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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner 15 hours ago. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

Richard Dawkins, Growing Up in the Universe

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 14. 2 Replies

Here is an oldie, the young Richard Dawkins teaching kids about the universe. I especially like the one demonstrating how the eye evolved. This should answer those who believe it was impossible to evolve an eye. Continue

Tags: universe, teaching, Dawkins, Richard

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Comment by Loren Miller on December 19, 2013 at 9:24pm

More delicious music from my all-time favorite jazz ensemble, Oregon:

Comment by sk8eycat on December 19, 2013 at 5:19pm

Oh, that is SO true!  My best friend for the last 10 years is a man  in DC...we talk on the phone a lot, but we've never met face to face, or I would have hugged him and never let go.  We"met" on an atheist forum that no longer exists.  I have 2 or 3 longtime friends from that forum, and we all keep each other hanging onto life when things get rough.

I just thought of a line from one of Armistead Maupin's "Tales of the City" books, "I'd rather have 5 good friends than one mediocre lover."  I've got the friends...gave up on lovers so long ago I can't remember who the last one was; just that he was worse than average.

Tee-hee!

Comment by Ian Mason on December 19, 2013 at 4:18am

Happy solstice all :-)

Just got home from my night shift and a good workout so these ARE my plans for the day.

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 19, 2013 at 1:51am

sk8eycat, you are a treasure; I got goose bumps all over again when I read your celebration of my news.

You have so many challenges, it is a wonder you keep your keen sense of humor. Having good health care from "an artist" makes such a great difference and you deserve it. Your description of petting Lyle immediately after your surgery and feeling his hair evokes visions of what can happen and should happen in our health delivery system. 

Comment by sk8eycat on December 19, 2013 at 12:39am

Joan, no...my hands started becoming arthritic when I was in my early  40s, and it may have been tendons or ligaments getting hung up on calcium deposits in my fingers.  Also, I had a condition called hyperparthyroidism...a rogue parathyroid gland was drawing calcium out of my bones, and depositing it where it didn't belong...all over my body (and expelling some of it through my kidneys).  A LOT of the deposits slowly went away after I had surgery in 1992, and so did symptoms like trigger finger. 

Oh!  I forgot!  I had carpal tunnel syndrome in both hands, too.  I had the right hand fixed (they wanted to do the left hand first, and I argued and argued till I finally wore them down) in 1993  because I desperately needed to go back to work, and my best office skill always was on the 10-key.  I was a whiz.

The amazing thing was that the carpal tunnel release was done as "day surgery." I wen in at 6AM, they worked on me starting at 11 AM, and I was alert and ready to go home by 2PM.  I was wearing a steel wrist brace wrapped with elastic bandage, but my fingers were free.  The first thing I did when I got home was pet Lyle, the ORNJ cat we had back then, and already I could feel the silky texture of his fur...every single hair...for the first time in years. I cried a little...for joy.

At that time I was going to a County (charity) hospital, and I can't praise the surgeons and nurses who took care of me enough.  The surgeons were senior residents from UCLA Medical School, and they were so gung-ho about finding out the cause of anything and everything,and fixing it.  Another surgeon that I met at a formal banquet a few years later told me that the one who did the parathyroid surgery was "an artist."  The scars from both operations are almost invisible, and always have been.

PS: I just read your good news!  YAYYYY!  CONGRAD-JULASHUNZ!!!  Ai iz sew happee 4 U!  HUGS to the nth degree!

(jumping up and down and singing!)

Have a VERY Sunny Solstice!

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 18, 2013 at 11:35pm

Sk8eycat, did you just talk trash to me?!  LOL

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 18, 2013 at 11:25pm

sk8eycat Did you ever figure out what cause "trigger finger"? I have never heard of it before and am really curious as to its cause, treatment and prevention. 

Comment by sk8eycat on December 18, 2013 at 11:11pm

Ruth, I used to have "trigger finger" in my right middle finger...I don't remember how or why it went away; it just did.  Now I have sort of the opposite...if I curl one finger down toward the palm, they all go along with it.  No pain, just very frustrating 'cause I can't give anyone the famous Mono-digital Salute...one of my favorite gestures...there are so many people in this world who deserve it.

That's why I picked the "Phbtttt Cat" for my whaddaya-callit...Icon?

Comment by sk8eycat on December 18, 2013 at 11:02pm

Mindy and Carl, I had to giggle at your wishes for a "good Wednesday"  In my neighborhood Wednesday is Trash Pickup Day, and the truck arrives on the intersection behind our house some time before 7 AM, and idles until the exact time.  THEN he revs everything up and gets to work...has to vroom-vroom for every different motion the automated arm makes: reach down for the bin *vroom*...clamp onto the bin *vroom*...lift the bin *vroom*...upend and empty the bin *vroom-vroom*...and do everything in reverse order till the bin is back on the ground.  Then it's *vroom-vroom-vroom* as he drives up the hill to the next house. 

The truck(s) make 3 trips, one for green material (plant cuttings), another for recyclable stuff, and the last one for useless trash.

I suppose it's more efficient than the way they used to do it with one guy hanging on the back of the truck...the poor guy who had to physically pick up the (metal) cans, and throw the contents in the back of the truck.  But it sure is noisy, and the noise lasts till about 1 PM.  I'm retired (wish I could find some light work...I'm bored and need money!), and one of my pleasures is sleeping in with Pumpkin curled up beside me.

But not on Wednesdays.

Comment by Steph S. on December 18, 2013 at 7:11pm

Thanks I am doing good Flying Atheist. Traveling must be nice FA and seeing all those places first hand. Sorry to hear about your finger Ruth. So glad you got it taken care of. So are you able to use that finger like before Ruth?

Hope everyone is doing well.

 

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