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Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

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I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller on Friday. 5 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

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I've got three grandsons and I love them to death, but my youngest son and his wife had a baby girl in January and I haven't  right since. Granddaughter has me wrapped up like my grandsons never did. What is it about granddaughters? Her name is…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on November 24, 2013 at 1:37pm

Steph, loved your comment and photo of cats sitting and enjoying rain. Looks like paradise. Yes, I agree that this site is a very special one, full of thoughtful, caring, compassionate people who have open minds and not so open that their brains fall out. 

It is very cold here, clear skies, not so much wind, yet. I probably will lose some plants because of the low day and night temps. Well, if the climate changes, we will be losing a lot of plants because of water or temperature changes. I might as well get used to it. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 24, 2013 at 1:26pm

Oh! Mindy! I understand your reasons for leaving Facebook. The hate mail can be dreadful! Thankfully, there is a "Block" button to weed out filth. 
I kind of like those who attempt to give me rational reasons for disliking my writings. It gives me a chance to reconsider my thinking and either agree or disagree with them and why. Over time, I feel stronger in my thinking. I do often realize I have overstated or made a reasoning mistake. As to feelings, there can be no mistakes in how one feels. The feelings may be based on erroneous thinking, but if so, I am able to make changes in my own thinking and come out stronger. 

My experience with Facebook was it was far too conservative for my liking, and I just didn't want to listen to a bunch of delusions. I blocked them as well. Family and friends sent me all kinds of sickeningly sweet, syrupy, mawkish, sentimental, trite, saccharine things that made my teeth itch. I wrote them individually and told them I did not think their material made any sense and didn't stand up to scrutiny. I would block them in the future if I got any more of it. Well, you can guess ... a lot of family and friends unfriended me.

Slowly, over time, many of those individuals reconnected with me and send me thoughtful (full-of-thought) comments, and we restored our relationship, to my benefit, and I hope theirs.  

Thanks to people like you and ... oh dear, I won't list names because I will surely leave some very precious friends out. I have been able to rethink my positions and make appropriate adjustments. 

Arguing does me no good! Asking question, pointing out what, how, and why I do not share an idea, helps me, even if it infuriates another. I love to challenge another to think, even as I love being challenged ... if based on reason.

Feelings are another matter. One can not argue with how another feels; it is their reality. I can look at my own feelings and listen for what they tell me. Why am I angry, sad, mad, afraid, guilty or ashamed? When I sort those kinds of things out, I have a better understanding of what drives me. 

Honesty seems to have great power. Especially for my cousins, many of whom are very active in their churches. One married a Lutheran minister with patriarchal ethics. In her email comments she sounds depressed and unhappy and wonders why. I can read how dominated she feels, even though she doesn't say it. I simply ask her questions about her feelings, and her values. She hangs in with me until she gets angry (which really means she is afraid). 
No one said growing up would be easy. There are no good roadmaps. The holy books lead one astray, filling the head with nonsense that I call The Passive Gospel. So, we can be active in thought and action. We can celebrate together our stressors and accomplishments. We can stand as a cloud of witnesses for each other, with encouragement, information, ideas, ...jeez, I had a terrible time finding a secular word cloud: 
Comment by booklover on November 24, 2013 at 10:57am

It's sunny and cold here.  I have no voice!  Chest cold.  I think my husband is enjoying my not-talking. ;)

My dog is crying because she sees my husband outside doing yard-work, and she can't go out front.  Daughter is coming home today from visiting her friend. Tomorrow she sees her therapist in the a.m., and has a job interview in the afternoon. My son has to talk to the boss in the engineering dept. tomorrow and decide if it's a good fit for him.  The thing is, he is not good in math, but he can teach himself computer programs easily.  So if they are expecting him to get an engineering degree, no way.  If they are willing to just let him learn as he goes, he's fine!  They will make the decision together.  It's a VERY nice, family-owned company.  Very laid-back. Whatever he chooses, he likes it there, and that's important.

I'm staying in all day again today.  GO BEARS!!!!! :)

Comment by Steph S. on November 24, 2013 at 10:30am

Good thing you got away from Facebook. The Nexus site is so much better. I hope everyone is having a good day. IT is rainy and cold here today.

Comment by booklover on November 24, 2013 at 9:05am

When I was on Facebook, if I put anything cute or funny up, I got lots of "likes."  If I put anything Atheist up, NO likes.  Anything Liberal, maybe 1 like.  I have to say I didn't keep many friends though, because I HAVE to argue when people put super right-wing stuff up, and religious crap.  It just raised my blood-pressure for no reason.  I don't have to be on there. :)

Comment by Idaho Spud on November 23, 2013 at 6:32pm

Ruth, thanks for the explanation of "like".  Someone said that it was connected to facebook, so I was concerned, even though I never found any of my Nexus likes on facebook.  Your explanation reduces my concern even more.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on November 23, 2013 at 5:26pm

The "like" button does two things. It tells everyone you liked that, in the Latest Activity and adds to the like count for that thing. If you want to go back to it later, a shortcut is stored under "Likes" on your profile page. Well, also someone could look at your likes from your page to get an idea of your preferences.

Comment by Steph S. on November 23, 2013 at 5:15pm

Love the cats with books and tea cup. Enjoy the posts here.

Patricia I love owls too and enjoy that GIF.

Yes, Mindy we are real friends here and support you. Always thinking about you and wish you the best.

My thoughts are with everyone here.

Comment by Steph S. on November 23, 2013 at 5:12pm

Comment by booklover on November 23, 2013 at 2:40pm

Patricia, that gif is Wonderful!!!  I love owls, and it's so cool to see it pass between the trees! :)

 

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