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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by booklover 12 hours ago. 21 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

Tags: Christmas, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller on Wednesday. 11 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Chris G Dec 15. 9 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat Nov 26. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 24. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 22. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

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Comment by booklover on November 25, 2013 at 1:25pm
Lol, is that a bird Steph? How funny.:)
Comment by Steph S. on November 25, 2013 at 10:35am

Comment by booklover on November 25, 2013 at 7:39am

Carl, I hate football too! LOL.  I just want the Bears to win if anyone is going to.  It's mostly that I want Green Bay to lose because my sister lives there, and Packer fans are obnoxious! ha haha.  We have a rivalry, but not really, because I don't watch it and don't really care. 

Joan, that is great that you make people think on Facebook.  I just don't have it in me to argue anymore, and I've been on and off of there so much friending and unfriending, etc. people think I'm crazy! Well I am, but in a good way... ;)

I'm getting my voice back, but my daughter and I both have deep coughs. Yuck. 

There is a light snow on the ground and rooftops here.  I still can't believe it it Thanksgiving on Thursday.  My husband asked his mother what we could bring and she said... Pop and Cool Whip! LOL!!!!!  Who here calls it soda? That's another thing my sister and I talk about.  In Green Bay it's soda, here in Northern Illinois, it's pop.  She still calls it pop.  They also call drinking fountains bubblers.  She refuses. lol.  I'm ashamed to admit I like a dollop of Cool Whip on my pumpkin pie.  I know, I know REAL whipped cream is better.

Have a good Monday everyone!

Comment by Steph S. on November 24, 2013 at 9:15pm

Comment by Steph S. on November 24, 2013 at 9:14pm

Carl that soup looks so good. Good to eat when you are feeling under the weather. Still cold and rainy here and more rain expected all week long.

Comment by Steph S. on November 24, 2013 at 9:13pm

Patricia - that is so funny!!

Thanks

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 24, 2013 at 4:37pm

Oh! Carl, that bowl of soup looks so good. Just right for a cold day. 

Thank you for your kind words; you do a tremendous job of being straightforward, honest (even about football), and supportive. There is hope for a better world with people such as yourself and those on this string, and on this site. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on November 24, 2013 at 2:35pm

Steph, cute picture of the cats under the umbrella.  I saw you are getting rain in your area.  Supposedly that weather system is predicted to continue northeast and screw up holiday travel plans on the East Coast in the next few days.  We shall see.  Have a great day. 

Mindy, I hope you feel better soon.  I hate being sick.  It depresses me.  I feel like it's wasted time......but what can you do?  BTW, don't be mad, but I confess that I hate football.  Yes, "hate" is a strong word, but I've chosen it wisely.  I hope we can still be friends!  As you are aware, Chicago is a HUGE sports town, but I've never had any interest whatsoever in any sports.  If I wasn't the last, I was the second-to-last kid to be chosen in gym or on the playground for sports teams.  It was an aspect of my life that I not only accepted but that I embraced.  Give me music and art anytime!    

Joan, when people hear truths they don't like or don't want to be true they get angry and defensive.  Good for you for always speaking out and keeping your integrity intact.  I'm glad to hear that some of your soured relationships have been restored.  Perhaps you've been successful in planting a few seeds of knowledge and rationality.  You have so much to offer other people. 

It's cold here too.  Overnight it was 13-degrees.  It's now warmed up to 25 with sunny skies.     

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 24, 2013 at 1:37pm

Steph, loved your comment and photo of cats sitting and enjoying rain. Looks like paradise. Yes, I agree that this site is a very special one, full of thoughtful, caring, compassionate people who have open minds and not so open that their brains fall out. 

It is very cold here, clear skies, not so much wind, yet. I probably will lose some plants because of the low day and night temps. Well, if the climate changes, we will be losing a lot of plants because of water or temperature changes. I might as well get used to it. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 24, 2013 at 1:26pm

Oh! Mindy! I understand your reasons for leaving Facebook. The hate mail can be dreadful! Thankfully, there is a "Block" button to weed out filth. 
I kind of like those who attempt to give me rational reasons for disliking my writings. It gives me a chance to reconsider my thinking and either agree or disagree with them and why. Over time, I feel stronger in my thinking. I do often realize I have overstated or made a reasoning mistake. As to feelings, there can be no mistakes in how one feels. The feelings may be based on erroneous thinking, but if so, I am able to make changes in my own thinking and come out stronger. 

My experience with Facebook was it was far too conservative for my liking, and I just didn't want to listen to a bunch of delusions. I blocked them as well. Family and friends sent me all kinds of sickeningly sweet, syrupy, mawkish, sentimental, trite, saccharine things that made my teeth itch. I wrote them individually and told them I did not think their material made any sense and didn't stand up to scrutiny. I would block them in the future if I got any more of it. Well, you can guess ... a lot of family and friends unfriended me.

Slowly, over time, many of those individuals reconnected with me and send me thoughtful (full-of-thought) comments, and we restored our relationship, to my benefit, and I hope theirs.  

Thanks to people like you and ... oh dear, I won't list names because I will surely leave some very precious friends out. I have been able to rethink my positions and make appropriate adjustments. 

Arguing does me no good! Asking question, pointing out what, how, and why I do not share an idea, helps me, even if it infuriates another. I love to challenge another to think, even as I love being challenged ... if based on reason.

Feelings are another matter. One can not argue with how another feels; it is their reality. I can look at my own feelings and listen for what they tell me. Why am I angry, sad, mad, afraid, guilty or ashamed? When I sort those kinds of things out, I have a better understanding of what drives me. 

Honesty seems to have great power. Especially for my cousins, many of whom are very active in their churches. One married a Lutheran minister with patriarchal ethics. In her email comments she sounds depressed and unhappy and wonders why. I can read how dominated she feels, even though she doesn't say it. I simply ask her questions about her feelings, and her values. She hangs in with me until she gets angry (which really means she is afraid). 
No one said growing up would be easy. There are no good roadmaps. The holy books lead one astray, filling the head with nonsense that I call The Passive Gospel. So, we can be active in thought and action. We can celebrate together our stressors and accomplishments. We can stand as a cloud of witnesses for each other, with encouragement, information, ideas, ...jeez, I had a terrible time finding a secular word cloud: 
 

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