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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz on Thursday. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

Richard Dawkins, Growing Up in the Universe

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 14. 2 Replies

Here is an oldie, the young Richard Dawkins teaching kids about the universe. I especially like the one demonstrating how the eye evolved. This should answer those who believe it was impossible to evolve an eye. Continue

Tags: universe, teaching, Dawkins, Richard

Seeing Things (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 25. 2 Replies

TheraminTrees doesn't release videos very often these days,  but when he does, they are positive GEMS.  Most recent of his works is the following, wherein he dismantles some of the common rebuttals atheist get from believers when we assert our…Continue

Tags: seeing things, YouTube, TheraminTrees

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Comment by Plinius on December 30, 2014 at 10:41am

Looks very good, Mindy! Good colours!

Comment by Plinius on December 30, 2014 at 6:45am

Joan, I'm some twenty years younger than you are. Even when I was young NO ONE talked about the justice of the status quo. No one pointed at abusive husbands, no one talked about rape within a marriage, sexism was unmentionable and all the battered women and children were said to be clumsy. Even to ask about those things was frowned upon. We still have bruises but we're so very lucky that society has changed - not everywhere, but most people have a new sense of justice. Laura came out well, and Brooklyn will have what we missed - I'm happy for her!

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 30, 2014 at 6:16am

Thanks for your kind words, Chris. Yes, I tell myself as you advise. 

My life feels triumphal because of overcoming some big challenges. My kids seem to be successful, and their families flourish by any measure. Both granddaughters stumbled around for a while; their lives seem more settled now. All of them have fun together even as they work together. I have no complaints.  I am just a whiner. 

Seeing my five-month-old great-grandaughter hit me very hard. Laura was her age when I came home from getting my hair cut and found her with bruises from head to foot. I wrapped her in a blanket and ran next door to my neighbor, a nurse. She took one look, and we headed for the ER. We entered the crowded and noisy place, my baby screaming and I was hysterical. The noises of the room quieted as the doctors and nurses examined her. All I can remember was the room, once noisy, now silent except for Laura's screams and my hysteria. The doctor took me to another office and filled me full of whatever it is they do with hysterical women. A chaplain came in; I screamed that I needed help because I couldn't stop my husband's brutality. He recognized me because I was active in the programs of the chapel and Sunday school

Doctors found no broken bones; they treated cuts and abrasions, gave her painkillers. Laura was six months old. 

I took her home. I didn't pack up the kids and leave! 

No one talked to Don about his behavior. No doctor or social worker or chaplain or psychiatrist. Col Smith held a position at Madigan Army Medical Center. An army colonel is an officer and a gentleman. 

Seeing beautiful little five-month-old Brooklyn reminded me of Laura, all those years ago. I didn't protect her. She was so little; I didn't protect her.  

Comment by Plinius on December 30, 2014 at 5:14am

In hindsight we're all wise, Joan! Don't feel guilty, you probably did the best you could think of with the info you had at that time. No reason to blame yourself!

Comment by Plinius on December 30, 2014 at 5:10am

I feel the same, Mindy - can't they thank the people who helped them?

I hope you get better soon, Carl, the flu is NOT what you need!

What I got for xmas is a visit from brother-in-law - let's forget it a.s.a.p! The stupid oaf did nothing but complain and talk about himself. I think he only misses us when we no longer do things for him. People like that drain my energy and give nothing in return. I keep on helping him - because my husband feels responsible for his brother.

Next week I'll be back in the classroom - YIPPEE!

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 30, 2014 at 5:07am

Randy, you asked about my health. I am fully recovered from all the cancer treatments and my life returns to normal. I sleep a lot, and don't have a lot of interest in doing anything bur reading or reading A/N mail. I feel incredibly content and happy to be alive. Thanks for asking. 

The week with my daughter was exhausting! I don't know how she does all that she accomplishes. She has her own business, takes a lot of time to be with her two daughters and their families, volunteers for the Fire District, and spends time with me. We have great fun together. My life goes very well. I'm still working on shaking the guilt of not getting out of a bad marriage and getting the kids out earlier .. but that is just wallowing in old stuff that does no one any good. I don't know what I am going to have to do to shake that guilt. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 30, 2014 at 2:41am

Carl, boy! it takes some creative imagination to find the "good" in this event. Flu, especially now, for you, has no positive aspect. Bummer! 

Comment by Patricia on December 30, 2014 at 2:31am

After cancer, I was told I had to have flu shots, & they've been after my husband for years to get it because of his heart disease. He finally got his first one this year.

Comment by sk8eycat on December 30, 2014 at 2:06am

One of the advantages of being a "loner."  I haven't had a flu shot in 10+ years, and haven't  had even a sniffle in all that time,either.

Well, my nose tends to drip when the weather gets below 50deg, but there's no infection.  (Just gross.)

I think that the older you get, and if you manage to stay relatively healthy, you immune system becomes more efficient.  Mom used to drag me to the doctor when I was in elementary school for a gamma globulin shot whenever there was a run of measles in the school (no vaccines then), so I was 20 years old and in Miami Beach when I broke out with roseola.  Cost me 6 days pay.  I've never had rubella measles.  Had chicken pox and mumps when I was 6 or 7....NOT fun.  And the chicken pox returned as shingles when I was 21 or 22.  Gaaaahhhhh!

But I have not had influenza or anything like that since I retired.

*knocks wood*

Comment by Patricia on December 30, 2014 at 12:51am

How lovely Carl!

We had ours done in October, & then heard afterwards that it wasn't going to be as effective as it should have been.

 

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