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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randall Smith 8 hours ago. 9 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

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Comment by Bertold Brautigan on January 6, 2015 at 4:45pm

Thanks Carl! I love the old 40s/50s jazz, especially sax, and I'd never known about Don Byas. Just started a Pandora station and it's great!

Comment by Patricia on January 6, 2015 at 4:02pm

Glad I helped in some small way Joan.

I did ok in school but never fit in with anyone. My good teachers were few, so I never graduated, & didn't particularly care about it one way or another.

I even had one teacher ask why I looked so grumpy & that upset me because daddio was always at me about my ''miserable face''.  I was told I should be like a neighbors daughter who was petite, pretty, lively, & perky!

I like to learn but I don't think the classroom setting worked for me.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 6, 2015 at 3:34pm

I didn't seem to have the angst in my high school years that some had. I loved learning, I had very fine teachers, and I made top grades. It was a place where I would not be hit and I would be acknowledged for doing a good job. 

My senior year was magical for me. A lot of successes occurred and doors opened. I wanted to go to college and my guidance counselors found some scholarships for me that made it possible to choose hairdressing (which I declined) and some other training that didn't appeal to me.  

I worked a year and continued to apply for scholarships. I finally got what I wanted ... a chance to go into horticulture at Washington State College,

I attended WSC for one and half years and then decided to marry Don, who was in dental school. Although it turned out to be a bad marriage for me, I have three beautiful children who make me very proud. There is no more violence in any of their lives! They learned how to be rational, and compassionate. I am proud of them, they discarded superstition, are moral, ethical, compassionate, and caring people. Isn't that just amazing!

I still hate hair and liked my bald head when my hair started falling out. I also liked the kids who wanted to touch my head-of-no-hair or reacted in some way. For those who were afraid of me, I was able to be a jester and make them laugh.

Comment by tom sarbeck on January 6, 2015 at 3:28pm

Enough of us have written of early unhappiness that I think it reasonable to consider its most likely cause: our being born to people who, like my parents, were for various reasons not up to the task.

It is, in my opinion, the only truth that Billy Graham told: the two most important tasks, citizenship and parenthood, require no training. That was in the late 1950s. I had just quit Catholicism and could hear him without committing a mortal--go immediately to Hell--sin.

Twenty years later I had moved to San Francisco and read in the newspaper that San Jose, a few miles south where a brother and his one-child family lived, was the first city in America to have a law that authorizes the City to remove children from violent parents and to require those parents to attend anger management classes.

More? Maybe in another discussion?

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 6, 2015 at 3:08pm

Patricia, your face in photos look lovely to me. I see no permanently miserable state. I see a bright woman with compassion and eager to help, especially eager to help me with my cancer treatments. 

You made a big difference in my life. 

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on January 6, 2015 at 3:07pm

HS graduation

Comment by Patricia on January 6, 2015 at 2:15pm

There seems to be a difference between teenage unhappy, & downright miserably so. I was that way as far back as age 5 or 6 that I can remember, but it never improved until I met my husband. I still look miserable when in relaxed state, (or pissed off) but now I think my face has that expression permanently embedded.

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 6, 2015 at 12:40pm

This is the only picture of the teenage me that I could find today.  It's at age 18, graduating from High School.

I don't look as happy as I remember being most of the time, because I didn't want to attend the graduation ceremony.  I was a little sick and never have liked pomp & ceremony, but my mother talked me into it.

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 6, 2015 at 11:35am

Comment by Plinius on January 6, 2015 at 6:20am

Make some coffee, Carl! I'll be there to listen to the Don Buass quartet!

 

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