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Come on in, pull up a chair!

Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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Discussion Forum

Seeing Things (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner yesterday. 2 Replies

TheraminTrees doesn't release videos very often these days,  but when he does, they are positive GEMS.  Most recent of his works is the following, wherein he dismantles some of the common rebuttals atheist get from believers when we assert our…Continue

Tags: seeing things, YouTube, TheraminTrees

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 15. 4 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

You'll NEVER Guess Who Just Showed Up on Mr. Deity!!!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 14. 11 Replies

I don't believe this one either, but ... well, here it is: And would you believe - Mr. D made me laugh!  RD, that is!Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Mr. Deity

Seth Andrews' Rebuttal to "10 Women Christian Men Shouldn't Marry" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 6. 20 Replies

It seems as though some numb-nuts New York pastor by the name of Stephen Kim has written two marriage advice pieces for christian men and women.  Not surprisingly, his suggestions come straight out of his never-fail magic book.  Seth Andrews of The…Continue

Tags: advice, marriage, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, Stephen Kim

Seth Andrews' New Book, "Sacred Cows" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Patricia Feb 6. 7 Replies

For the last few podcasts, Seth Andrews has been alluding to a new literary effort he's been working on.  Well, the cat is out of the bag ... or perhaps I should say, the cow is out of the barn!  Seth's new opus is entitled: Sacred Cows: a…Continue

Tags: book, Sacred Cows, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Living in the Answers

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Patricia Jan 18. 13 Replies

I am weary of those who declare they understand all the answers to the creation of the universe and Earth. They claim they know the answers to the questions of life, meaning, death, and the afterlife. Those with all the answer speak with confidence,…Continue

Tags: confidence, education, government, family, afterlife

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Comment by Steph S. on August 18, 2012 at 11:24pm

Booklover - your cats are so beautiful!

I want to hug them all.

Comment by Steph S. on August 18, 2012 at 11:24pm

Hey Ruth congrats!

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 18, 2012 at 11:14pm

Ruth, congratulations on a well-run group. You inspire, instruct, advise, challenge and I respect you for all those qualities. This is a friendly and safe site.

Hanging with Friends

 

Comment by sk8eycat on August 18, 2012 at 10:28pm

Ruth: Dis iz a popular groop becuz we iz gud 2 eech uvver! (An we can be a liddle silly in heer wifout offending innywun.)

I wanted to show Joan the type of drinking fountain Hairy Jerry has (Pumpkin uses it, too, but he drinks out of the basin. Guess he's not so fussy about running water, or maybe he's afraid of it.)

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Jerry's fountain has a red basin...I thought he'd be more attracted to it because cats seem to see red better than any other color.  The water spout is adjustable so you can control how much it splashes.

There are hundreds of kitty fountains on the market, but this is the only one I felt was safe for older cats. Oh, and the tube that connects to the spout has charcoal granules in it to filter the water.  same kind of stuff that Brita pitchers use.  Since I use Brita pitchers for our drinking water (our tap water is hard as rocks!), the cats' water is double-filtered.

booklover, your kittehs are lovely.  I especially like the black kitteh.  They are my favorites after the ORNJ ones.  Pumpkin looks like an orange Abysinian, and Hairy Jerry is a biscuit and white Bugs Bunny cat.

I don't know how to Paste my own photographs in here, or I'd do it...

 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on August 18, 2012 at 9:59pm

Hey y'all! With 749 members, Hang With Friends is the 12th most popular group. Congrats us!

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 18, 2012 at 9:38pm

The Flying Atheist, what a wonderful grandfather you had. His kindness and positive attitude made a real difference in your life; your affection for him shines through. I like him telling of the kindness of dockworkers and office people; so often, people tell of only the crabby and arrogant ones. What was his name? A good solid Danish name, I suspect.  We need his compassionate nature now, more than ever. Raising a family during the Great Depression and WWII presented quite a challenge; he must have seen incredible changes in his lifetime.

Thanks for sharing.  

Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 18, 2012 at 9:10pm

That's a beautiful photo, Joan. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 18, 2012 at 9:06pm

Patricia, I just read your post about you not having a "caring" person in your life. While working at boys' ranches with delinquent boys placed by juvenile courts, I always saw to it that each boy had at least one "cookie" person. It could be a relative, friend, mail-person, ... anyone who showed an interest in an individual boy. Those boys that didn't have an interested adult had a harder time finding a healthy path through apositive role model.  

I hope you give yourself lots of positive parenting (for yourself). Now that you are all grown up, you need to fill in those "holes" that came from disinterest. 

Last year, my closest friend was 85 when she died. She spent many of her adult years nurturing herself because she felt unwelcome and unwanted by her parents, a real emptiness. The way she nurtured herself was to go to all the plays in town, and concerts, and art shows. She even volunteered in order to pay her way. Those experiences just made her glow. Here is a photo of her at her 80th birthday party. She loved hats!

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 18, 2012 at 8:50pm

Patricia, I am so glad you found a husband and family generous with hugs and I assume affirmations. 

What a dreadful thing to hear from teachers! I hope your parents confronted them! 

"teachers who wondered what was 'wrong' with me"

sk8eycat, What a life Jerry lives, a cat drinking fountain, no less! Love the photo. 

Dreadful news about children not surviving locked in hot cars. I agree, 

"Is there a Stupid Epidemic going around? (Rhetorical question...ofcourse there is!)"

Comment by sk8eycat on August 18, 2012 at 8:49pm

I'm so happy that the man who invented  this particular fountain lives in California (not too far from Sacramento...Sierra foothills), and is so conscietious about mailing orders out so quickly. Well, he's conscientious about everything...no lead or other toxic materials in any part of the fountain...that's why I blew more than $150 on it last year, after searching the net for almost a week.

Every other fountain on the market is either made in China, and/or contains plastc that gets scratches where mold can build up.  Even the stainless steel ones aren't safe.  This thing has a few plastic tubes, but you can buy any replacement parts at reasonable prices, and the big basin is ceramic, and made in the USA...with NO LEAD in the glaze.

Why did I buy such a complex fountain in the first place? Hairy Jerry will only drink running water, unless he's terribly desperate.  He kept asking me to turn on the bathroom faucet for him, and then got angry because he had to stand in the sink to drink, and got his little feeties wet.

He's about 14 years old, and the last thing I need right now is a cat with kidney problems.  Been there, done that more than once, and hated it.

Anyway, I kind of like the sound of trickling water in the kitchen.  Very soothing. (The little pump is absolutely silent.)

 

 

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