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Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Soren Sagan on Wednesday. 9 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Chris G on Tuesday. 9 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by sk8eycat Dec 12. 11 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

Tags: Christmas, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat Nov 26. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 24. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 22. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

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Comment by Joan Denoo on February 7, 2013 at 3:11pm
So much "old" pain that does not erase easily in our adult years. I wonder if those wounds ever heal? Mine seem to hang on like an octopus. I can usually keep a damper on them until I see a cartoon involving violence and my inner rage explodes like Mt. St. Helens.
Comment by Lillie on February 7, 2013 at 2:35pm

The kitty with a view might also be saying, "Wonder if there is a fish out there."

Comment by sk8eycat on February 7, 2013 at 2:16pm

Patricia & Melinda, I haven't commented on your recent posts about your parents/grandparents because I'm so gob-smacked I don't know what to say.  Even when my father was in the depths of alcoholism, and I had thoughts of either killing him or myself, neither parent treated me like an invisible servant/slave.  I can't even imagine what you went through...what Patricia is still going through.

Maybe nasty parents were the reason whoever wrote Exodus inserted the demand that we "honor" our parents...because otherwise some of us would have good reason to abandon them the way they abandoned us.  (Why are there no commandments about loving your children, and treating them like human beings instead of property? Or if you are incapable of loving children, DON'T EFFING HAVE ANY!!!) 

One of the many reasons I knew I should not have children is/was that I've always been self-centered (maybe I have a touch of Asperger's like my sister), and when I understood about dad's drinking I was terrified of finding myself legally bound to another alcoholic the way mother was.  So I didn't allow myself to love anyone...except my cats.  And later, when I got into part-time pet-sitting, I loved a lot of dogs, too.  BIG ones that I could get my arms around.

Anyroad, I'm getting ready to go spend next week with Debonair Duncan...doing laundry and trying to decide what to pack.  Such fun. I'll be around till some time Monday, and then I'll be off the net for the rest of next week.

In the meantime, I'm still trying to wrap my mind around Patricia's mother's behavior...I've never met anyone like that.  Quite. 

(One of the girls I roomed with when I was on the road came from an upper-middle class Southern family, but her mother carried on as if they were one step from bankruptcy.  So my roomie was told that if she wanted to take skating lessons and buy skates, she had to get a job.  At age 10.  The only people who would hire kids that young were small-time farmers...the ones "god" created, according to Paul Harvey...field labor....picking strawberries, and other close-to-the ground fruit & veg.  She still grinds her teeth when she sees a strawberry, and we're both 73 now.)

Felaine [shaking her head in amazement]

Comment by booklover on February 7, 2013 at 8:23am

Now that's a great dad Tony!  I am stealing the cat/butterflies pic!~ Melinda

Comment by Tony Carroll on February 7, 2013 at 4:48am

Basking in butterflies.

Comment by Plinius on February 7, 2013 at 2:04am

I love that one Tony, thanks!

Comment by Tony Carroll on February 7, 2013 at 12:16am

True super-hero and his side-kick.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on February 6, 2013 at 11:54pm

Thanks for sharing about your mother, Patricia.

I'm happy that you were comfortable sharing with us, Patricia. That's the kind of support I hoped we'd achieve when I started the group.

I was supremely lucky to have great parents, hardly any dysfunction when I lived at home. Later, after I'd left for college, Mom started comparing my younger sister unfavorably to me. That was the most dysfunctional behavior pattern I noticed. I tried to tell her that made me uncomfortable and wasn't fair to my sister, but she didn't seem to "hear". Overall, I was pretty lucky.

And thanks all for the great pictures and the puppy treadmill video. It's been great catching up after being too busy for a couple of days.

Comment by Ian Mason on February 6, 2013 at 1:22pm

I think I'm going to smile for the next few hours. Thanks for the cheerful pics all of you :-)

Comment by Tony Carroll on February 6, 2013 at 9:06am

Umbrella street in Aquenda, Portugal. Thought it was pretty and whimsical. Made me smile.

 

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