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Comment by Patricia on April 28, 2013 at 3:29pm

I don't call it ''breaking up''.....to me it's just our lives going in different directions with not enough in common to make things worth the time I have left on this side of the grass. When I have the choice of how to ''waste'' my time, it won't be with anyone or anything I don't enjoy. We don't socialize much, & don't make ''friends'' by choice, & we're just fine. My husband has his coffee pals at a restaurant every morning when he does his walk, & I chat with store clerks in town, & come here to AN for my ''fix''. We see family occasionally throughout the year but that's just fine as we don't all live in the same towns. We also have great neighbors & look after each other's property/pets when on vacations, but that's all they are. Most everyone knows we're atheists as we don't keep it secret, & we've never had any issues over it here despite lots of churches.

Comment by Lillie on April 28, 2013 at 2:34pm

It is so funny the way our pets let us know it is not OK to leave them.  They may not speak our language but they can certainly let us know how they are feeling by their actions.  We are going on a short trip next week and I know we will get the temporary cold shoulder when we return.  Of course, a neighbor will keep them fed with a friendly pat on the head but apparently that is not the same.

Comment by Steph S. on April 28, 2013 at 2:06pm

Comment by Plinius on April 28, 2013 at 1:48pm

Thanks Flying Atheist, and a good weekend to all of you. I could even work in my veg roof garden today, at last it's turning green!

Comment by Idaho Spud on April 28, 2013 at 12:23pm

Melinda, thanks for "Everybody gets a drumstick."

Comment by Tom Sarbeck on April 28, 2013 at 10:09am

booklover: "I agree with Steph about better to have no friends than the wrong ones."

Unless you live in a small, bigot-laden town, I doubt it's necessary to have no friends. Years ago when my work was about to take my wife and me from Florida to Texas, my brother's wife protested that we would be leaving our friends. Surprised, I told her we would go out and make new friends. We did.

One exception, I find myself unable to make friends of ministers, priests, etc. I consider them swindlers.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 28, 2013 at 9:40am

I hope you're all having a good weekend.  It's finally warm and sunny here!!

Comment by booklover on April 28, 2013 at 8:20am

Thanks Steph, and Ian.

Lillie, thanks for your response, and yes, the more I read and discuss on AN, the more I can't take listening to religious crap!  I have become much more militant about it, and, as a result, have lost more "real life" friends.  I agree with Steph about better to have no friends than the wrong ones.  Luckily I do have an Athiest friend, and one I guess I would call Agnostic.  I can say what I want in front of her with no offense taken, and she agrees with what I say.  Her son, who is an Atheist, is my sons best friend.  I am tired of "breaking-up" with people, so I am going to do this slowly and gently.

Comment by Ian Mason on April 28, 2013 at 12:59am

Melinda, you've had all the good advice there is so I won't add more.

"Why do you care?" YES, that gets up my nose too. I care because that religious stuff is DANGEROUS. As soon as anyone believes that the "Truth", perfect and unquestionable, is out there the seed is sown for fanaticism. On top of that, believers expect respect for just being believers and religion is held to be above criticism. How often have we said that certain behaviour is unacceptable and been rebuffed with "but it's their religion"? Dennet's book "Breaking the Spell" goes into this in detail and if anyone hasn't read it, I can recommend doing so.

Comment by Lillie on April 28, 2013 at 12:07am

Melinda, I had the same thing happen with a friend who was becoming very pushy and dictatorial.  I began having other plans whenever she called.  Eventually she stopped calling.  You could tell your friend that alcohol no longer agrees with you and you would just rather not be around it.  Or more to the point you could tell her that it is becoming more difficult to discuss religion as you have moved so far from these discussions.  At any rate, I know you will be able to deal with this as you are becoming more confident in the direction your life is taking.  I like to think that A/N is playing a part in this.  Good luck.

 

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