discovered and the more questions were raised. The New Age caught my interest as well in the eighties, but even that had its problems. Whenever the idea of boxing in god comes into play, thru the formation of religions, something gets lost in the translation. We have two basic ways of discovery god: thru revelation, or thru direct contact. The Bible claims that both of these have happened, but is christianity really the best god has to offer us on this third planet from the sun? More and more people are looking to Buddhism, or even Islam as a better path.

Divine revelation can never be proved, and god still remains invisible and unreachable. The existence of this creative being is up for grabs and still debated by most. If god exists - it would be nice if he/she made an appearance every once in awhile. Otherwise, the debate is kind of pointless. God and Santa Clause may be celebrated by the masses, but we know Santa does not exist. Or does he?

Comment by Andrew Parrot on June 28, 2011 at 3:09pm
Hello.  I was raised in a catholic family.  My parents were not too bad, they just kind of kept up appearances, probably in fear of rejection from a zealot family.  We just did the church thing  when it was most expected: holidays, weddings, funerals etc.. I was indoctrinated, of course, baptism, reconciliation, communion, confirmation.  But again, I think it was just to keep up appearances.  My mother died when I was 10, my dad when I was 18.  I never spoke about faith with either of them. I never had any to begin with, my mother didn't seem to put much stake in it, and my father completely lost any he may have had after his wife of 20 years was "brought home to god".  My father's parents and siblings were/are die-hard, 10% to the church, novenas daily, your going to burn in hell wing-nuts.  My mother's, not so much, mainly non practicing, until something bad happens, then it's on.  I have recently been somewhat chastised by both sides of my family for some things: My wedding ceremony was in a courthouse(very nice, artistic rotunda, class all the way), I had the judge remove any religious speak from the proceedings. Also, I refuse to baptize my son.  I guess I am still in the closet, but I want out!  My wife probably doesn't have the stones to renounce the existence of a deity, she is a pussy I guess, but she has no faith either.  Christian fundamentalism really never had a hold over me, but it certainly holds down many of my family and friends.  I hope I can be a useful, resourceful member of this group given my "inside" knowledge of this nonsense known as religion.  Good luck to all!
Comment by Engl on June 21, 2011 at 10:58pm

Hello there!

I am a born again atheist but I am not totally out yet. So I am not experiencing the full effects of life after Christian Fundamentalism. But I'm sure once many of the people I know come to know that I am atheist, things are going to happen...

Comment by Daniel on June 5, 2011 at 8:59pm

Looks like a fun little book; I enjoy this type of humor, as it makes me feel like my time as a fundamentalist was not wasted; though I certainly wouldn't have choose it if I had the choice. "Satan" actually had a lot to do with my deconversion, since the first "domino" question that started the chain reaction of doubt was how it didn't make sense the kind of powers Satan was alleged to have and the kind of things that "he" actually did, and moreover, why would a perfectly created angel have traits like extreme pride, poor judgement skills, incredible sadism and sociopathy, and all of the other traits that he exhibits? Why did God create Satan if he knew that he would fuck up his creation and send people to the torture chamber he created and made the transit system to but didn't want anyone to go there?


I'm a bit busy now, but I might pick this book up once my life calms down a little.

Comment by Adelita D on June 5, 2011 at 5:54pm
I have to share a book my daughter found at the 1/2 price bookstore this weekend. She had started looking through it and used her own money to pick it up (she is 11)....we have been laughing hysterically and I thought it might be something you may enjoy if you can find it.  It is called "The Devil's Diary".  Funniest thing ever!
Comment by rounder421 on May 24, 2011 at 11:05pm
My user name is rounder421, i have some posted on my page here if you like.
Comment by Linda on May 24, 2011 at 9:27am

Welcome to the group ronder. Welcome to freedom of the mind. It's great.


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