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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

Richard Dawkins, Growing Up in the Universe

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 14. 2 Replies

Here is an oldie, the young Richard Dawkins teaching kids about the universe. I especially like the one demonstrating how the eye evolved. This should answer those who believe it was impossible to evolve an eye. Continue

Tags: universe, teaching, Dawkins, Richard

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Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 23, 2013 at 4:32pm

Sorry to hear that you've had chemobrain already after your first treatment, Joan. It's great that your family is so suppoprtive of your communication here. I appreciate all of you.

On a lighter note, I imagine you may have been annoyed once or twice by someone passing you illegally by driving on the shoulder.

Comment by Loren Miller on May 23, 2013 at 10:46am

Comment by Ian Mason on May 23, 2013 at 10:04am

Glad to hear from you Joan and to hear that you're chugging along. That's a really good quote that I'm going to steal.

Thanks for your supportive comments, friends. It can be hard to see loved ones suffering on a downhill path. Your understanding makes that easier to bear.

Comment by Steph S. on May 23, 2013 at 9:26am

Comment by Steph S. on May 23, 2013 at 9:25am

Hello everyone.

Joan I am glad you are getting over the nausea and feel no pain.

I am glad you have a wonderful support group in your family and that they are there for you.

Ruth - the medical professionals really made a mistake in their terminology. That was funny that you called them on it.

Cats in hats are always funny Melinda. Well - to me anyway.

Comment by Jessica Berman on May 23, 2013 at 5:44am
I'm sorry I haven't posted at all; my mother was treated for ovarian cancer this past year, but I follow the discussions. Joan I'm glad treatment is going well. The ChemoBrain is a strange thing. The whole process was a whirlwind for me, and having that support makes a huge difference. You need pampering at this time, and don't feel like you have to "be positive and happy!" You'll have good and bad days and that's OK.
Comment by Joan Denoo on May 23, 2013 at 2:04am

11:00 PM had my first bout of nausea; Rx took care of it. I feel wonderful. Absolutely no pain, I can't finish a sentence or remember words so Cary, Laura and Laurie did their best to understand what I am trying to convey. I usually get enough of a sentence out into the sound waves to give them a hint of where I was headed. We look like  room of game players playing "Finish Mom's sentence!"

The most lovely people in the Chem Room. So many different stories, each compelling and amazing rich in varieties. 

Thanks, dear ones. My nausea is now totally gone. 

sk8eycat, thank you so very much for sharing your experiences with your mother and her successful although difficult time beating her cancer. Her team of doctor and activist-pharmacist, did their job. So thankfully and successfully so. Your Dad's vein grafts added so much to the challenge factors at an important period of your life. You came through all that trauma with a keen sense of humor, In some ways you remind me of Archie in "Archie and Mehitable".  

''every cloud 
has its silver 
lining but it is 
sometimes a little 
difficult to get it to 
the mint''

Don Marquis (1878-1937), U.S. humorist, journalist. "Certain maxims of archy," archy and mehitabel (1927).

Comment by Ian Mason on May 23, 2013 at 1:09am

The medical profession seems to have improved in some areas at least. Personally I think some of that is due to the higher level of education of society as a whole. We know too much to put up with bad treatment now. I saw a documentary last year where an elderly psychiatric consultant and a psychologist dicussed depression and the consultant bemoaned modern "horizontal" society as having declined from the old-fashioned "vertical" where everyone knew their place. In the good old days people didn't think so much and therefore didn't get depressed. If they did they got better when a doctor told them too because a doctor had the power of authority. What a shit!

Ruth: the pic is a jam sponge. 2 layers of sponge cake with jam sandwiched between.

Comment by Ian Mason on May 23, 2013 at 1:00am

Comment by sk8eycat on May 22, 2013 at 10:57pm

So much to catch up on!  I still don't care much for the skinny "Comments" section; did the webmaster decide we all need to go on a diet, or what?

Joan, I wish my Mom hadd had a "team" when she was going through chemo and everything   She was at home with my sister and me, still recovering from having a tumor removed from her femur (and 45 radiation treatments, too).  Dad was in the hospital having vein grafts in his legs.  It was one hell of a summer! 

Our pharmacist pitched a fit when he realized that her oncologist had not prescribed an anti-nausea drug to be taken before she took the chemo capsules each morning. (He called the doctor and did some yelling, and Mom got an Rx for Compazine. It helped.  Some.)

This was in 1984; I think therapy has improved greatly since then!

The good news was that by the end of that dreadful year, Mother was completely cancer-free, and was able to have a bone graft done to rebuild her leg...because bone is much stronger than the metal rods they use to hold things together.  (Her cancer started in her lungs and spread throughout her body, and we didn't know Jack till that leg bone broke.)

The cancer never came back.  She lived to be 87; that's long enough IMO, but I still miss her.

 

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