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Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

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Granddaughters

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I've got three grandsons and I love them to death, but my youngest son and his wife had a baby girl in January and I haven't  right since. Granddaughter has me wrapped up like my grandsons never did. What is it about granddaughters? Her name is…Continue

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Comment by Ian Mason on February 6, 2013 at 3:17am

Patricia, martyrdom is such a cruel, manipulative defence. Glad to hear that you're not buying it. Stick with the people who really care.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 6, 2013 at 3:06am
Comment by Joan Denoo on February 6, 2013 at 2:03am
Patricia, you are a wiser woman than I and I appreciate your journey. thankfully, you had a good husband and in-laws, friends and neighbors. It appears you have your feelings and needs met now. Good for you!
Comment by Joan Denoo on February 6, 2013 at 1:05am

Chris, I agree with your assessment. Especially, "Take comfort in honest things and honest people."

Comment by Plinius on February 6, 2013 at 12:57am

You're right Patricia, not to start a fight again and not to force yourself into something you aren't. Some things just cannot be patched. Take comfort in honest things and honest people.

My father sent me an invitation a short time before he died, for a happy family-show, to cover up that he had broken the family. I threw it away.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 6, 2013 at 12:02am
Patricia, Happy belated birthday greetings ... I just now am opening my mail.
Your wounds run so deeply, and have such a long history, I can understand being confused by your mother's card and request for forgiveness. That is a lot to ask for. She undoubtedly is feeling her mortality, and her neglect of you as a loving, caring mother. When you needed her love and support and not have it hurts. I wish you could tell her how you feel especially when you needed her during cancer recovery. That won't change anything, but at least you will have had the chance to say, honestly, what you needed and missed from her. She might not be able to hear your words or recognize your feelings, but to be able to speak your truth, not to hurt her, but to let her know your thoughts may be healing for both of you. That is a judgment call you can make and either way makes sense to me.
There is much care, compassion, and just plain loveliness here on this site; this is a good place to renew and refresh.
Comment by Lillie on February 5, 2013 at 10:27pm

My mother is deceased which is a great relief to me as Melinda said about her grandmother.  However, I have been able to have some compassion for her now because I have had so many valuable opportunities to heal and move forward which she never had.  I like the idea that we can choose our families now and not stay stuck in harmful situations.  I have an older female friend who is like a mother figure to me.  She is so positive and loving that I feel only uplifted when in her presence.

Comment by Ian Mason on February 5, 2013 at 2:16pm

Happy birthday Patricia.

It does seem a bit late, the apology and the contact. Intimations of mortality? What you do is up to you,of course.

My brother and me resumed contact with our mother after a hiatus of 20 years, hoping for some explanations of what happened leading up to/around the divorce from our father. That didn't happen but we've stayed in touch out of a sense of duty. It hasn't been easy but we've felt compelled to "do the decent thing". If that's right or wrong I couldn't say.

Your view that there can only be an aquaintanceship between you sounds sensible. Distant and polite/amiable could be the best solution. Just mull things over and find out what is best for you.

Comment by booklover on February 5, 2013 at 1:33pm

Happy Belated Birthday Patricia!  All I can say is to do what feels right to you.  You have no obligation to let her off the hook if you don't want to.  My Grandma was horrible to my Mother her whole life.  My Mom felt nothing when she died.  It was actually a relief to all of us.  What a legacy to leave.  If you decide you don't want anything to do with her, that does not make you a jerk! It's all up to you!  We're here to listen if you need to talk more about it!~ Melinda

Comment by booklover on February 5, 2013 at 9:25am

 

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