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Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller yesterday. 11 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Chris G Dec 15. 9 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by sk8eycat Dec 12. 11 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

Tags: Christmas, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat Nov 26. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 24. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 22. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Comment by booklover on October 1, 2013 at 8:12am

ha ha what an adorable picture Ruth!  Happy October!

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on September 30, 2013 at 7:51pm

Have a happy October, Everyone!

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on September 30, 2013 at 2:01pm

Good luck with your new cat, sk8eycat. I hope Pumpkin lives long and prospers with Fred.

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 30, 2013 at 12:33pm

Mindy, I know the angst! My greatest hope was that I could teach my kids independence and self-reliance before I died. Damn! they are so independent I need not have worried. Those early 20s are a tough time, but then, so were the 10s and 30s.  

Jeez! Cary turned 50 in Sept and the twins will be 50 in Feb. They all survived and flourished. Just think of all those years I fussed and stressed out. To be honest, I was scared to death I would not be able to raise responsible adults. 

If I had it to do over, I would worry less and enjoy more. I would make sure they had basic interpersonal skills of communication, problem solving, conflict resolution and tools to empower their self-sufficiency. 

We raised all our own vegetables and fruits from the time they were 10 until they left home. They learned how to fix all kinds of household appliances and make repairs on equipment. They bought and supported their first cars themselves and had to support their clothing purchases from 16 years on. They participated in household chores until the day they left my household. 

I was forced into these tactics because of my divorce when they were 10. Looking back, I should have had them doing these things when we had way more money than we needed to survive. As it turns out, they were able and willing to participate during their growing,  and now raise their kids with responsibilities as well as right. 

If I learned anything in all this, is the overrating of "obedience" as a rule of life. It teaches dependence. One has to look for direction outside oneself in order to be obedient. Not a good value system. 

Well, there is no comfort for you in my mini-lecture, just some ideas about letting go and trusting your kids to learn what they need in order to fully function as a flourishing adult. I don't have any knowledge about depression to offer. 

Comment by booklover on September 30, 2013 at 7:39am

Comment by booklover on September 30, 2013 at 7:38am

That's cute Carl, but everyone knows Wonder Woman has an invisible plane.  Wait, was it a plane? lol.  My son starts his new full-time job today.  He's on his way as we speak.  Still not 100% from having his wisdom teeth removed. :(  The young heal fast though!  My daughter was under the covers yesterday crying.  I hope she's not on a downward spiral again!  I gave her my credit card (we pay it off each month if we ever use it!), and told her to call her good friend and go out for dinner.  She felt a little better when she got home.  I made her brush her hair and put on earrings and lipstick.  Sometimes you just feel better when you look nice.  That child is going to be the death of me.  It kills me when I can't make everything better, and I know I can't.  She's 21.

Comment by Ian Mason on September 30, 2013 at 1:00am

Enjoy the new house-mate, Felaine.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 29, 2013 at 10:47pm

Hey, Steph.  Were you recently in Chicago waiting for the train?

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 29, 2013 at 8:14pm

I wonder how Pumpkins and Fred would do with a wind up mouse, or a ball of yarn? Would they fight? or participate? Or perhaps a group of boxes, big and small? 

Comment by sk8eycat on September 29, 2013 at 7:40pm

I don't know why, but "Fred" is a good cat name...IMO, anyway.  We had a (male) Fred when I was in my 20s...he was red, so he was "Red Fred."

Heard some hisses, and Pumpkin came out to complain about the interloper.  Fred is half-hiding in a cardboard carton that's lying on its side by the window wall.

Maybe I should put her personal litter box out there...

 

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