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Seeing Things (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 25. 2 Replies

TheraminTrees doesn't release videos very often these days,  but when he does, they are positive GEMS.  Most recent of his works is the following, wherein he dismantles some of the common rebuttals atheist get from believers when we assert our…Continue

Tags: seeing things, YouTube, TheraminTrees

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 15. 4 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

You'll NEVER Guess Who Just Showed Up on Mr. Deity!!!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 14. 11 Replies

I don't believe this one either, but ... well, here it is: And would you believe - Mr. D made me laugh!  RD, that is!Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Mr. Deity

Seth Andrews' Rebuttal to "10 Women Christian Men Shouldn't Marry" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 6. 20 Replies

It seems as though some numb-nuts New York pastor by the name of Stephen Kim has written two marriage advice pieces for christian men and women.  Not surprisingly, his suggestions come straight out of his never-fail magic book.  Seth Andrews of The…Continue

Tags: advice, marriage, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, Stephen Kim

Seth Andrews' New Book, "Sacred Cows" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Patricia Feb 6. 7 Replies

For the last few podcasts, Seth Andrews has been alluding to a new literary effort he's been working on.  Well, the cat is out of the bag ... or perhaps I should say, the cow is out of the barn!  Seth's new opus is entitled: Sacred Cows: a…Continue

Tags: book, Sacred Cows, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Living in the Answers

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Patricia Jan 18. 13 Replies

I am weary of those who declare they understand all the answers to the creation of the universe and Earth. They claim they know the answers to the questions of life, meaning, death, and the afterlife. Those with all the answer speak with confidence,…Continue

Tags: confidence, education, government, family, afterlife

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Comment by Patricia on January 6, 2015 at 9:27pm

I have no regrets about leaving school. It didn't seem to be the right thing for me, & I certainly didn't know what to do about it.

The couple of friends I made were oddballs too. After we got into our 20s, one (my bridesmaid) turned out to be a back-stabber & the other became a jw. After the back-stabber one, I never tried to get close to anyone again, & of course we all know what I think about the jw thing!

Comment by The Flying Atheist on January 6, 2015 at 8:02pm

Loved the Gypsy Airs, Joan.  As a classically trained saxophonist I was always practicing music of that same vein.  There's some great classical saxophone literature out there.  

I'm enjoying the teen-age photos that have been posted.  I'll have to see what I can come up with.  

Bertold, I love Pandora and have discovered lots of great music that was unknown to me.  As I type this I'm listening to my station of Spanish contemporary love and romantic songs by male singers.  There are some wonderful artists from Central and South America.  

Comment by Patricia on January 6, 2015 at 5:50pm

I never really tried to change my emotions & feelings because its the way it is. I have a short fuse, so rather than try to change that, I just avoid situations where I may explode. I don't like to be around people much so avoid what I can.

I just try to do what I like to do, everyday. I don't like all the medical crap, but that is what it is too & it has to be looked after like it or not, so I like to enjoy the choices I can make.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 6, 2015 at 4:54pm

Patricia, it doesn't sound like the classroom environment offered you something to compensate for your situation. 

There is no reason to try to change your emotions and feelings. They helped you to cope with whatever you had to face. 

Would you like o feel uplifted and positive in your life? 

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on January 6, 2015 at 4:45pm

Thanks Carl! I love the old 40s/50s jazz, especially sax, and I'd never known about Don Byas. Just started a Pandora station and it's great!

Comment by Patricia on January 6, 2015 at 4:02pm

Glad I helped in some small way Joan.

I did ok in school but never fit in with anyone. My good teachers were few, so I never graduated, & didn't particularly care about it one way or another.

I even had one teacher ask why I looked so grumpy & that upset me because daddio was always at me about my ''miserable face''.  I was told I should be like a neighbors daughter who was petite, pretty, lively, & perky!

I like to learn but I don't think the classroom setting worked for me.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 6, 2015 at 3:34pm

I didn't seem to have the angst in my high school years that some had. I loved learning, I had very fine teachers, and I made top grades. It was a place where I would not be hit and I would be acknowledged for doing a good job. 

My senior year was magical for me. A lot of successes occurred and doors opened. I wanted to go to college and my guidance counselors found some scholarships for me that made it possible to choose hairdressing (which I declined) and some other training that didn't appeal to me.  

I worked a year and continued to apply for scholarships. I finally got what I wanted ... a chance to go into horticulture at Washington State College,

I attended WSC for one and half years and then decided to marry Don, who was in dental school. Although it turned out to be a bad marriage for me, I have three beautiful children who make me very proud. There is no more violence in any of their lives! They learned how to be rational, and compassionate. I am proud of them, they discarded superstition, are moral, ethical, compassionate, and caring people. Isn't that just amazing!

I still hate hair and liked my bald head when my hair started falling out. I also liked the kids who wanted to touch my head-of-no-hair or reacted in some way. For those who were afraid of me, I was able to be a jester and make them laugh.

Comment by tom sarbeck on January 6, 2015 at 3:28pm

Enough of us have written of early unhappiness that I think it reasonable to consider its most likely cause: our being born to people who, like my parents, were for various reasons not up to the task.

It is, in my opinion, the only truth that Billy Graham told: the two most important tasks, citizenship and parenthood, require no training. That was in the late 1950s. I had just quit Catholicism and could hear him without committing a mortal--go immediately to Hell--sin.

Twenty years later I had moved to San Francisco and read in the newspaper that San Jose, a few miles south where a brother and his one-child family lived, was the first city in America to have a law that authorizes the City to remove children from violent parents and to require those parents to attend anger management classes.

More? Maybe in another discussion?

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 6, 2015 at 3:08pm

Patricia, your face in photos look lovely to me. I see no permanently miserable state. I see a bright woman with compassion and eager to help, especially eager to help me with my cancer treatments. 

You made a big difference in my life. 

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on January 6, 2015 at 3:07pm

HS graduation

 

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