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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randall Smith yesterday. 9 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

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Comment by Steph S. on April 28, 2013 at 8:11pm

Comment by sk8eycat on April 28, 2013 at 7:05pm

Steph, I love the photo & caption.

I used to get that behavior when I would go cat-or-dog-sitting.  Especially from Mr. T. Devil; he would greet me at the door and then totally ignore me for 2 or 3 days.  That was when both my parents wre still alive and well but aging rapidly, and my sister is always here, so he was never left totally alone.  He was Dad's buddy, anyway; they used to sit in the recliner together and watch the news.  (Dad was a news junkie.)
 
I don't know why, but I mentioned it in a letter to Ginny Heinlein (Felaine! Name-dropping!  BAAAAD!) when we were exchanging examples of cat behavior, and she said he probably smelled the other animals on me, my clothes, my luggage.  So I tried washing everything and taking a shower as soon as I could after I got home.  Helped a little.  (At least The Devil never learned how to mark things the way intact tomcats do. *whew!*)
 
Melinda, I have dumped "friends" who annoyed me far less than Ms. "Tolerant/Intolerant" annoys you.  Her remarks about Catholocism sound like a much more complex (and boring) version of "Some of my best friends are (Jewish, black, Latino, gay, etc.)"   And you know damn well the only "friend" in one of those categories is maybe the woman who cleans her house once a week, or the guy who parks her car...  Do you ever wonder if Ms. Tolerance tells other people that "One of my best friends is an atheist"? 
I learned a long time ago that one way to find out who your real friends are is to tell them you're an atheist.  I once announced it to an entire office because everything (it seemed) in the garment district where we worked was closed on Good Friday/Passover. I saw one dropped jaw, and heard the 3 young men in my dept. laughing their butts off.  I loved them for that.
 
About my friend who gets annoyed whenever I say something about the incestuous relationship between our government and radical xians...maybe she finds that subject boring??????????  Or maybe she finds ME boring?  OMNerves!  I hope not!  She really is a good friend in all other ways.
 
Comment by Lillie on April 28, 2013 at 2:34pm

It is so funny the way our pets let us know it is not OK to leave them.  They may not speak our language but they can certainly let us know how they are feeling by their actions.  We are going on a short trip next week and I know we will get the temporary cold shoulder when we return.  Of course, a neighbor will keep them fed with a friendly pat on the head but apparently that is not the same.

Comment by Steph S. on April 28, 2013 at 2:06pm

Comment by Plinius on April 28, 2013 at 1:48pm

Thanks Flying Atheist, and a good weekend to all of you. I could even work in my veg roof garden today, at last it's turning green!

Comment by Idaho Spud on April 28, 2013 at 12:23pm

Melinda, thanks for "Everybody gets a drumstick."

Comment by tom sarbeck on April 28, 2013 at 10:09am

booklover: "I agree with Steph about better to have no friends than the wrong ones."

Unless you live in a small, bigot-laden town, I doubt it's necessary to have no friends. Years ago when my work was about to take my wife and me from Florida to Texas, my brother's wife protested that we would be leaving our friends. Surprised, I told her we would go out and make new friends. We did.

One exception, I find myself unable to make friends of ministers, priests, etc. I consider them swindlers.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 28, 2013 at 9:40am

I hope you're all having a good weekend.  It's finally warm and sunny here!!

Comment by Ian Mason on April 28, 2013 at 12:59am

Melinda, you've had all the good advice there is so I won't add more.

"Why do you care?" YES, that gets up my nose too. I care because that religious stuff is DANGEROUS. As soon as anyone believes that the "Truth", perfect and unquestionable, is out there the seed is sown for fanaticism. On top of that, believers expect respect for just being believers and religion is held to be above criticism. How often have we said that certain behaviour is unacceptable and been rebuffed with "but it's their religion"? Dennet's book "Breaking the Spell" goes into this in detail and if anyone hasn't read it, I can recommend doing so.

Comment by Lillie on April 28, 2013 at 12:07am

Melinda, I had the same thing happen with a friend who was becoming very pushy and dictatorial.  I began having other plans whenever she called.  Eventually she stopped calling.  You could tell your friend that alcohol no longer agrees with you and you would just rather not be around it.  Or more to the point you could tell her that it is becoming more difficult to discuss religion as you have moved so far from these discussions.  At any rate, I know you will be able to deal with this as you are becoming more confident in the direction your life is taking.  I like to think that A/N is playing a part in this.  Good luck.

 

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