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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

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Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joan Denoo on Tuesday. 81 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

Richard Dawkins, Growing Up in the Universe

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 14. 2 Replies

Here is an oldie, the young Richard Dawkins teaching kids about the universe. I especially like the one demonstrating how the eye evolved. This should answer those who believe it was impossible to evolve an eye. Continue

Tags: universe, teaching, Dawkins, Richard

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Comment by sk8eycat on November 23, 2013 at 1:36am

Mindy, that news about your son's promotion is absolutely JOYOUS! (Or joyful...I don't know which is correct grammar,,,Heh).  Anyroad, thank you for posting that; it makes me feel good to know that  somebody somewhere is getting the breaks they have earned.

[Lifting cuppa tea in congratulations]

Comment by Plinius on November 23, 2013 at 1:08am

I'm happy that there's good news too in your family; Mindy! That could help your daughter.

Comment by Grinning Cat on November 22, 2013 at 11:21pm

(Doris Redrupp illustrating Edward Gorey's immortal quote -- hit the link for a larger version)

Comment by Steph S. on November 22, 2013 at 8:52pm

Comment by Steph S. on November 22, 2013 at 8:51pm

Wow - he sounds so very smart and intelligent Mindy. You must be a very proud mother. Thanks for always being here for me. I sure so appreciate that.

Comment by Steph S. on November 22, 2013 at 4:58pm

How wonderful to hear about your son Mindy. Congrats. He is really going places. Always here for you whenever you'd like to share.

Comment by sk8eycat on November 22, 2013 at 12:39pm

Many good quotes here: http://modernatheist.org/humanities/quotes/

Click on one, and you'll get the slide show.

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Mindy, I have tried to deal with clinical depression for more years than I can count...that's one of the reasons I sometimes  "disappear" from this group for days or weeks at a time. It comes and goes: some meds have worked for me, and some don't. I don't like to talk about it because of the reactions I've gotten from people I thought were my friends in the past..."you're too self-centered" is one of the mildest.

I have lost jobs because of it...I would reach a point where deciding to get out of bed in the morning was too difficult a decision to make. Paxil helped about 20+ years ago when I was obsessing about walking in front of a train (I stopped myself by remembering the trauma such an action causes train crews and EMTs...some of my uncles and cousins worked for the railroads, and I have a great affection for anyone who works the trains today.).

So.... I've been going through a lot of mental/emotional/physical pain for the last couple of months, and I empathize with you and your daughter completely.  I wish I could say something more helpful...I'm not on any meds now...haven't been for years...so my "brayne" is stuck.  But I just wanted you to know that I''ve "been there, done that," and I know what It feels like.

I really wish there was some way to send physical hugs over the net...research has proved that hugs do release beta endorphins into the brain, and provide some relief...temporarily.  Here's one for you:

*&gt;:D< big hug

Hugging a kitty helps, too. Srsly. Pumpkin spent last night purring on my shoulder; didn't help me get to sleep, but I felt comforted. I think they may be telepathic...or empathic.

Comment by Plinius on November 22, 2013 at 12:33pm

Try not to worry too much, Mindy, just be your usual loving patient self, that is all you can do. She'll find her strength. Hugs to you!

Comment by Steph S. on November 22, 2013 at 11:20am

Mindy sorry to hear about your daughter and her depression.

I hope she gets better,

HUGS to you and your family

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 22, 2013 at 11:00am

Mindy, I am really sorry about your daughter's depression. You do all the right things, and it just beyond your control. The only thing I can think of is to do as you have been, encouraging her, giving her emotional support as well as physical support. 
So, the next thing is for you and your husband to take really good care of yourselves so that you can be a strong rock upon which she can come for safety, security and stability. 

If you feel fear, insecure, unstable, she will sense it and not have the S3 she needs. 

I don't have chronic depression, however several of my friends do, and they sleep a lot. They take Rx that help greatly but not completely. Roxanne often seeks out a shoulder to lean on and it seems to help; not an easy condition to be helpful. 

Do you have relaxation and meditation tapes? They can help you stay calm and refreshed. Some teachings of Buddhism helps. Not so much for your daughter, but for you to stay serene. 

 

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