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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on April 29, 2013 at 10:53pm

What a lively, thoughtful conversation today. Thanks.

Joan I liked Dennett's “the self as a “center of narrative gravity”.

My head has been stuck on what's happening in the Arctic. I posted about it in Eco-Logical.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 29, 2013 at 10:46pm

Awe shucks, Joan.  You make me blush with your compliments. I can't imagine, though, what "so many insights" I've offered you from my sporadic postings.  But, thank you.  I value your posts and participation here as well......very much so.  :) 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 10:41pm

Magical ice caves in Skaftafeli - Iceland!

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 10:39pm

Beach at Jökulsárlón glacial lagoon in Iceland , during sunrise  https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=480504815300765&set=a.4....

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 10:31pm

Brandi, I agree that control plays a huge part in all this. I can remember thinking, "How am I supposed to do this ...?" And when the shift occurred, it was more like, "Here is the problem as I understand it; what are my options? What has the highest probability of getting what I need or want? Taking action and paying attention to the consequences. With this way of thinking, I feel strong, competent, have self-respect, and don't have to look to others for affirmation. 

Carl has provided me with so many insights over the months and is a real treasure of a friend. Thanks Carl. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 10:22pm
Carl, how different your family was than mine. One cousin's daughter is a lesbian; she and her partner had three children with a male friend. Those kids are almost grown now and the greatest family I can ever remember. For so many years it was a secret until they decided to have a family. My family was in such a tither, we can only laugh about it now. Another cousin has a gay son and one day he told his parents. My cousin and his wife laughed and told him they had known it for years. My divorce and their homosexuality were extreme violations of the family's value systems ... and they all survived our "sins".
It seems to me the most important thing about families is to provide an environment whereby each one can be his/her own being, living his/her lifestyle that fits his/her values.
Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 9:52pm

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 9:46pm

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 29, 2013 at 9:44pm

 “There’s simply no polite way to tell people they’ve dedicated their lives to an illusion,”

~ Daniel Dennett 

Philosophy That Stirs the Waters

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 29, 2013 at 9:40pm

Joan, in response to your earlier post about me you mused, "I assume you, too, had to search for principles upon which you could build your life."  I never really searched for principles (or a philosophy per say) to live my life.  Rather, I'd say that my parents instilled a level of morality and ethics into me and my three siblings that I grew to learn had a degree of integrity that I could be proud of and happy to use as a guide.  At the same time I lived as closely as I could to being the true me, albeit with one major exception.....I was closeted to others about my already self-known homosexuality, not that I thought there was anything wrong with me, but out of embarrassment and fear of negative reactions.  But during my entire childhood I did manage to march to the beat of my own unique drum, and my family and I can still laugh about some of my eccentric and memorable episodes to this day.  

I started questioning religion during my high school years and definitely had an atheistic view cemented during my college years.  All these years since, I've led my life according to principles given to me by my parents and but also by my own moral standard taught to me through experience.  I'll be 49 this year but it was fairly recently, about five or six years ago, when I was reading about something I had never heard of, Secular Humanism, when the light bulb went off in my head and I experienced a revelation.  I was everything a Secular Humanist was!!  I didn't go searching for a philosophy, I kind of stumbled upon a label that described who I already was.

I would venture to say that if all you took away just one aspect from my parents, their religion, you'd be left with two people who are Secular Humanists.    

 

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