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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 25. 2 Replies

TheraminTrees doesn't release videos very often these days,  but when he does, they are positive GEMS.  Most recent of his works is the following, wherein he dismantles some of the common rebuttals atheist get from believers when we assert our…Continue

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Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 15. 4 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

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You'll NEVER Guess Who Just Showed Up on Mr. Deity!!!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 14. 11 Replies

I don't believe this one either, but ... well, here it is: And would you believe - Mr. D made me laugh!  RD, that is!Continue

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Seth Andrews' Rebuttal to "10 Women Christian Men Shouldn't Marry" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 6. 20 Replies

It seems as though some numb-nuts New York pastor by the name of Stephen Kim has written two marriage advice pieces for christian men and women.  Not surprisingly, his suggestions come straight out of his never-fail magic book.  Seth Andrews of The…Continue

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Seth Andrews' New Book, "Sacred Cows" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Patricia Feb 6. 7 Replies

For the last few podcasts, Seth Andrews has been alluding to a new literary effort he's been working on.  Well, the cat is out of the bag ... or perhaps I should say, the cow is out of the barn!  Seth's new opus is entitled: Sacred Cows: a…Continue

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Living in the Answers

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Patricia Jan 18. 13 Replies

I am weary of those who declare they understand all the answers to the creation of the universe and Earth. They claim they know the answers to the questions of life, meaning, death, and the afterlife. Those with all the answer speak with confidence,…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 10:23pm

sk8eycat, you write, "I am so passionate about keeping religion out of politics" reveals that you have understanding about the long range consequences of mixing the two. 

Remember the physician, Dr. Ignaz Philipp Semmelweis, who realized doctors were infecting their patients with some unseen infections and tried to convince them to wash their hands between touching those who are sick. His colleagues laughed at him and called him insane. The poor man was committed to an asylum, where he died at age 47 after being beaten by the guards, only 14 days after he was committed.

Or remember the geologist, J Harlen Bretz, who published research papers in 1923 theorizing water caused the landforms in eastern and southern Washington state, even though there was no evidence of water that could have done it. Other geologists laughed at him and dismissed him. A man by the name of Joseph T. Pardee knew where the water came from. It wasn't until mid-1950s Bretz’s interpretations could no longer be ignored, and the geology society accepted his theory.

We are, today, at the place where people do not recognize the risk of mixing church and state. Either they don't remember history, or they believe some superpower will come to our rescue, or their economic futures are tied to the value of using religion to control the public. 

Observe the evidence; it is clear what side of the fence you are on and even if you stand alone, you are correct. 

Comment by Steph S. on April 27, 2013 at 10:07pm

I would rather have no friends than the wrong type of friends.

Comment by Steph S. on April 27, 2013 at 10:07pm

Actually Ruth you have it right. I would advise Melinda the same way, and like you I don't have any real life friends- just friends here on the site. Just the online type friend.

Comment by Steph S. on April 27, 2013 at 10:05pm

Yes, sk8eycat I have encountered apathy toward religion in politics and daily life. Usually I hear; "Why can't you just leave people alone?"

Comment by sk8eycat on April 27, 2013 at 9:25pm

I've been working on my little Pet Press job, witha grumpy computer...aaarrgh!...so I haven't been keeping up with the discussions in here...except for a little bit.

I have a question: One of my best friends is tending toward atheism, but she just doesn't understand why I am so passionate about keeping religion out of politics.  Her attitude toward religion could be described as indifference, while mine is more like disgust.  Has anybody else encountered this attitude of "Why do you care? Why don't you just ignore it?"

I have said that I love my country, and am appalled at all the "god blessing" that comes out of the mouths of people who are supposed to represent me.  I'm also frightend by the dominionists; they have come very close to taking over (with a faith-based office in the White House, for one thing) a few times, and if we don't wake up and do something about them ....well...

The only encouraging news is the growing numbers of "nones" in the last 15 years or so. But I just don't understand indifference.

Anybody got any comments?

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on April 27, 2013 at 8:33pm

Melinda, you might consider cultivating one or two new friendships,  people with whom you share common interests, whose lives don't revolve around religion. Then tell your old friend that you don't feel compatible with her any more, that you've drifted apart. I wouldn't lie, even a white lie about alcohol. I'd tell her how you actually feel when people talk about religion. Be clear that you still respect her and don't think badly of her, it's that particular behavior you can no longer abide.  Say it's not her, that you've changed. Well that's what I'd try. It's best not to cut yourself off socially, keep some friends in your life. This is a "Do as I say, not as I do", because I really haven't got any flesh and blood friends. I got bored with them, or I changed my interests, or they aged out (groups became too young for common interest), or the drive got too long for me. Perhaps I'm not the best person to advise on friendship.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 6:54pm
Remember, there are 7,113,105,376 human beings on the planet and some of them will bring you enlightenment, ideas, perspective, and a sense of being part of all that is.
Comment by Megan S. M. on April 27, 2013 at 6:43pm

It's hard to be tolerant of something like religion, at least for me, that causes so much harm.

But my family is super religious so I tolerate their not-so-subtle/friendly religious promotions and talk because I value that relationship enough. When everyone around is religious, tolerance seems to be the only way to not be ostracized.

Booklover, that is a tough situation :/

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 6:38pm

Have a red hatter day, Melinda, it is a state of mind. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 6:36pm

Melinda, you are so patient. Do you like being patient? If you like it, keep doing it; if you don't, then claim a Red Hatter Age; it is a state of mind.

 

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