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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 9:28pm

I have a lot of volunteer milkweed, Asclepius and Asclepias, in my garden and haven't seen any Monarchs. Lots of others. Maybe they will return; I surely hope so. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 6, 2013 at 7:50pm

After my doctor appointment I was running some errands and saw two butterflies today, which is why I was prompted to post a picture.  When I was a kid I remember butterflies everywhere during the summer.  Our back yard always had a vast array of different types.  I remember distinctly because I would catch them and study them and look them up in my butterfly guide book.  Then, for some reason, they seemed to completely disappear during the 1990's.  Only in the past five or so years have they started to reappear, but their numbers aren't as plentiful.  

I do know that the population of Monarch butterflies has sharply declined because of a lack of milkweed due to urban sprawl and certain farming pesticides. 

They're such beautiful creatures. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 7:19pm

booklover, I can identify with what you mean about changing from a "ditz" to a real person in your own right. My former husband used to come to visit every couple of years and stayed in my home. One time he asked me "what happened to that sweet young person I married?" I told him I grew up. And if felt so good. 

Ruth, it was in my master's degree program at Whitworth where I learned these communication skills. My three kids were in high school at the time, and they would attend some of our seminars and learned right along with me. Even though they were so young, a lot of the skills became incorporated into their life styles. They were all relatively young and weren't able to put those skills into good practice for a couple more years, but the seeds were planted in them and they evolved into skilled communicators. When Laura took the first courses about five years ago, I read some of her reference books and discovered the same authors as I had read. So, she not only has more training than I, now, and her whole family has since taken several courses, they value critical thinking, self-awareness, learn to like themselves and they added more tools to move on. Laura and Larry each have their own businesses, are entrepreneurial, and don't blame others for their successes and failures. I am so very proud of what they have done.

The Flying Atheist, glad your exam was routine. Love your photo of butterfly and flower. Pretty colors and textures, and natural. Perfect food for feelings. 

Patricia, lovely fantasy world. 

  

Comment by Patricia on August 6, 2013 at 5:35pm

Pretty fantasy

Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 6, 2013 at 5:19pm

Joan, thanks for your kind words.  My medical appointment was a routine checkup.  

The sky quickly cleared up this morning and today has turned out to be a nice, sunny day.  

  

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Comment by booklover on August 6, 2013 at 3:07pm

Joan, that's good to know about your kids ending up with good partners.  The girl -22 years old, who keeps getting my sons-19 years old hopes up and then dashing them is immature.  She lives with her mom and works 15 hours a week at the same grocery store as my son does.  I don't mean to sound judgemental, but it seems like she thinks her job in life is to be pretty, and string guys along.  Cole doesn't seem upset in the least though. He's a very laid-back guy.  The "man" who will be 25 next month, who is basically doing the same thing to my daughter, age 21, has 2 bachelor's degrees, and they are art camp counselors together every summer at a University near us.  She actually doesn't seem to care if it ends up that they are just friends either.  Both my kids are fine with being by themselves and having friends.  I guess that's a good thing.  I do hope they meet someone who deserves them some day.  I was certainly not like them at their age!  I was a ditz!  And I HAD to have a MAN.  I have changed so much over the years that I don't even resemble the young person I was.  Such a conformist, wanting to please everybody, caring SO MUCH what people thought of me.  Now, pardon my crude language, but as my daughter says, "I don't give any fucks."  I think that about says it!

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on August 6, 2013 at 1:38pm

What an amazing story of personal transformation through learning communication skills, Joan. It hardly sounds possible. I too am a big fan of communications skills, but took the route of graduate school courses. Your approach sure sounds like it works too.

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 11:52am

Chris Breman, I am so sorry t learn of your continuing hot weather. I would love to share our lovely cool breezes with you, especially at night. What do you do to find some relief? 

The Flying Atheist, hope your medical check up turns out well! Take really good care of yourself, you are too precious to waste. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 6, 2013 at 11:42am

Just a bit of information, my daughter married a man I couldn't stand. He was opinionated, know it all, arrogant, crude, rude, judgmental, and his behavior was simply outrageous. Laura put up with it a few years, getting more and more frustrated as she grew older. Then, one day, she laid it on the line, get some relationship and communication skill training or he was out of there. He did, and he evolved into the nicest, most compassionate, sweet heart I could want for a son-in-law. I adore him and so does Laura. Their two daughters think the world of him and give sincere praise for the changes he made in his life and in theirs. He chose the same kind of training I received at Whitworth under the presidency of Ed Lindaman, only his training was through Landmark. I took some of those courses and they are essentially the same as Lindaman's philosophy. My daughter was the first to take the courses, and that gave her the confidence to identify what she wanted in life and to know that she was not getting it. Then Larry took them, the two daughters, then one son-in-law, then the two oldest grandkids took the pre-teen and teenage courses. Laura's father was going to take it but died before he could. My son, Craig, and his wife have taken the courses and so have their two boys. When we all got together for five days this summer, it was amazing to watch the two families blend together, using problem solving, conflict resolution, and communication skills. 

The Landmark Forum

Some people call it a cult. Nonsense! it is a relationship, communication training course. It requires one to examine old attitudes, beliefs, customs, traditions and values and make a decision if these continue to hold true. It is an experiential kind of training, with exercises to learn at the cellular level. Recently, Larry returned from an advanced communication course and he paid attention to what each of us was saying. It felt so good, so nice, so affirming. We had honest conversations, didn't have to defend ourselves because of his arrogant self-righteousness, and we all benefited. 

I know of no other program that makes fundamental positive changes in an individual, a family, a business, an organization, as Landmark.

 

 

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