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Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Comment by Plinius on April 29, 2013 at 2:09pm

I love that, thanks Patricia!

We expect a lot of noise tomorrow, most people are very busy to paint the country orange to honour our next king. I hope I'll find a quiet spot... 

Comment by Patricia on April 29, 2013 at 1:44pm
Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 12:45pm

Carl, forgive me for using myself as referent, but that is what I know.

How can an ordained minister who is gay reconcile his beliefs with dogma? I don’t ask frivolously, but seriously?

In my case, the dogma supports domination of women, and I had to divorce that concept as I searched for a better way of living. All options were open for me, and it finally came to just good old-fashioned reality checking, options exploration, and critical thinking.

I understand how you could grow up in a family and a ”liberal, progressive gay friendly church”, feel good about yourself and became disillusioned with the dogma. I assume you, too, had to search for principles upon which you could build your life. 

Comment by sk8eycat on April 29, 2013 at 12:42pm

LMAO...I just read that the NY Jets let the Praying Man-tis, Timmy Tebow, go.

O, happy day! *snicker!* *snort!*

Proof again that Nothing Fails Like Prayer.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 12:10pm

Learning to love oneself, even as family and community think LGBT are less than normal or even worse, requires some really good rehab for the individual. It is obvious we can't change public opinion over night. In the meantime, work on loving oneself and, dare I say it, build strong protective walls.

I don't know good authors regarding LGBT but by now there should be many resources. 

Although being a battered wife took hard work to overcome and my worst enemies were my family and community, I couldn't get a handle on how to be healthy until I discovered some healthy writers and therapists. Obviously, the best therapists can be peers ... if you are lucky, as I was.

Being a battered woman was a learned behavior; LGBT learns far too early to reject themselves for who they are. That is what has to be unlearned.   We all need to work on public attitudes. 

Comment by Grinning Cat on April 29, 2013 at 12:06pm

Thanks for the morning thoughts and smiles! (Especially Be Happy cat, lamp cat, and IQ higher than body temperature! :)

The Jewish practice is to actually read the entire Torah in synagogue over a three-year cycle, not a cherry-picked lectionary. (It's chanted from a scroll in Hebrew, but congregants often follow along from books that include a translation.) Of course it gets interpreted and spun appropriately, in varying ways depending on how orthodox or liberal the group is. No different from Christians or other believers trying to keep some value in their scriptures in the face of conscience and reality.

At LGBT pride festivals I've seen ministers and priests handing out stickers that say "GAY BY GOD". Wrong for me on both points, but I see those religious leaders as simply doing their best to include and help people, using the "cognitive toolbox" they have.

Those of us who are straight or gay might forget, bisexual folk are twice as likely as any of us to find someone to take home.

<grin> Most folks around us are straight, though, so it doesn't increase the dating pool that much. And there's the common prejudice that a bi person will cheat with, or leave you for, someone of another gender. That idea is ably deconstructed in the paper "Bisexuals and the Slut Myth", as based on two widespread false assumptions that reinforce sexism, heterosexism, and compulsory monogamy.

(Many people know they want or need a monogamous relationship -- that's a valid reason, as opposed to "god said so". Quite a few others are happily, honestly, responsibly nonmonogamous.)

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 11:56am

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 11:54am

It is 9:30, just got up and am having breakfast with "hang with friends". I can't think of a better way to get started!

Steph, the bunny looks so furtive, she brings out the protective in me. 

Curmudgeon Cat has life figured out! I wonder if some creative person could put a smile on his face. Attitude change won't help any. 

Ian, Oh! that such a creature could have a sense of community. Just seeing him reminds me of the banking and financial institution people and the congress they bought. 

Your Lamp-Cat with Compassionate Cat is a treasure. 

Melinda, love your cat-man! Now, how about that for a smile!

Now, on to my day, all fired up. Thanks dear friends. 

 

Comment by sk8eycat on April 29, 2013 at 11:12am

I stole that line about IQ and body temp from an SF writer so long ago that I've forgotten who I stole it from. (Coulda been Harlan Ellison; he used to write an opinion column for a Los Angeles progressive newspaper.)

Comment by booklover on April 29, 2013 at 11:00am

Awwww, the bunny gif is adorable Steph!!!

 

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