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Comment by sk8eycat on April 27, 2013 at 9:25pm

I've been working on my little Pet Press job, witha grumpy computer...aaarrgh!...so I haven't been keeping up with the discussions in here...except for a little bit.

I have a question: One of my best friends is tending toward atheism, but she just doesn't understand why I am so passionate about keeping religion out of politics.  Her attitude toward religion could be described as indifference, while mine is more like disgust.  Has anybody else encountered this attitude of "Why do you care? Why don't you just ignore it?"

I have said that I love my country, and am appalled at all the "god blessing" that comes out of the mouths of people who are supposed to represent me.  I'm also frightend by the dominionists; they have come very close to taking over (with a faith-based office in the White House, for one thing) a few times, and if we don't wake up and do something about them ....well...

The only encouraging news is the growing numbers of "nones" in the last 15 years or so. But I just don't understand indifference.

Anybody got any comments?

Comment by booklover on April 27, 2013 at 8:49pm

Thanks for the advice Ruth!  I feel like you do about the flesh and blood friends.  I like you guys on here much better!  I do have a couple of Atheist and Agnostic friends that I do have coffee with occasionally.  I also have my Mom, and we literally agree on EVERYTHING.  She is 70, and I hope she lives 30 more years!!!!  With health problems, and getting older (ME), I just don't have the time or energy or drive to deal with making plans with friends, especially when I no longer have things in common with them!  The one militantly Atheist friend I have is also extremely left-wing liberal, as am I, so we can freely discuss anything without hesitation.  I do enjoy visiting each other maybe every other week, during the afternoon, for about 2 hours!  That's been our way for a few years, and so I do get out a little socially.  There is another lady we invite who is maybe not quite as "radical" as we are, but it's comfortable with her there too. :)

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on April 27, 2013 at 8:33pm

Melinda, you might consider cultivating one or two new friendships,  people with whom you share common interests, whose lives don't revolve around religion. Then tell your old friend that you don't feel compatible with her any more, that you've drifted apart. I wouldn't lie, even a white lie about alcohol. I'd tell her how you actually feel when people talk about religion. Be clear that you still respect her and don't think badly of her, it's that particular behavior you can no longer abide.  Say it's not her, that you've changed. Well that's what I'd try. It's best not to cut yourself off socially, keep some friends in your life. This is a "Do as I say, not as I do", because I really haven't got any flesh and blood friends. I got bored with them, or I changed my interests, or they aged out (groups became too young for common interest), or the drive got too long for me. Perhaps I'm not the best person to advise on friendship.

Comment by booklover on April 27, 2013 at 7:50pm

Comment by booklover on April 27, 2013 at 7:48pm

I love the Red Hatters Joan!  Thanks Megan, yeah, it is a tough situation.  I want to get out of it without hurt feelings.  This is my plan.  She knows I have awful gastro issues, and that I see a specialist.  Even last night with 2 beers I had to take a handful of Tums.  I'm just going to say I can't drink anymore, which isn't totally the truth, but I drink so little ever anyway.  She is a big drinker, and she likes going out for drinks.  Maybe if I just sit there with a Diet Coke, she won't think I'm so much fun.  If there's really nothing to talk about anymore, maybe she won't ask me to go out.  Her life is SO hectic, and mine is SO not, that she is always the one to plan the get-togethers.  Not very straight-forward of me, but a plan that might cause less hurt feelings.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 6:54pm
Remember, there are 7,113,105,376 human beings on the planet and some of them will bring you enlightenment, ideas, perspective, and a sense of being part of all that is.
Comment by Megan S. M. on April 27, 2013 at 6:43pm

It's hard to be tolerant of something like religion, at least for me, that causes so much harm.

But my family is super religious so I tolerate their not-so-subtle/friendly religious promotions and talk because I value that relationship enough. When everyone around is religious, tolerance seems to be the only way to not be ostracized.

Booklover, that is a tough situation :/

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 6:38pm

Have a red hatter day, Melinda, it is a state of mind. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 6:36pm

Melinda, you are so patient. Do you like being patient? If you like it, keep doing it; if you don't, then claim a Red Hatter Age; it is a state of mind.

Comment by Patricia on April 27, 2013 at 5:59pm

The older I got, the less tolerant I became, & I just can't deal with religions without gagging. Therefore, I keep distant for my own well-being.

 

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