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Comment by Patricia on February 7, 2013 at 3:49pm

Emotional damage doesn't ''heal'' despite help over the years, so I try to keep it behind me & live for today. It just keeps refreshing itself every time something happens with mother of the year, or I see something. I was doing fine so really didn't need an apology now after all this time as nothing will change anything anyway. That's why I just thanked her for it & made no mention of forgiveness. I have plenty of anger which was been expressed several times years ago & it did nothing but make a mess of ME, so it had to stop. I no longer let it run my life. They got married June 7th 1946, I was born over-due January 29th 1947, so it's not hard to figure things were a mistake from day one. She was devout moron, & father of the year wasn't, so there ya go.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 7, 2013 at 3:11pm
So much "old" pain that does not erase easily in our adult years. I wonder if those wounds ever heal? Mine seem to hang on like an octopus. I can usually keep a damper on them until I see a cartoon involving violence and my inner rage explodes like Mt. St. Helens.
Comment by Lillie on February 7, 2013 at 2:35pm

The kitty with a view might also be saying, "Wonder if there is a fish out there."

Comment by sk8eycat on February 7, 2013 at 2:16pm

Patricia & Melinda, I haven't commented on your recent posts about your parents/grandparents because I'm so gob-smacked I don't know what to say.  Even when my father was in the depths of alcoholism, and I had thoughts of either killing him or myself, neither parent treated me like an invisible servant/slave.  I can't even imagine what you went through...what Patricia is still going through.

Maybe nasty parents were the reason whoever wrote Exodus inserted the demand that we "honor" our parents...because otherwise some of us would have good reason to abandon them the way they abandoned us.  (Why are there no commandments about loving your children, and treating them like human beings instead of property? Or if you are incapable of loving children, DON'T EFFING HAVE ANY!!!) 

One of the many reasons I knew I should not have children is/was that I've always been self-centered (maybe I have a touch of Asperger's like my sister), and when I understood about dad's drinking I was terrified of finding myself legally bound to another alcoholic the way mother was.  So I didn't allow myself to love anyone...except my cats.  And later, when I got into part-time pet-sitting, I loved a lot of dogs, too.  BIG ones that I could get my arms around.

Anyroad, I'm getting ready to go spend next week with Debonair Duncan...doing laundry and trying to decide what to pack.  Such fun. I'll be around till some time Monday, and then I'll be off the net for the rest of next week.

In the meantime, I'm still trying to wrap my mind around Patricia's mother's behavior...I've never met anyone like that.  Quite. 

(One of the girls I roomed with when I was on the road came from an upper-middle class Southern family, but her mother carried on as if they were one step from bankruptcy.  So my roomie was told that if she wanted to take skating lessons and buy skates, she had to get a job.  At age 10.  The only people who would hire kids that young were small-time farmers...the ones "god" created, according to Paul Harvey...field labor....picking strawberries, and other close-to-the ground fruit & veg.  She still grinds her teeth when she sees a strawberry, and we're both 73 now.)

Felaine [shaking her head in amazement]

Comment by Patricia on February 7, 2013 at 1:21pm

Thanks Ruth. I was her only kid & after 9 miscarriages following the successful pregnancy with me, you'd think she'd have spent more time making me her ''cherished daughter''. They adopted my brother when I was 8, & promptly saddled me with him for almost all waking days, except when I was in school. I also had to be the ''housewife'' with the usual housework, making supper, dishes, handwashing diapers etc. I was 8/9 & on!!!!! Other than that I was mostly ignored unless I did something ''wrong'', & I was usually too cowardly to do much of anything rebellious. Oh well........ 

Comment by booklover on February 7, 2013 at 8:23am

Now that's a great dad Tony!  I am stealing the cat/butterflies pic!~ Melinda

Comment by Tony Carroll on February 7, 2013 at 4:48am

Basking in butterflies.

Comment by Plinius on February 7, 2013 at 2:04am

I love that one Tony, thanks!

Comment by Tony Carroll on February 7, 2013 at 12:16am

True super-hero and his side-kick.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on February 6, 2013 at 11:54pm

Thanks for sharing about your mother, Patricia.

I'm happy that you were comfortable sharing with us, Patricia. That's the kind of support I hoped we'd achieve when I started the group.

I was supremely lucky to have great parents, hardly any dysfunction when I lived at home. Later, after I'd left for college, Mom started comparing my younger sister unfavorably to me. That was the most dysfunctional behavior pattern I noticed. I tried to tell her that made me uncomfortable and wasn't fair to my sister, but she didn't seem to "hear". Overall, I was pretty lucky.

And thanks all for the great pictures and the puppy treadmill video. It's been great catching up after being too busy for a couple of days.

 

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