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Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat yesterday. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Patricia yesterday. 4 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat on Tuesday. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on Sunday. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 21. 5 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Attacks in Canada Oct. 22nd/14

Started by Patricia. Last reply by The Flying Atheist Nov 20. 4 Replies

This was devastating for us........…Continue

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Comment by The Flying Atheist on January 14, 2014 at 12:20pm

Thinking about you, Chris.  Take care of yourself as well.  Make sure to give yourself some "me time" so you don't overwhelm yourself. 

Comment by Ian Mason on January 14, 2014 at 12:10pm

That's a lot to take on, Chris. Hope your b-i-l gets recovers. I agree with Mindy - take good care of yourself too. Best wishes and hugs from here :-)

Comment by booklover on January 14, 2014 at 8:53am

That's a lot of stress Chris!  I'm sorry about your brother-in-law!  Hugs {{{}}}} to you!  He is lucky to have you and your partner to do all of that for him.  I hope his cat gets to know you and isn't afraid anymore.  I also hope, of course, that he comes out of his coma okay.  Take good care of yourself also!

Comment by Plinius on January 14, 2014 at 6:51am

I will be very busy for some time. I have one brother-in-law, who suffers from Asperger's and from anxiety disorder. He's got a hemorrhage in the brain, probably from a fall. Sunday night he got an emergency operation and we're still waiting for him to come out of the coma. While waiting, we went to his apartment to take care of the cat. We hadn't been there for years, brother-in-law hates visitors. But the cat had taken on his anxiety disorder and was scared to death of us. The apartment was a shambles, the sort you see in real life TV-programs - everything was out of order, broken, very dirty and there was a lot of garbage. We attacked the mountains of work at once, but there is enough to do for a month at least. And we still have to wait how brother-in-law fares. He could become his old disastrous self, or get another handicap, or he might die. Whatever happens, my partner and I will have to clean up. I'll read here every day, but most of the time I'm in public transport somewhere between the disaster area, hospital and home. 

Comment by Ian Mason on January 14, 2014 at 12:59am

I think there can be a substantial difference between ignorance and bigotry.

 a person who is obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices; especially :  one who regards or treats the members of a group (as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance

There's a lot of things I don't know but am willing to try to understand. I probably have opinions that will change if I find new information or a convincing arguement but bigotry comes from a closed mind that enjoys hating.

Yes, we are in this together and it's time some people woke up to that .Xtian and capitalist values? "The ruling ideology of any era is the ideology of the ruling class". Marx.

Comment by booklover on January 13, 2014 at 11:15pm
Thank you for the support Joan. I really needed it. I told my sister essentially the same thing about being "against homosexuality" that you said! Lol. I said it was like being "against" left-handedness. I have to say my sister is truly not homophobic, she just REALLY pisses me off when she says it's a "difference of opinion." I lambasted her with how stupid and wrong that was, and told her I was mad she couldn't understand that. I think she does. She's just surrounded by republicans ( sorry if I offend anyone reading this, but I'm a Democrat and as liberal as you can get), and she sticks up for them.
Anyway, we didn't speak for a day, then she messaged me on FB underneath my rant to her a simple XO. ( kiss & hug.). I will let it go at that. I believe she knows I'm right, and I'm not going to fight with her anymore. I'm all the family she has, besides her husband (I don't want to even talk about him, AAARRRRGGGGHHHH!), and her kids, and our Mom.
I WILL NOT let her get away with saying stupid crap though and she knows it. They won't turn Faux News on anymore when my Mom and I are there. I refuse to keep my mouth shut. She thinks I think everyone should agree with ME. I think people should be decent, not bigots, and help others instead of giving lip- service (like praying.) I think she has told her religious, republican, bigoted ( against people of other colors!), husband to keep quiet when I'm around. GOOD! And I'm glad they live in Green Bay. I think things would go bad quickly if they lived in the same city as my Atheist, Liberal husband, kids, mom, and I do!!!
Sorry for the long post with many typos! I'm on my phone, and it's been a long day!!!
Comment by Joan Denoo on January 13, 2014 at 10:08pm

Napoleon, it was 1930. Not so very long ago. And lynching continued.

'THE LAST LYNCHING' In the Bad Old Days, Not So Very Long Ago

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 13, 2014 at 10:03pm

Carl, thank you for including the lyrics to "Hanging Tree". The words wrench one to the core, and cannot be denied.  

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 13, 2014 at 10:00pm

Mindy, I agree with you when you said, "I called her friend a bigot, and I think she's dumb."

Now, what are your alternatives? remain silent? state your thinking? pretend it doesn't matter? act as if you respect their points of view?

What is it that you want to happen? Do you want to stay in communication? or do you want to state your position and let nature take its course? or force the issue, stating your right to your thinking and your rationale? or do you want to change to their position? or do you want them to change to your position?

Once you have these questions answered, you know exactly what to do, and you will be able take action that prevents you from being a victim.  

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 13, 2014 at 9:53pm

Mindy "against homosexuality" is like being against blue eyes. They both are aspects of the same thing ... evolutionary forces that exist in our gene pools. Just throw the dice, and a change occurs in our genetic makeup. To be "against homosexuality" reflects lack of education. When people speak from ignorance, they commit a ignorance fallacy.

According to The Free Dictionary, lack of education is defined as: ig·no·rant  (gnr-nt) adj.

1. Lacking education or knowledge.
2. Showing or arising from a lack of education or knowledge:
an ignorant mistake.
3. Unaware or uninformed.
a :  destitute of knowlede or education;    
also :  lacking knowledge or comprehension of the thing specified <parents ignorant of modern mathematics>
b :  resulting from or showing lack of knowledge or intelligence em>ignorant errors>
— ig·no·rant·ly adverb
— ig·no·rant·ness noun
 

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