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Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat 10 hours ago. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Patricia 14 hours ago. 4 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat on Tuesday. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on Sunday. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller on Friday. 5 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Attacks in Canada Oct. 22nd/14

Started by Patricia. Last reply by The Flying Atheist Nov 20. 4 Replies

This was devastating for us........…Continue

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Comment by booklover on September 21, 2014 at 2:58pm
LOL, Ian! I'm sure none of us here made the cut!
Comment by Ian Mason on September 21, 2014 at 2:26pm

Comment by Ian Mason on September 21, 2014 at 2:25pm

Joan/Felaine: having worked in elderly care for 18 years, I've met quite a few people who "enjoy" their illnesses. It means that they're no longer responsible for anything. I myself used the same tactic when I was active as an alcoholic - "I suffer from depression,therefore no-one can expect me to stop drinking".

A pictorial version, by Schutz:

Comment by sk8eycat on September 21, 2014 at 4:49am

Joan, my mother was born in 1905...the middle of 8 children...5 boys and 3 girls.  (Two of them died before age 18...scarlet fever)

  She quit school after the 8th grade to help feed the family. but she never stopped learning...married an MBA from USC (I think he became a closeted atheist somewhere along the line)....was an avid reader. was as thrilled as I was by the Apollo moon landings....but she was also something of an Oklahoma fundie...but stopped dragging me to Sunday School when I complained about not having a "day off" when I was about 10 or 11.

In her later years she went back to reading the buybull, and listened to Gene Scott on a tiny radio (with earphones.)  I don't know if she was more perturbed by my atheism (I made no secret of it) or my sister's JW obsessions.  She specifically said "NO funeral" when it became obvious that her body was failing...

We had no service for Dad, either.  (Pissed off his sister, who married "the son of a preacher-man.") And I paid off my membership with the Neptune Society years ago.

And that's the troooooooththththth,

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 21, 2014 at 3:40am

k.h. ky, when I was a member of the Presbyterian church, we had sessions after sermons when the pastor would meet with anyone who wanted to discuss his sermon. When I would bring up the use of man, I interpreted that as excluding women. The pastor vehemently claimed that man meant men and women. I would respond with something like, "If you mean men and women, then say men and women". He was a stubborn man, with absolute belief in scripture and dogma, and out of stubbornness, I suppose, or maybe out of principle, he never included women when he said man, meaning man and woman. 

The old fart! During one of his sermons, I got up and walked back. The bell had rung for me, I knew I did not belong there. The siren sounded in my head, and I had no other choice, but to leave ... for good. I had some doubts at first, I expected a bolt of lightning to hit my chair, but no such thing ever happened and I am content with my decision. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 21, 2014 at 3:27am

People respond so differently to having cancer or any life threatening disease. Felaine, your mother clearly was a troubled woman and caught in cycles of helplessness and hopelessness. At least with cancer, she could exploit the disease. Your description of her sounds so familiar. People learn how to think of themselves very young and I am wondering about the quality of parenting she had. People growing up at the time she was had very little access to mental health care and if she was born into a dysfunctional family, she probably didn't have any way to see beyond the traditional. 

The good news is, you live in an enlightened age and know how to access resources in order to change the patterns that pass from generation to generation, just as genes pass along. Behavior is different, it is a learned behavior and learned behaviors can be replaced with healthy functioning. 

I am so sorry your sister has Asperger's disease. I know you learned all you could about it, and that is about all you can do. She is a reality in your life. She must create a lot of stress for you. You manage so well, you deserve a lot of credit for your care of her. You are one of the unsung heroes that provides care without complaint, and understands her condition. That is about all you can do. 

Comment by Plinius on September 21, 2014 at 1:51am

There was no one like Orwell to help you see patterns.

Comment by Ian Mason on September 21, 2014 at 1:09am

So, anyone who criticises the Catholic church is a right-wing fanatic. Odd how we others didn't realise that.

Hitchens has been aknowledged, even by those who oppose him, as one of the best users of the English language in writing and debate. He said himself that his biggest influence was Orwell, another champion of clear and simple statement.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 20, 2014 at 1:03pm

Thank goodness we have books written by Christopher Hitchens and so much audio/visual material of him as well.  His words are timeless even though he is no longer here. 

Comment by k.h. ky on September 20, 2014 at 12:54pm
Joan, isn't it ironic, and self serving, that the term 'man' is taken so literally in that book?
 

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