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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Ebola Researcher from BC

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Comment by Patricia on August 7, 2013 at 1:36pm

NOT for cats only....

Comment by Grinning Cat on August 7, 2013 at 2:01am

Catching up here...

Felaine, I'm sorry to hear about Hairy Jerry's passing! As others have said, he clearly had a wonderful human who helped him keep going as long as he had some sort of quality of life.

Your memories of him will always be precious.

[Photo by Barbara / blmiers2 at flickr]

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 9:28pm

I have a lot of volunteer milkweed, Asclepius and Asclepias, in my garden and haven't seen any Monarchs. Lots of others. Maybe they will return; I surely hope so. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 6, 2013 at 7:50pm

After my doctor appointment I was running some errands and saw two butterflies today, which is why I was prompted to post a picture.  When I was a kid I remember butterflies everywhere during the summer.  Our back yard always had a vast array of different types.  I remember distinctly because I would catch them and study them and look them up in my butterfly guide book.  Then, for some reason, they seemed to completely disappear during the 1990's.  Only in the past five or so years have they started to reappear, but their numbers aren't as plentiful.  

I do know that the population of Monarch butterflies has sharply declined because of a lack of milkweed due to urban sprawl and certain farming pesticides. 

They're such beautiful creatures. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 7:19pm

booklover, I can identify with what you mean about changing from a "ditz" to a real person in your own right. My former husband used to come to visit every couple of years and stayed in my home. One time he asked me "what happened to that sweet young person I married?" I told him I grew up. And if felt so good. 

Ruth, it was in my master's degree program at Whitworth where I learned these communication skills. My three kids were in high school at the time, and they would attend some of our seminars and learned right along with me. Even though they were so young, a lot of the skills became incorporated into their life styles. They were all relatively young and weren't able to put those skills into good practice for a couple more years, but the seeds were planted in them and they evolved into skilled communicators. When Laura took the first courses about five years ago, I read some of her reference books and discovered the same authors as I had read. So, she not only has more training than I, now, and her whole family has since taken several courses, they value critical thinking, self-awareness, learn to like themselves and they added more tools to move on. Laura and Larry each have their own businesses, are entrepreneurial, and don't blame others for their successes and failures. I am so very proud of what they have done.

The Flying Atheist, glad your exam was routine. Love your photo of butterfly and flower. Pretty colors and textures, and natural. Perfect food for feelings. 

Patricia, lovely fantasy world. 

  

Comment by Patricia on August 6, 2013 at 5:35pm

Pretty fantasy

Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 6, 2013 at 5:19pm

Joan, thanks for your kind words.  My medical appointment was a routine checkup.  

The sky quickly cleared up this morning and today has turned out to be a nice, sunny day.  

  

Comment by booklover on August 6, 2013 at 3:08pm

Comment by booklover on August 6, 2013 at 3:07pm

Joan, that's good to know about your kids ending up with good partners.  The girl -22 years old, who keeps getting my sons-19 years old hopes up and then dashing them is immature.  She lives with her mom and works 15 hours a week at the same grocery store as my son does.  I don't mean to sound judgemental, but it seems like she thinks her job in life is to be pretty, and string guys along.  Cole doesn't seem upset in the least though. He's a very laid-back guy.  The "man" who will be 25 next month, who is basically doing the same thing to my daughter, age 21, has 2 bachelor's degrees, and they are art camp counselors together every summer at a University near us.  She actually doesn't seem to care if it ends up that they are just friends either.  Both my kids are fine with being by themselves and having friends.  I guess that's a good thing.  I do hope they meet someone who deserves them some day.  I was certainly not like them at their age!  I was a ditz!  And I HAD to have a MAN.  I have changed so much over the years that I don't even resemble the young person I was.  Such a conformist, wanting to please everybody, caring SO MUCH what people thought of me.  Now, pardon my crude language, but as my daughter says, "I don't give any fucks."  I think that about says it!

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on August 6, 2013 at 1:38pm

What an amazing story of personal transformation through learning communication skills, Joan. It hardly sounds possible. I too am a big fan of communications skills, but took the route of graduate school courses. Your approach sure sounds like it works too.

 

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