I have a problem with trust issues -- due to bullying -- so thought this might help others.
by Stella Lin
Created on: March 03, 2007 Last Updated: April 29, 2007
Trust "implies instinctive unquestioning belief in and reliance upon something," according to Dictionary.com. The interesting word here is "unquestioning." How many times do we question in the back of our minds the reliability of someone's words, especially when this person makes a promise? Do we use that person's history as our personal "background check" to assess the reliability of his integrity? Or do we use our own backbone (or lack thereof) to judge whether this person will follow through? Would you consider yourself a self-reliant person who likes to be in control, or do you completely trust others to the point of delegating tasks to your subordinates without questioning their competence? How many times does a friend have to mess up before you eventually lose trust in him? If he lied once, would you give him a second chance, or would you deem him "once a liar, always a liar"?
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I do the same thing Richard. I question peoples motives and actions. I agree that I sometimes wonder if the person is just staying something they want you to hear so that they can manipulate you in some way or other.
I am very cautious too - so hard to have a friend this way. So the trust issues affect the relationships I have with others. My mind goes back to when I was betrayed before and I wonder if it's happening again to me. There is always that doubt -- it never goes away.