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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Comment by sk8eycat on December 10, 2012 at 2:08pm

Steph: I forgot to tell you I yelled "AWWWW!" at the kittehs you posted.  How dull life would be without them.

Chris: I'm among the group who never would have known that English was not your native language if you hadn't told us.  (It's embarassing to me that so many native English-speakers who post on forums and comment on news sites can't spell, punctuate, or use correct grammar....unless they are using rude 4-letter words. They never have any problems spelling those.)

I wanted to add that some terms for friends are cultural...or started out that way.  "Bro" (for "brother") is used by males who want to indicate a close friend, but still appear "cool." 

Between women, "Girl-FRIEND!" is a joyful shout, with the "friend" part pitched a little higher than "girl."  Or just "girrrrrrl!"  Usually meaning agreement, or endearment. And "sister-girl" has sort of the same meaning of close friendship.  All these originated in the black communities, but I hear them elsewhere now.  I like the warmth that they imply, but you have to be careful who you say them to....you need know you've have been accepted as a very close friend.  Actually, somebody has to call you "Girl-FRIEND" or "Sister-girl" first.

"Bro" is usually only spoken between males.

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 10, 2012 at 1:57pm

Chris, I looked up Geert Wilders and read a bit about him. Your description of the people with whom you work I assume some are Muslim. You wrote, "most people just want to be good neighbours, meet good neighbours and lead a quiet life." has been my experience as well. Radical fundamentalism and proselytizing by any group creates distortions while living at peace as good neighbors doesn't get the press.  

The risks of standing against Islam's practices and principles can be deadly; The murder of Theo van Gogh and threats to Ayaan Hirsi Ali because of their film criticizing treatment of women in Islam, and Salman Rushdie's Satic Verses, for example. 

I wonder if it is possible to gather together Atheists, Christians, Jews, and Palestinians, Hindus, Buddhists, Humanists, etc. in an attempt to find common ground, identify our differences, and figure out if we can live together in peace and justice? 

 

 

 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 10, 2012 at 12:38pm

Speaking of the Dutch, I just stumbled upon this news article:

Dutchman launches life-sized replica of Noah's Ark

Associated Press

 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 10, 2012 at 12:15pm

Ian, welcome back.  I'm glad you were finally able to get to England to see your mother and to take care of some family obligations.  I know it must be a terrible strain to have such a distance between you and another family member when they need you. 

You're right.  You will find much to smile at back here with us.  Cheers!  --Carl

Comment by Ian Mason on December 10, 2012 at 12:02pm

Back in Denmark after a trip to England, visiting my mother in hospital. It turns out that she had 2 infections when admitted, urinary tract and chest. The UT infection was causing some dementia-like symptoms/depression but now that's gone and there's still something not quite right. Scans have shown "changes indicative of early dementia". In conversations, she seems more alert than she has in a long while but then starts saying something that makes no sense or perhaps belongs in another conversation. I think it really could be dementia, based on my years of working with the elderly. Then again, before this I thought her problem was depression, as did her doctor, although to be fair those two things can overlap. So not a jolly visit, all in all. Will have to go back again soon as my brother and I will have to start making some arrangements for the future.

Will now try to catch up on the last few days here. I'm sure there's a few things that will put a smile on my face.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 10, 2012 at 11:14am

Chris, your English is so good, it never crosses my mind to think that it's not your first language.  I took one year of German in high school, but that was over 30 years ago and I've pretty much forgotten it all.  I don't know any Dutch, but I did visit the Netherlands in 1998 when the Gay Games where taking place.  I was in Amsterdam and just loved it.  A beautiful city filled with the most friendly and kind people.  I stayed with an elderly couple at their Bed and Breakfast on the outskirts of Amsterdam in the town of Zaandam.  It's one of those travel experiences that I will never forget.  Especially visiting the Anne Frank house.  The first thing I did when I returned home was read her diary.  It brought tears to my eyes after visiting the attic where she lived and wrote it. 

Anyway, I'm glad I was able to help you out, Girlfriend.  :)

Comment by Plinius on December 10, 2012 at 10:56am

Thank you, Melinda and Spud, what a nice compliment! =^.^=

The truth is, of course, that I edit my texts carefully before I push the Add Comment button.

The muslims are not much trouble at all - some of them are. The most conservative people - xtians, muslims - who try to live on an island and want to meet their own sort of people and no one else: they make trouble. (Perhaps you've heard of the infamous Dutch politician Geert Wilders, he's also a nasty troublemaker.) Their children are unable to cope with normal people and normal situations and often become criminals or drop outs.

In the community centre I work at I teach all sorts of people, and I've never met religious fanatics among them. Among muslims there are as many differences as among xtians, but only the fanatic nutcases show up in the news. Don't get influenced by the news too much: most people just want to be good neighbours, meet good neighbours and lead a quiet life.

Comment by Idaho Spud on December 10, 2012 at 10:01am

Chris, If I had the money, I would visit the Netherlands with the purpose of determining If I wanted to become a citizen.  The reason is because I've heard it's one of the most secular countries.  

I see that muslims are 5% of the population, and I'm curious how much trouble they cause.  I get the idea that they are trying to force the world to become muslim by any means.

Comment by Idaho Spud on December 10, 2012 at 9:46am

Chris, like booklover, I also forget English is not your first language.

Booklover, I love the baby cat reaching like what I presume is it's mother.

Steph, I love the oooooooooo cat.

Comment by booklover on December 10, 2012 at 9:21am

Actually Chris your English is so good that I forget it's not your first language!  Also the way I used the word girlfriend was sort-of slang I think.  I think being able to speak or write more than one language is wonderful!~ Melinda

 

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