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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Seth Andrews' Rebuttal to "10 Women Christian Men Shouldn't Marry" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat on Thursday. 13 Replies

It seems as though some numb-nuts New York pastor by the name of Stephen Kim has written two marriage advice pieces for christian men and women.  Not surprisingly, his suggestions come straight out of his never-fail magic book.  Seth Andrews of The…Continue

Tags: advice, marriage, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, Stephen Kim

Living in the Answers

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Patricia Jan 18. 13 Replies

I am weary of those who declare they understand all the answers to the creation of the universe and Earth. They claim they know the answers to the questions of life, meaning, death, and the afterlife. Those with all the answer speak with confidence,…Continue

Tags: confidence, education, government, family, afterlife

Twin terrorists caught

Started by Patricia. Last reply by Patricia Jan 11. 7 Replies

Canada: twin terrorists caught before going to Mideast Saturday, January 10, 2015 By Martin Barillas L-R: Carlos and Ashton Larmond The Royal Canadian Mounted Police arrested and charged a pair of 24-year-old identical twin brothers on…Continue

Betty Bowers Best of 2014

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Jan 4. 33 Replies

Happy New Year, everyone!  Now that we're off on another 365-day stint of sniping at believers, leave it to America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, to sum up the year past from her holier-than-EVERYBODY point of view! Have You had YOUR Betty today?!?Continue

Tags: 2014, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by booklover Dec 28, 2014. 23 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

Tags: Christmas, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Dec 24, 2014. 11 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

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Comment by booklover on April 25, 2014 at 2:16pm

Thanks Chris!  Hugs to you too!!! <3

Ruth,  I don't miss being young, but I need to work on being a little thinner, just for health.  I just really never liked her much, and I don't want to see her or talk to her.  So, I guess I answered my own question.  Thank you! You are such a nice friend. :)

Patricia, I LOVE your say it like it is style!  I did take your advice and went through my short friends list, and only kept a very few people who I enjoy sharing jokes and pictures with, which mostly include my sister, niece, etc. You're terrific!

And Felaine, you are absolutely correct!  I dumped her 22 years ago, and I DO worry too much!  And this is me on meds for that! lol.  I'm glad you are my friend.

So I will look at FB to get good stuff to share with you guys, and play a few games with my sister (Words with Friends is like Scrabble), and share a few jokes, etc.  Otherwise, AN is the place where the best friends to have are!!! <3 <3 <3

Comment by sk8eycat on April 25, 2014 at 1:58pm

Mindy, friendship, like love, should be unconditional. 

If somebody places conditions on how they should behave toward you, they are NOT True Friends.  DUMP THEM!  I have done that several times in the past 50+ years, and it may have hurt at first (but it usually hurt because they had done something to hurt me and/or mine), but it made life much easier in the long run.

You are a GOOD person, but you worry too much!  If you need FlakeBook to keep in touch with your extended family, limit it to just them, and block everyone else...if that can be done.

That site makes me very nervous; IMO it's useless except for small commercial and non-profit (animal rescue) enterprises.  I'm usually a very private person; I don't want Jack Schidt and his 10,000,000 friends to know what I'm thinking and doing...or not doing. I stick to e-mail to stay in touch. 

And this place.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on April 25, 2014 at 10:59am

booklover, it sounds to me as if you miss being young and thin. I agree that a friend shallow enough to insist that you lose weight to be her bridesmaid might not be attractive. There's a possibility that she's matured. Were I in your situation, I'd tell her the real reason you don't seek her company, and how much her insisting that you lose weight to be her bridesmaid had hurt. Explain how you need friends that validate what's important to you now. Ask if she still has that attitude which so offended you.

Even if you reject her proposal to be a friend, it's healthier to be honest about why. You don't need to make excuses. We're proud of you just as you are.

Comment by Plinius on April 25, 2014 at 10:51am

You don't need advice Mindy, just a hug. You're doing all right! (((HUG)))

Comment by booklover on April 25, 2014 at 7:44am

Hi guys!  I need advice.  I KNOW I shouldn't be on Facebook.  This is what happened and I'm being wimpy about it.  When I had just given birth to my first child, I had already had a miscarriage, then I almost miscarried my daughter.  So I SAT.  And got FAT.  I had always been thin until this happened but I stayed on "chair rest" until I had her.  My then "best friend" was wanting me to be Matron of Honor in her wedding.  I didn't want to, as I actually didn't really even like her all that much, it was sort of a residual friendship from high school.  Then I had to have my gallbladder out.  Then I had a panic attack that was so horrible that I just felt utter despair.  So, this "friend" kept telling me I'd better lose the weight I'd gained, and all the other bridesmaids were thin, so I'd better get thin again before her wedding, etc.

To get to the point, I used to have a problem saying things to people's faces.  I wrote her a nice letter and said thank you for asking me, but I just can't do it right now, I'm having too many health problems, etc.  I even inferred that I didn't have the money, although that was a lie, and could I just be a guest.  She got really mad, etc.  We went back and forth, and the friendship ended.

Today I get a friend-request from her on Facebook, plus a message, "I want to see my old BFF (best friends forever, lol!)

I don't want to !!!!!!  Our time together was as young and pretty and thin, etc. and not based on anything substantial.  I am NOT that person anymore, although I'd take the thin part back. ha ha.

We live in the same city.  But it's a city of 150,000 people so it's not tiny.

My daughter says "F--- no!"  Well I just messaged the woman and said I have anxiety issues, and told her about my life, and asked about hers, but said it would be awkward to try and renew a friendship now. 

I guess I'm asking what you all think.  I think I know the answer. I just needed to talk this out.  Thanks for listening.

Comment by sk8eycat on April 24, 2014 at 8:28pm

Oh, Joan....thank you!  I'm still chuckling, but when I first figured out "Southern Tenant Farmers Union" I bellowed with laughter, and frightened poor Pumpkin off my lap. He's back, but not lying down...he stands on my bony thighs, and sticks his tail (a flagpole) up my nose.

And you said you had no sense of humor...Hah!

That's a keeper!

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 24, 2014 at 8:04pm

sk8eycat , what has the Southern Tenant Farmers' Union got to do with Patricia's trip?

Oh, I looked it up. Thanks. Didn't know that!

Comment by Steph S. on April 24, 2014 at 5:59pm

Love the beautiful pictures and videos you all have been posting. Hectic here - but end of semester will be here soon. Then summer time. It is starting to really warm up here. Finally able to get outside and bike more. This summer I hope to go hiking at more state parks.

Comment by sk8eycat on April 24, 2014 at 4:52pm

Patricia: If I'm being too nosy, tell me to STFU.  Is there no rail service between your home town and Prince George?

I am so disgusted with the lack of "small town" rail connections in the USA any more.  I mean...Pasadena, CA is not exactly a small town, but Amtrak closed the (historic) station and removed the tracks almost 20 years ago.  They also closed the station where I used to board the Coast Starlight (to go to Oregon & Washington) about 10 years ago, and moved it to another, inconvenient stop at the other end of the valley.

I'm sorry...I just think rail travel is more ecologically sound, economical, and much more comfortable and enjoyable than any other method.  But it sure ain't as great as it was 55+ years ago!

Comment by booklover on April 24, 2014 at 4:49pm

Ruth, that cat picture with the flowering trees is absolutely gorgeous!!!!

Nice Patricia!  Have a fun and safe trip!  Cool kitties and a dog to play with! :)

 

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