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Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randall Smith on Wednesday. 9 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on May 1, 2013 at 5:11pm

Melinda, Can you imagine, a grown up adult has many options. 

1. Follow the teaching of a Bronze Age, desert goat herder; 

2. Look at the evidence: 7,113,921,600+ humans alive on the planet and quickly running out of food growing capacity; 

3. Consider getting tubes tied and a vasectomy.

Our response to them: 

I think it would be perfectly appropriate to hold them accountable for overpopulating the Earth. They should be ashamed of themselves.  

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 1, 2013 at 3:38pm
Patricia, that is the best video I have seen in a very long time. If lower animals can do it, so can Homo sapiens.
Comment by Joan Denoo on May 1, 2013 at 3:35pm

"Patricia, Brian Cox on his days as a rocker...... http://youtu.be/buL6ATRHFqk?

Thanks Patricia. Oh this is hilarious, "Rock-star physicist" Brian Cox works on the Large Hadron Collider at CERN, looking for the Higgs Boson, and he can't find a red car in a parking lot at Disney Land. I suppose that story trails him wherever he goes. 

Now, can you find any of his music?

I like the idea of music and science being very closely related. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 1, 2013 at 3:26pm

Sidney M. Gonzalez, a fair and good question and one I happily address. 

"why should anyone care about other people’s illusions?"

I don't care or have any interest in what others believe. However, when people or institutions express disagreement, I have the responsibility and opportunity to express my thinking, and do so without hesitation. When their beliefs intrude upon mine, when they want to bring their beliefs into public education or into marriage laws, or into family planning laws, I will not only challenge them, I do so with every bit of thought and action I can muster. I was not born to follow other's ideas, it is my responsibility to think through issues and arrive at conclusions I am willing and able to defend. I have paid a heavy price for my independent thought; It was worth it. 

"And what method does Dennett use to determine that complete strangers, people he, you and me, don’t know have dedicated their lives to an illusion;"

Dennett used his ability to think, reason, compare, contrast, discuss, and all the other critical thinking tools he, and everyone has. It is his responsibility to speak his truth; whether others agree or disagree is up to him to think about and arrive at his conclusions. If Dennett observed a person putting filthy, dirty hands into a wound, would he not be obligated to intervene?

"an illusion about what?"

There are so many delusions we encounter in life: the young Earth, a personal god who answers prayers, virgin birth, god, angels, resurrection, sun standing still in the heavens, a man created from dust and woman created from a rib, to start populating the world, a flood where everything died except what was on a boat, god giving tablets to some sheep herder on a barren desert mountain, god parting the seas. Oh, I am getting tired and I haven't even started on Buddha yet. 

Let's just cut to the chase. We live on an incredibly beautiful Earth that exists because of natural forces beyond our control. Human beings now have the power of destroying all this vast life as we know it. Human will probably not survive, and sharks and cockroaches  have already survived five known extinctions. 

Human beings continue to use power-over instead of power-with, to our detriment. We are no better than the eagle catching a rabbit or a snake eating a rat. We continue to act like humans are made only of claw-and-beak power, instead of realizing we have a frontal lobe in our brain that means only 1% different than the DNA of our closest primate in the super family Hominoides, Apes. That one% should be recognized as being capable of moving beyond apes into a whole new realm. Instead, we dead-end at Hominoides, Apes. There will have to be more evolution in the Homo sapiens sapiens family if we are to  see the end of Obama-GW Bush-Clinton-GHW Bush, Reagon and other war mongers. 

We have a gift given to us without any intervention on our part. It is our responsibility to take care of it or lose it. 

"why should anyone care about other people’s illusions?"

That is why!

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 1, 2013 at 2:51pm
It appears my favorite physicist, Brian Cox, plays or played keyboard in Labour's favourite band, D:Ream. I Googled those names and find nothing. Anyone from here know how to listen to Brian on keyboard?
By the way, I encourage you to watch his "Wonders of Life series. He acknowledges the role religion played in history and how it is necessary and positive to replace the information part with science. I doubt he would deny people the comfort they receive from prayer and belief in god, but quite frankly, I don't know how a scientist can be a believer in delusions. He does not.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DqJxOWzr88Q&feature=share&li...
Comment by Joan Denoo on May 1, 2013 at 2:34pm

Carl, you go in the direction of thought that works for me:

"but studies show that people who are more educated, monetarily viable, and less religious have less children.  It also helps if you don't have government trying to shut down women's health care clinics and denying access to birth control, as is the case in the US A particularly strong effort for birth control needs to take place in poorer communities and in 'third world' countries. "

Education is definitely part of the answer and the challenge is to find ways that do not dictate. You are correct about keeping open and safe all women's health care clinics and promoting family planning. 

Freethinkers, like herding cats, may not work, however, there may be an answer through promotion of critical thinking as a societal good. 

When I was in China, Chinese women wanted family planning and they have a very good contraception program ... short of killing live births, which they do. That goes too far for my value system. Women want family planning and men want sex. Now, how do we resolve that dilemma? 

Comment by Ian Mason on May 1, 2013 at 2:26pm

Agreed, Chris. The tendency in Denmark is that the children/grandchildren of immigrants (the majority from Turkey) are becoming intergrated in lifestyle and only nominally muslim.

Large families are mostly the result of high infant mortality and no reliable pensions or social security for the vast majority. As societies develop, numbers become more stable.

Immigration/emmigration: seen the news from Bangladesh? Do you wonder people want to get out? How far would YOU go to improve your family's  life?

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 1, 2013 at 2:26pm

Chris, I like your option. I wonder if there are other things we can do? Maybe educate people of the role of nature's processes to create a healthy culture. I don't like mono-cultures either, but I don't like breeding colonies, whether Christian, Muslim or whaever. Educating parents to question authority ... ops that smells of fascism. Well, I'll have to think about this one. 

Comment by Plinius on May 1, 2013 at 2:16pm

Then what would you do, outbreed them? The best I can think of is contact their children and make them think. And refusing immigration doesn't help either, the young are thrown into the world, in this country or another. Here is better of course, then you can help them with their education and the second-generation immigrants have fewer children than their parents. More immigrants lessens the religious pressure of the xtian fundies. If there's one thing I don't like, it's a monoculture, so put on the mixer... 

Comment by Steph S. on May 1, 2013 at 10:49am

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