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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

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I took a brief hiatus from here, and decided to come back. I've missed you guys, and hope you are all doing well. Hard to believe that fall is around the cornerThere's not much of a fall where I live. Having said that, I love Halloween. I don't…Continue

Local Color in the Neighborhood

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I put my trust in my cancer fighting teams

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Oct 6. 16 Replies

So, something made you ill,then God waited until many people petitioned him,then made you well again.Something makes people around the world illthen no amount of people petitioning Godmakes them well again.Cancer made me ill,I want no one to…Continue

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Comment by Plinius on February 6, 2013 at 12:57am

You're right Patricia, not to start a fight again and not to force yourself into something you aren't. Some things just cannot be patched. Take comfort in honest things and honest people.

My father sent me an invitation a short time before he died, for a happy family-show, to cover up that he had broken the family. I threw it away.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 6, 2013 at 12:02am
Patricia, Happy belated birthday greetings ... I just now am opening my mail.
Your wounds run so deeply, and have such a long history, I can understand being confused by your mother's card and request for forgiveness. That is a lot to ask for. She undoubtedly is feeling her mortality, and her neglect of you as a loving, caring mother. When you needed her love and support and not have it hurts. I wish you could tell her how you feel especially when you needed her during cancer recovery. That won't change anything, but at least you will have had the chance to say, honestly, what you needed and missed from her. She might not be able to hear your words or recognize your feelings, but to be able to speak your truth, not to hurt her, but to let her know your thoughts may be healing for both of you. That is a judgment call you can make and either way makes sense to me.
There is much care, compassion, and just plain loveliness here on this site; this is a good place to renew and refresh.
Comment by Lillie on February 5, 2013 at 10:27pm

My mother is deceased which is a great relief to me as Melinda said about her grandmother.  However, I have been able to have some compassion for her now because I have had so many valuable opportunities to heal and move forward which she never had.  I like the idea that we can choose our families now and not stay stuck in harmful situations.  I have an older female friend who is like a mother figure to me.  She is so positive and loving that I feel only uplifted when in her presence.

Comment by Ian Mason on February 5, 2013 at 2:16pm

Happy birthday Patricia.

It does seem a bit late, the apology and the contact. Intimations of mortality? What you do is up to you,of course.

My brother and me resumed contact with our mother after a hiatus of 20 years, hoping for some explanations of what happened leading up to/around the divorce from our father. That didn't happen but we've stayed in touch out of a sense of duty. It hasn't been easy but we've felt compelled to "do the decent thing". If that's right or wrong I couldn't say.

Your view that there can only be an aquaintanceship between you sounds sensible. Distant and polite/amiable could be the best solution. Just mull things over and find out what is best for you.

Comment by booklover on February 5, 2013 at 1:33pm

Happy Belated Birthday Patricia!  All I can say is to do what feels right to you.  You have no obligation to let her off the hook if you don't want to.  My Grandma was horrible to my Mother her whole life.  My Mom felt nothing when she died.  It was actually a relief to all of us.  What a legacy to leave.  If you decide you don't want anything to do with her, that does not make you a jerk! It's all up to you!  We're here to listen if you need to talk more about it!~ Melinda

Comment by booklover on February 5, 2013 at 9:25am

Comment by booklover on February 5, 2013 at 9:24am

That is great Ian!  Have a fun time! :)

Comment by Ian Mason on February 5, 2013 at 12:32am

Thanks, Joan. I'm sure she's turned out pretty much all right - despite being a conservative in economic politics - and will make good choices in life. We're going out to lunch and to see "Tosca" on Saturday and I'm looking forward to that.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 4, 2013 at 11:43pm
Ian Mason, this is a good place to vent and release tension that builds up with all challenges one faces in life; and you have been challenged.
Learning of your daughter's conversations with you is a very good sign of her growing up. All the developmental phases present stress, but that going from "silent-adolescent" to sharing adult takes time and patience. She showed good judgment not staying with a drinking-sports-obsessed fellow. Finding a new friend at work gives hope he is steady. Having an English dad may create some opportunity for conversations. I know what you mean about our children finding ones that are "good enough." I guess the only thing a good parent can do is remain steady, especially when their lives get a little choppy. Being a good solid anchor for her to be able to trust and rely on frees you up to work at that ... we can't change others who may be unsteady; we can be a solid rock and everyone benefits.
Comment by sk8eycat on February 4, 2013 at 4:27pm

Tony, I am SO out of it that it's taken me this long to finally get the joke..."and I was like OMG!"  I effing LOVE it!  Thank you for the delayed LOL.

Everybody...think we should ALL sing "Here Comes the Sun" as a Solstice carol? 

Pass it along, maybe we can start something.

 

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