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Hang With Friends

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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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Discussion Forum

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller 53 minutes ago. 2 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo on Tuesday. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

Richard Dawkins, Growing Up in the Universe

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 14. 2 Replies

Here is an oldie, the young Richard Dawkins teaching kids about the universe. I especially like the one demonstrating how the eye evolved. This should answer those who believe it was impossible to evolve an eye. Continue

Tags: universe, teaching, Dawkins, Richard

Seeing Things (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 25. 2 Replies

TheraminTrees doesn't release videos very often these days,  but when he does, they are positive GEMS.  Most recent of his works is the following, wherein he dismantles some of the common rebuttals atheist get from believers when we assert our…Continue

Tags: seeing things, YouTube, TheraminTrees

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 15. 4 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

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Comment by Plinius on February 8, 2013 at 2:13am

Yes Joan, and I'm nauseated everytime people make a show of their being ´loving parents of súch a nice family´- brrrr!

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 7, 2013 at 5:31pm

Eva Cassidy - Fields of Gold

Her voice is like gentle breezes in fields of gold.  

Comment by Idaho Spud on February 7, 2013 at 3:52pm

Joan, I think I can partially understand where you and others are coming from.  Even though I've had a relatively easy life, I still don't find humor in violence, or mistreating others.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 7, 2013 at 3:11pm
So much "old" pain that does not erase easily in our adult years. I wonder if those wounds ever heal? Mine seem to hang on like an octopus. I can usually keep a damper on them until I see a cartoon involving violence and my inner rage explodes like Mt. St. Helens.
Comment by Lillie on February 7, 2013 at 2:35pm

The kitty with a view might also be saying, "Wonder if there is a fish out there."

Comment by sk8eycat on February 7, 2013 at 2:16pm

Patricia & Melinda, I haven't commented on your recent posts about your parents/grandparents because I'm so gob-smacked I don't know what to say.  Even when my father was in the depths of alcoholism, and I had thoughts of either killing him or myself, neither parent treated me like an invisible servant/slave.  I can't even imagine what you went through...what Patricia is still going through.

Maybe nasty parents were the reason whoever wrote Exodus inserted the demand that we "honor" our parents...because otherwise some of us would have good reason to abandon them the way they abandoned us.  (Why are there no commandments about loving your children, and treating them like human beings instead of property? Or if you are incapable of loving children, DON'T EFFING HAVE ANY!!!) 

One of the many reasons I knew I should not have children is/was that I've always been self-centered (maybe I have a touch of Asperger's like my sister), and when I understood about dad's drinking I was terrified of finding myself legally bound to another alcoholic the way mother was.  So I didn't allow myself to love anyone...except my cats.  And later, when I got into part-time pet-sitting, I loved a lot of dogs, too.  BIG ones that I could get my arms around.

Anyroad, I'm getting ready to go spend next week with Debonair Duncan...doing laundry and trying to decide what to pack.  Such fun. I'll be around till some time Monday, and then I'll be off the net for the rest of next week.

In the meantime, I'm still trying to wrap my mind around Patricia's mother's behavior...I've never met anyone like that.  Quite. 

(One of the girls I roomed with when I was on the road came from an upper-middle class Southern family, but her mother carried on as if they were one step from bankruptcy.  So my roomie was told that if she wanted to take skating lessons and buy skates, she had to get a job.  At age 10.  The only people who would hire kids that young were small-time farmers...the ones "god" created, according to Paul Harvey...field labor....picking strawberries, and other close-to-the ground fruit & veg.  She still grinds her teeth when she sees a strawberry, and we're both 73 now.)

Felaine [shaking her head in amazement]

Comment by Tony Carroll on February 7, 2013 at 4:48am

Basking in butterflies.

Comment by Plinius on February 7, 2013 at 2:04am

I love that one Tony, thanks!

Comment by Tony Carroll on February 7, 2013 at 12:16am

True super-hero and his side-kick.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on February 6, 2013 at 11:54pm

Thanks for sharing about your mother, Patricia.

I'm happy that you were comfortable sharing with us, Patricia. That's the kind of support I hoped we'd achieve when I started the group.

I was supremely lucky to have great parents, hardly any dysfunction when I lived at home. Later, after I'd left for college, Mom started comparing my younger sister unfavorably to me. That was the most dysfunctional behavior pattern I noticed. I tried to tell her that made me uncomfortable and wasn't fair to my sister, but she didn't seem to "hear". Overall, I was pretty lucky.

And thanks all for the great pictures and the puppy treadmill video. It's been great catching up after being too busy for a couple of days.

 

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