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Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo 3 hours ago. 20 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

Tags: Christmas, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller on Wednesday. 11 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Chris G Dec 15. 9 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat Nov 26. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

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Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 24. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 22. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Comment by Plinius on December 10, 2012 at 10:56am

Thank you, Melinda and Spud, what a nice compliment! =^.^=

The truth is, of course, that I edit my texts carefully before I push the Add Comment button.

The muslims are not much trouble at all - some of them are. The most conservative people - xtians, muslims - who try to live on an island and want to meet their own sort of people and no one else: they make trouble. (Perhaps you've heard of the infamous Dutch politician Geert Wilders, he's also a nasty troublemaker.) Their children are unable to cope with normal people and normal situations and often become criminals or drop outs.

In the community centre I work at I teach all sorts of people, and I've never met religious fanatics among them. Among muslims there are as many differences as among xtians, but only the fanatic nutcases show up in the news. Don't get influenced by the news too much: most people just want to be good neighbours, meet good neighbours and lead a quiet life.

Comment by Idaho Spud on December 10, 2012 at 10:01am

Chris, If I had the money, I would visit the Netherlands with the purpose of determining If I wanted to become a citizen.  The reason is because I've heard it's one of the most secular countries.  

I see that muslims are 5% of the population, and I'm curious how much trouble they cause.  I get the idea that they are trying to force the world to become muslim by any means.

Comment by Idaho Spud on December 10, 2012 at 9:46am

Chris, like booklover, I also forget English is not your first language.

Booklover, I love the baby cat reaching like what I presume is it's mother.

Steph, I love the oooooooooo cat.

Comment by booklover on December 10, 2012 at 9:21am

Actually Chris your English is so good that I forget it's not your first language!  Also the way I used the word girlfriend was sort-of slang I think.  I think being able to speak or write more than one language is wonderful!~ Melinda

Comment by booklover on December 10, 2012 at 8:30am

Comment by Plinius on December 10, 2012 at 8:29am

Hi Booklover, don't be sorry! Apart from wanting to meet kind people without imaginary friends, like yourself, I come here to improve my English - I imagine that it's a bit stiff and perhaps just out of touch. But I don't worry about it: I can use it well enough. Is anyone learning Dutch?

Comment by booklover on December 10, 2012 at 7:05am

Oh! lol, sorry Chris!  It just means what Carl said.  Like "Hey there friend", but only from a female friend to another female friend.  Carl is right, a guy would never say "Hey boyfriend!" to another guy just as a friend.

Steph, really cute lol cats!  Great poster Felaine!  Hope you got some sleep Carl.

Have a great week everyone~ Melinda

Comment by Plinius on December 10, 2012 at 5:18am

Thanks, Flying Atheist! It helps!

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 10, 2012 at 2:59am

Good morning, Chris.  I'm up late here suffering with a little bit of insomnia.  Regarding your question:  yes, it is true that the terms boyfriend and girlfriend are used in referencing a lover, as when two people are dating or are romantically involved. 

However, for females, the term 'girlfriend(s)' is also commonly used to describe acquaintances that are friends only and not lovers.  Example: "She spent a fun day out at the museum with her girlfriend(s)."  In this instance, the term 'girlfriend' is commonly used in both the singular and the plural forms in describing two female friends or even a group of female friends.   

For males, the term boyfriend is not commonly used in this manner, as your textbook states.  You generally do not hear a male say that he is meeting his boyfriends after work for dinner and a movie.  He is just meeting his friends, or his buddies, or his pals, etc.  (I guess it's kind of a macho/sexist "guy" thing.)  Of course, in the gay male community, the term 'girlfriend' is carelessly thrown about while speaking with, about, or describing other gay males.

I hope this helps explain our quirky language.

Comment by Plinius on December 10, 2012 at 2:12am

Question: I teach English to elderly people - nice to do, yes - but it's not as if I know so very much about English. One of the books I use says that ´boyfriend´ and ´girlfriend´ are strictly used for lovers, not for friends. So when I hear Booklover say girlfriend to Steph, I don't want to pry but I do want to know about your use of the language. Tell me more!

 

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