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Comment by Patricia on December 14, 2013 at 7:49pm

No fusion Sk8ey, but they did remove the arthritis, which they said would develop again over about 20 years. It's been 15 now & I just got the news on Thursday my back is ''loaded'' with it again when I had an x-ray on my hip. Now I have to have a cat scan to see the extent.

Morphine is deadly for me too, & I got Demerol which was in a pump to dose myself when I needed it.......which was not too often. I think after the sciatic pain nothing comes close so is easier to deal with.

I woke up with the sciatic pain gone too, & feeling in my toes had returned as well. Like you, I have twinges down my left leg or in my butt occasionally, but nothing to set me back.

Medical covers everything here, & I disagree you have to pay through the nose for the rest of your life to stay among the living! It's an outrage, to be polite!

My medical care was great with the exception of one nurse who was so negative, she just irritated me no end. I got rather mouthy after one more incident, but thankfully she wasn't on shift too often. Everyone kept helping me do what I could do, but she was continuously telling me what I couldn't do.

Comment by sk8eycat on December 14, 2013 at 7:38pm

Mindy, did you know that the man who wrote all the song lyrics, and a goodly part of the script for "The Wizard of Oz" (Yip Harburg) was a lifelong atheist?  I have a collection of his poems called "Rhymes for the Irreverent."  Funny stuff.

I think L. Frank Baum was an atheist, too. There is just too much very sly stuff in the first book that pokes fun at religion and conservative politics...IF you look at it in a certain way.  The "heartless" Tin Man, etc.  He was certainly passionate about politics in his private life.

Comment by sk8eycat on December 14, 2013 at 7:24pm

Patricia, did you have fusion along with the Laminectomy?  I did...I have two rods bolted to my lower spine, held in place with grafted donor bone. I was astonished at the low pain level afterwards; maybe it was the fact that hospitals are more knowledgeable about pain management now.  I was allowed smaller doses of pain meds every 2 hours instead of having to wait 4 hours for a larger dose that would always leave me groggy.  (I don't know what they gave me...not morphine.  I am violently allergic to that.)  I was able to sit cross-legged on my bed before I left the hospital 5 days after the surgery. Shocked the physical therapist (who I thought was a smug goody-two-shoes anyway.)  I didn't do the prescribed post-hospital therapy...lack of transportation, and... well...it bores me.

BTW, it was a Catholic hospital; I asked to have the "scarecrow" removed from my room, but they wouldn't do that, so the first day I was allowed out of bed, I draped my "Imagine No Religion" T-shirt over it.  My surgeon (young, secular Jewish) nearly fell on the floor laughing when he saw that.  So did one of my RNs (a gay man...middle-aged...ALL the nurses were fabulous!)

The main thing is that, as you said, the sciatic pain was killing me; I couldn't sit in a chair of any type for more than 5 minutes, so I couldn't get an office job for 10 years.  I knew as soon as I came out of the anesthesia that it was GONE! Oh, every once in a while (maybe every 6 months), I'll feel a tingle in my right leg, but it's a numbness-type tingle, not the hot, screaming pain I had before.

The most painful thing about the whole operation was the amount I had to pay out of my own pocket after Medicare paid its share.  I maxed out my only credit card, and am still making payments on the debt.

I need to have the same thing done on my neck, and I just can't.  It scares me...I had a parathyroidectomy (the incision is the same as for any thyroid surgery) in '92, and the post-op pain and stiffness went on for almost a year.  I couldn't sleep lying down for about 3 months, couldn't turn my head far enough even to look in the rear-view mirrors while driving, etc.

Plus...if I rack up any more debts, I'll lose the house. I wouldn't mind moving to an apartment for low-income seniors, but my sister would, and the house is in both our names.

Comment by booklover on December 14, 2013 at 6:33pm

So glad it worked Patricia!  I had a D & C and several surgeries also, but oddly, they didn't hurt.  I did have my stomach surgery (Nissen Fundalplacation, sp?), and my gallbladder removal , but they were done laproscopically , again I don't know the spelling.  I just felt pressure after, but no pain.  Morphine has NO effect on me.  Weird!  Didn't need it anyway though.  My HUGE medical problem was that EXTREME nausea for 2 years (not every day.)  NO quality of life.  A simple drug, Nortriptylene, gave me my quality of life back.  Not perfect, but good enough!

Comment by Patricia on December 14, 2013 at 6:18pm

Oh I did the birth thing 3 times, tubal ligation, ruptured appendix, laminectomy, the boob reductions, gall bladder, various D&C's, mastectomy, but the topper for pain was the sciatica by far!!!!! No pain meds would ever affect it one bit, so the surgery/recovery was a picnic by comparison, & meds worked for that pain!!!

Strep is no fun either, been there, done that too. 

Comment by booklover on December 14, 2013 at 6:10pm

Thanks Carl and Joan!  He's not feeling better yet, but we are all on nurse-duty!  He can't eat much, but I think his blood-sugar levels have been fairly stable.

Patricia and Felaine, OUCH!!  I can't even imagine the pain.  The worst pain I've ever had was childbirth (with my daughter, my son was super-easy and fast delivery), and gallstones!!!

Comment by booklover on December 14, 2013 at 6:04pm

My son still doesn't feel any better.  Ugh!  His throat is totally white, and he can barely swallow his Penicillin pills. :(  Poor guy!

My daughter, 21, is on a DATE with a 27-year old.  He's the friend of a co-worker (an art camp counselor with her.)  She's met him many times at the mutual friends house, but didn't know if she wanted to go out on a date with him.  Today she accepted.  It just sounds so OLD! lol.  She's only ever dated people the same age as she is!  I don't think my husband is thrilled, but he'll probably not be thrilled with any guy she dates.  It's just a first date, but I'm so glad she's feeling good enough to get dressed-up and go out!

Comment by booklover on December 14, 2013 at 6:00pm

Thanks Felaine!  I have heard things said in the movie that sound very much like that!  I wish I could remember what.  Wow!  I can't believe the book burning over The Wizard of Oz.  I can't believe the believers were smart enough to figure out that that was the message!

Comment by Patricia on December 14, 2013 at 5:27pm

I had sciatica so bad I had to slide out of bed on my stomach & take 4 hours to get to my feet, before I finally had the surgery.

Best thing I ever did although recovery was 2 years. It's a painful surgery but well worth it compared to the sciatic pain.

I had a disk so flat that the surgeon didn't know how I could walk at all, & this was after the cat scan showed I wasn't lying, which he seemed to think at the beginning. He finally clued in to believe what I told him!!!!

I also had arthritis in my lower spine which was removed at the same time, but it's now returned big time although so far my back isn't bothering me.....whew!!!

I have some permanent sciatic nerve damage, but it's definitely not difficult to live with as long as I don't over-do, or stand in one place too long.

If I hadn't had the surgery I would eventually have been paralyzed or worse, & 2 years of physio didn't help in the least.

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 14, 2013 at 5:22pm

sk8eycat I can understand a population of uninformed individuals might object to looking at reality through a metaphor, but for a school district to fall for such tactics is just outrageous. I think the Four Horsemen, and others who are militant in their opposition to ignorance being taught in public school is well justified and I consider myself one of those awful persons who take a militant view in opposition to failure to learn science. In fact, the more I learn, the more militant I become. 

The reality is, I am becoming more confrontive to the negative feedback she gave. One of my counselors at Cancer Care gave me some very bad feedback and I called her on it. She is of the old school; nonsense is nonsense, whether stated by an uninformed or a trained counselor. 

Gee, that feels good, to be able to discriminate between healthy and unhealthy therapy! I am sure her motive was positive even as her information was lousy. 

 

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