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I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

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This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

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I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

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Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

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Comment by booklover on August 6, 2013 at 3:08pm

Comment by booklover on August 6, 2013 at 3:07pm

Joan, that's good to know about your kids ending up with good partners.  The girl -22 years old, who keeps getting my sons-19 years old hopes up and then dashing them is immature.  She lives with her mom and works 15 hours a week at the same grocery store as my son does.  I don't mean to sound judgemental, but it seems like she thinks her job in life is to be pretty, and string guys along.  Cole doesn't seem upset in the least though. He's a very laid-back guy.  The "man" who will be 25 next month, who is basically doing the same thing to my daughter, age 21, has 2 bachelor's degrees, and they are art camp counselors together every summer at a University near us.  She actually doesn't seem to care if it ends up that they are just friends either.  Both my kids are fine with being by themselves and having friends.  I guess that's a good thing.  I do hope they meet someone who deserves them some day.  I was certainly not like them at their age!  I was a ditz!  And I HAD to have a MAN.  I have changed so much over the years that I don't even resemble the young person I was.  Such a conformist, wanting to please everybody, caring SO MUCH what people thought of me.  Now, pardon my crude language, but as my daughter says, "I don't give any fucks."  I think that about says it!

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on August 6, 2013 at 1:38pm

What an amazing story of personal transformation through learning communication skills, Joan. It hardly sounds possible. I too am a big fan of communications skills, but took the route of graduate school courses. Your approach sure sounds like it works too.

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 11:52am

Chris Breman, I am so sorry t learn of your continuing hot weather. I would love to share our lovely cool breezes with you, especially at night. What do you do to find some relief? 

The Flying Atheist, hope your medical check up turns out well! Take really good care of yourself, you are too precious to waste. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 11:42am

Just a bit of information, my daughter married a man I couldn't stand. He was opinionated, know it all, arrogant, crude, rude, judgmental, and his behavior was simply outrageous. Laura put up with it a few years, getting more and more frustrated as she grew older. Then, one day, she laid it on the line, get some relationship and communication skill training or he was out of there. He did, and he evolved into the nicest, most compassionate, sweet heart I could want for a son-in-law. I adore him and so does Laura. Their two daughters think the world of him and give sincere praise for the changes he made in his life and in theirs. He chose the same kind of training I received at Whitworth under the presidency of Ed Lindaman, only his training was through Landmark. I took some of those courses and they are essentially the same as Lindaman's philosophy. My daughter was the first to take the courses, and that gave her the confidence to identify what she wanted in life and to know that she was not getting it. Then Larry took them, the two daughters, then one son-in-law, then the two oldest grandkids took the pre-teen and teenage courses. Laura's father was going to take it but died before he could. My son, Craig, and his wife have taken the courses and so have their two boys. When we all got together for five days this summer, it was amazing to watch the two families blend together, using problem solving, conflict resolution, and communication skills. 

The Landmark Forum

Some people call it a cult. Nonsense! it is a relationship, communication training course. It requires one to examine old attitudes, beliefs, customs, traditions and values and make a decision if these continue to hold true. It is an experiential kind of training, with exercises to learn at the cellular level. Recently, Larry returned from an advanced communication course and he paid attention to what each of us was saying. It felt so good, so nice, so affirming. We had honest conversations, didn't have to defend ourselves because of his arrogant self-righteousness, and we all benefited. 

I know of no other program that makes fundamental positive changes in an individual, a family, a business, an organization, as Landmark.

 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 11:38am

Good morning everyone. A beautiful partly cloudy day, 67 degrees F at 8:48 AM. We had two days of very heavy rain that knocked down all the Monarda. The hummingbirds keep coming, even feeding almost next to the ground. Thankfully Siamese Cat hasn't been around to nibble on them. Goldfinches are back today and seems to like the feeders. One, a brilliant yellow, the other muted yellow. Male and female I suppose. No Tail Squirrel has reappeared, as well as Fat Tail, Skinny Tail and Notched Tail. I haven't seen Chickadees. Guess I will have to make a Chickadee Song playlist. Hummingbirds just started their daily dive bombing my head ... they never touch me, but come within a foot of my ears. Sound like dive bombers. 
Confession time, I picked the ugliest photos I could find. Not a very nice thing to do; I try my best to justify my looks at 77 y.o. 

sk8eycat, About the closest I come to such adventure stories is Kon Tiki. I enjoyed that half a century ago or more. 

booklover, I went snorkeling in the Carribean and loved it. It was the most sensual experience possible. Saw beautiful fish, turtles and other lovely things ... like coral.  OH! I remember those days of late  teens and early 20s. They brought home some real loosers and I discovered if I said anything negative, they became defensive. I had to learn to keep my mouth shut! DAMN I hate doing that! Long story short, they chose fine, beautiful, handsome, intelligent, fun and funny mates. I adore them all. And their kids are just tremendous! It turns out my three kids make good sense, even after all the dumb things they did growing up.  I was scared to death that they wouldn't turn out to be wise and compassionate. Everything that scared me turned out to be phantom fears. 

Comment by Plinius on August 6, 2013 at 8:52am

Good afternoon and take care FA! More pomegranate, less coffee!

It's a bit cooler here, wonderful!  Even the PC behaves itself, so I can get a lot of work done.

What a horrible date did your son pick, Melinda, just the type you never need.

And I've been old for some three decennia - my cats say so and they should know.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 6, 2013 at 8:41am

Good morning to all of you.  Yes, it's grey and gloomy here.  I didn't get enough sleep and now I'm trying to wake myself via some coffee.  I also have a doctor's appointment this morning.  My blood pressure is going to be through the roof from the caffeine. 

Comment by booklover on August 6, 2013 at 7:20am

Hi Ruth!  Can you believe she texted my son AGAIN last night, and he went out with her AGAIN, and she told him she liked him, but didn't want a boyfriend right now, AGAIN!  GEEZUS!!!  You would think a 19-year old would learn his lesson by now.  He says he has.  He doesn't have a lot of experience with "women."  I hope he's learning how NOT to be treated at least!

I FEEL old Ruth!  I AM going to be an old cat lady.  That's fine by me!!!

Off to Madison to the gastroenterologist.  Ugh.  It's a rainy Tuesday here. 

Hugs back Ruth & All!

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on August 6, 2013 at 1:05am

booklover your description of your son's pretty date reminds me of a comedy skit. The guy is talking to his shrink about his relationship with his girlfriend. She's gorgeous, the sex is great, but she keeps doing things like set his couch on fire and total his car. You don't like any kind of seafood? I can hardly imagine that.

When you say,"I also like and love my cats and dog more than I like most people." That reminds me of a saying. You know you're old when you really really really love your cat. I qualify for that.

Joan, I think the Redford photo doesn't do him justice. B&W and every wrinkle is enhanced. Brigitte Bardot, I hope I look that good at 79. The photo of Jack Nicholson also looks like the worst shot one could take, with the food and sour expression. I'm sure if he were in a shirt and smiling he'd look far more likeable.

Thanks for Burrito cat, Steph. It's good to hear from you.

Great lovecat gif sk8eycat, thanks. When I sent it to my husband he said, "Is that what we'd do if we had tails?"

Hugs to all!

 

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