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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Soren Sagan 22 hours ago. 9 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Chris G on Tuesday. 9 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by sk8eycat Dec 12. 11 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

Tags: Christmas, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat Nov 26. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 24. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 22. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on December 8, 2012 at 5:05pm

Spud, I am interested in your experience with family. You wrote, "I don't find any enjoyment in visiting them or having them visit me because we don't have much in common anymore and it's like walking on eggshells."

I kind of enjoy eggshells; having that feeling keeps me on my toes and my major problem, I can't remember chapter and verse to respond back, such as Hitchens, Harris, or Dawkins do. I have to rely on tone and temper of the subject to make my point, and I usually use stories to clarify my meaning.

I never initiate a conversation about religion. I make it a real effort to respond with an atheist response to whatever comes up. For example, "where do I get my morals?" that is an easy one because I truly believe we, most of us, unless with some kind of brain abnormality, we have a moral compass that grows out of being in a community of people. If the group has a different morality than I, I can usually find an example to suit my challenge. A good example of this is the pro-choice/anti-choice issue. It is easy for me to support my position because of evidence from medicine, science, personal and social welfare, and stuff like that. 

One thing I work on is not accepting their frame; an example, I don't accept pro-life as a frame. People who support women's right to choose also stand in favor of life. It is whose life is at issue and a woman counts in this matter. 

I usually leave these encounters feeling good about myself and good about my positions and the evidence I use to support them. If something comes up that I cannot offer evidence for an atheist position, I know I have some homework to do. It never fails, if someone thinks he/she has stumped me, that will be the first thing to come up the next time we are together. 

If I have any fault, it is feeling more enlightened than those whom I believe are delusional and living in denial. I guess it is a feeling of superiority, however, it is like talking to someone who believes the Earth is flat, and I have encountered them. I feel educated and reasonable, even as I feel fully capable of changing my position on anything if given valid and reliable evidence to support a change.

The test, for me, is Popper's old imperative, is it falsifiable?
Can I prove there is no god? No.

Can a believer prove there is a god? No

So, we are back to comparing evidence against belief and faith.  

Their usual response to this is, "You are a person of little faith." 

My response, "Give me the evidence in support of your belief and I will change my mind in the time it takes to blink."

Obviously, scripture, remembered stories, myths, fables, 2nd hand accounts do not qualify as evidence. Especially the "Thank god my son/ daughter/whoever, survived the crash/operation/disease?" 

Nary a mention of emergency care, doctors, medicines, technologies, good care, accurate diagnosis, etc. and good support staff. 

 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 8, 2012 at 4:49pm

Back home today from working and catching up on five pages of back-posts.  Unfortunately I managed to catch a cold while gone.  Ugh!!  I hope it doesn't last very long.

Sk8eycat, are you in the photo of the Nutcracker skaters?

I've never been on facebook or myspace.  It all seems too much like an invasion of my privacy.  Funny, though.  I feel comfortable on this site sharing my views and a certain degree of personal info.  Go figure.  Everyone on Atheist/Nexus seems (for the most part) to be more mature, rational and sincere, especially all of you here in Hang With Friends. 

Comment by Plinius on December 8, 2012 at 2:07pm

I made my own cookbook - mostly clippings - of meals that match my diet and are cheap, easy and healthy. It works very well.

Comment by Idaho Spud on December 8, 2012 at 9:54am

Gravity cat made me laugh.

Comment by booklover on December 8, 2012 at 9:31am

Hope everyone is having a good weekend. Ours will be a quiet one.  Our daughter went to visit a friend at the friends University.  Our son has to work.  We will just read, watch some shows, etc.  I went shopping and I can't believe the price of groceries,etc. now!  I am such a bargain-shopper, and I had NO coupons this time, couldn't find many good deals at all!  And the price of beef was sky-high!  I'm going to search the internet for some low-cost meal ideas.  It's hard to find dishes that my whole family likes. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 8, 2012 at 12:05am

Napoleon, I remember that day all too well. Accuser, judge, jury, and executioner. Sound familiar? Are we seeing that in this country and in these conflict? Absolutely. 

Comment by Napoleon Bonaparte on December 7, 2012 at 10:15pm

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Comment by sk8eycat on December 7, 2012 at 7:49pm

*sigh* I meant to say "Nativity-Nut" cracking.  I'm really  having problems typing and proofing.

Oh, WTF.  Here's another good seasonal greeting:

A new version of one of my faves.

Comment by sk8eycat on December 7, 2012 at 6:02pm

I just noticed that a photo I tried to post yesterday didn't "work," so I'm trying again

Happy Nut-Cracking Holidays to ALL!

Comment by booklover on December 7, 2012 at 5:30pm

I just love your perspective Joan.  Thanks for sharing your thoughts and stories.  They always make me feel good. :)

Ruth, we have missed you too!  What you are working on is SO cool.  I would have no idea how to even start something like that.  I am amazed that I figured-out how to get an Atheist Nexus app. on my iPhone, and that was with help from Steph! lol.

My daughter left just now to go visit a friend for the weekend 2 1/2 hours away.  I hate that she's driving in the dark.  I made her take my car which is over a decade younger than her car, and much safer.  I will relax when she texts me that she is there safe and sound! :)

I hope everyone has a good weekend!  I just got back from visiting with 2 liberal, Atheist friends, so I feel 'up.' :)~ Melinda

 

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