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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Seeing Things (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 25. 2 Replies

TheraminTrees doesn't release videos very often these days,  but when he does, they are positive GEMS.  Most recent of his works is the following, wherein he dismantles some of the common rebuttals atheist get from believers when we assert our…Continue

Tags: seeing things, YouTube, TheraminTrees

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 15. 4 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

You'll NEVER Guess Who Just Showed Up on Mr. Deity!!!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 14. 11 Replies

I don't believe this one either, but ... well, here it is: And would you believe - Mr. D made me laugh!  RD, that is!Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Mr. Deity

Seth Andrews' Rebuttal to "10 Women Christian Men Shouldn't Marry" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 6. 20 Replies

It seems as though some numb-nuts New York pastor by the name of Stephen Kim has written two marriage advice pieces for christian men and women.  Not surprisingly, his suggestions come straight out of his never-fail magic book.  Seth Andrews of The…Continue

Tags: advice, marriage, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, Stephen Kim

Seth Andrews' New Book, "Sacred Cows" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Patricia Feb 6. 7 Replies

For the last few podcasts, Seth Andrews has been alluding to a new literary effort he's been working on.  Well, the cat is out of the bag ... or perhaps I should say, the cow is out of the barn!  Seth's new opus is entitled: Sacred Cows: a…Continue

Tags: book, Sacred Cows, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Living in the Answers

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Patricia Jan 18. 13 Replies

I am weary of those who declare they understand all the answers to the creation of the universe and Earth. They claim they know the answers to the questions of life, meaning, death, and the afterlife. Those with all the answer speak with confidence,…Continue

Tags: confidence, education, government, family, afterlife

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Comment by Steph S. on October 2, 2013 at 4:34pm

Comment by Steph S. on October 2, 2013 at 4:34pm

What cool pics - Ruth I love the Spock one - Very big Star Trek fan and I really like the cute animal pics posted here.

So how is everyone doing? I can't believe Oct is here already! Where has the year gone?

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on September 30, 2013 at 7:51pm

Have a happy October, Everyone!

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on September 30, 2013 at 2:01pm

Good luck with your new cat, sk8eycat. I hope Pumpkin lives long and prospers with Fred.

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 30, 2013 at 12:33pm

Mindy, I know the angst! My greatest hope was that I could teach my kids independence and self-reliance before I died. Damn! they are so independent I need not have worried. Those early 20s are a tough time, but then, so were the 10s and 30s.  

Jeez! Cary turned 50 in Sept and the twins will be 50 in Feb. They all survived and flourished. Just think of all those years I fussed and stressed out. To be honest, I was scared to death I would not be able to raise responsible adults. 

If I had it to do over, I would worry less and enjoy more. I would make sure they had basic interpersonal skills of communication, problem solving, conflict resolution and tools to empower their self-sufficiency. 

We raised all our own vegetables and fruits from the time they were 10 until they left home. They learned how to fix all kinds of household appliances and make repairs on equipment. They bought and supported their first cars themselves and had to support their clothing purchases from 16 years on. They participated in household chores until the day they left my household. 

I was forced into these tactics because of my divorce when they were 10. Looking back, I should have had them doing these things when we had way more money than we needed to survive. As it turns out, they were able and willing to participate during their growing,  and now raise their kids with responsibilities as well as right. 

If I learned anything in all this, is the overrating of "obedience" as a rule of life. It teaches dependence. One has to look for direction outside oneself in order to be obedient. Not a good value system. 

Well, there is no comfort for you in my mini-lecture, just some ideas about letting go and trusting your kids to learn what they need in order to fully function as a flourishing adult. I don't have any knowledge about depression to offer. 

Comment by Ian Mason on September 30, 2013 at 1:00am

Enjoy the new house-mate, Felaine.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 29, 2013 at 10:47pm

Hey, Steph.  Were you recently in Chicago waiting for the train?

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 29, 2013 at 8:14pm

I wonder how Pumpkins and Fred would do with a wind up mouse, or a ball of yarn? Would they fight? or participate? Or perhaps a group of boxes, big and small? 

Comment by sk8eycat on September 29, 2013 at 7:40pm

I don't know why, but "Fred" is a good cat name...IMO, anyway.  We had a (male) Fred when I was in my 20s...he was red, so he was "Red Fred."

Heard some hisses, and Pumpkin came out to complain about the interloper.  Fred is half-hiding in a cardboard carton that's lying on its side by the window wall.

Maybe I should put her personal litter box out there...

Comment by sk8eycat on September 29, 2013 at 7:34pm

Joan, there's also Bob, the Rain God...only sends rain when you don't need it or want it.  Oh, about 20 years ago the bishop or archbishop of San Francisco led a special service to pray for rain (there was a terrible drought) and a couple of days later it SNOWED in SF!  First time in 50 or 75 years. 

Everybody laughed.

 

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