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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Seeing Things (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 25. 2 Replies

TheraminTrees doesn't release videos very often these days,  but when he does, they are positive GEMS.  Most recent of his works is the following, wherein he dismantles some of the common rebuttals atheist get from believers when we assert our…Continue

Tags: seeing things, YouTube, TheraminTrees

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 15. 4 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

You'll NEVER Guess Who Just Showed Up on Mr. Deity!!!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 14. 11 Replies

I don't believe this one either, but ... well, here it is: And would you believe - Mr. D made me laugh!  RD, that is!Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Mr. Deity

Seth Andrews' Rebuttal to "10 Women Christian Men Shouldn't Marry" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 6. 20 Replies

It seems as though some numb-nuts New York pastor by the name of Stephen Kim has written two marriage advice pieces for christian men and women.  Not surprisingly, his suggestions come straight out of his never-fail magic book.  Seth Andrews of The…Continue

Tags: advice, marriage, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, Stephen Kim

Seth Andrews' New Book, "Sacred Cows" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Patricia Feb 6. 7 Replies

For the last few podcasts, Seth Andrews has been alluding to a new literary effort he's been working on.  Well, the cat is out of the bag ... or perhaps I should say, the cow is out of the barn!  Seth's new opus is entitled: Sacred Cows: a…Continue

Tags: book, Sacred Cows, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Living in the Answers

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Patricia Jan 18. 13 Replies

I am weary of those who declare they understand all the answers to the creation of the universe and Earth. They claim they know the answers to the questions of life, meaning, death, and the afterlife. Those with all the answer speak with confidence,…Continue

Tags: confidence, education, government, family, afterlife

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Comment by Brent Feeney on April 7, 2014 at 10:09pm

Thanks Patricia! =)

Comment by Brent Feeney on April 7, 2014 at 8:20pm

Hey gang, long time no see! 

I know it's been quite a while since I posted here, but I took an extended break from the Nexus for reasons having to do with a weekly commentary I'd been posting at the Water Cooler section of the forum and also promoting a weekly Internet radio broadcast the author of the commentary had been doing (the radio show ended back in late November when the station that had handled the broadcast went off the air).

Someone (who, apparently, is no longer on the Nexus) had been threatening to report me for spamming and it scared me enough to take a breather until now. I knew I hadn't been spamming, but I guess the thought of a drawn-out argument on-line was somethng I didn't have a stomach for.

Many things have happened since I was last here; back in October, my mom had a stroke which, fortunately, wasn't bad as these things go. She was in hospital for several weeks but was OK. She can still speak clearly, though she slurs a few words and forgets some others; she can still walk with help of a cane and she can still use her right arm, though it's been weakened.

Not long after that, I got a job at one of the local Walmarts as a grocery stocker, but that job didn't last very long. I was there right before Thanksgiving until early February, when I was told I had to take a transfer into maintenance or be fired. I took the transfer but found I couldn't do maintenance work (I was doing all right stocking groceries). 

Right before I left, though, mom was back in hospital with what turned out to be a case of congestive heart failure. She was in hospital again for a couple of weeks, but she's doing much better now.

Since then, I've been shuttling back and forth between my place in south St. Louis city and the rest of my family's place (my mom, two sisters, niece and nephew) on the Illinois side of the St. Louis area helping to take care of her. It's not a long trip mile-wise, but does take a bit of time because I have to travel by bus and light-rail as I have no car.

It's been a good thing helping mom out; I get her breakfast and lunch and make sure she gets her medicine taken and anything else she needs. It can be a pain sometimes, but not anything I hadn't been expecting.

I'm gonna try to be more active here as I was previously. I have been keeping up with the posts via e-mail; looks like it's been a pretty active time for everyone.

Hope all of you have been well; talk to you all later.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 7, 2014 at 8:17pm

Patricia, I am so very sorry to learn of your responsibilities imposed on your childhood. It is amazing you have been able to overcome those memories and develop a very funny and friendly side. I am delighted you are here on AN and contributing your humor and wisdom. Very sad news that your brother and you barely know each other. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 7, 2014 at 8:12pm

Oh gosh! Loren, I can't wait for your report. Just have a wonderful time. I hope you get an autograph and a handshake. May the power be with you. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 7, 2014 at 7:36pm

Comment by Idaho Spud on April 7, 2014 at 7:27pm

Joan, I used to visit quite often, but now it's very uncomfortable, sad, and depressing.  I'm not good at socializing under normal conditions, and this family just seems too much for me.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 7, 2014 at 7:08pm

Spud, do you have opportunity to be with your nieces and nephews from time to time? The good news is, one day they will be grown and able to seek out other options, if they have an inkling there are others. Plant seeds when you can. 

All the neighbor kids spend a big part of their summers in my back yard with me. It was tough at first because two mormon families with large families, wouldn't let their kids come over because they know I am a non-believer. With all the other kids here, it became pretty hard for them to keep their kids away. The kids and I just enjoyed the garden and its critters and we didn't talk about beliefs, unless they asked me. I was honest with them about how I think, and I am sure they were questioned by their parents about our conversations. It worked out fine for me and the kids.

They are all growing up now and finding interests with their peers. I don't see them as much anymore. However, they do come by for a visit and "chin wag".  The next generation is still pretty young, just out of diapers, so I don't expect to see them here for another year or so. 

Comment by Idaho Spud on April 7, 2014 at 7:02pm

Joan, "When God was a Woman" sounds like an interesting historical book.

When I was a believer, I didn't think women were put-down by the mormon church, with the possible exception of polygamy.  However, now I see a lot of it.

I also agree with Arp that no one should be trained for a priesthood.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 7, 2014 at 6:58pm

Patricia, thank you for sharing your story. Thankfully, you didn't have to raise a whole bunch of kids; it is bad enough when you had to be the parent for your brother. Sadly, too many children have to parent their siblings with both mother and father working. That is too big a burden to place on a child. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 7, 2014 at 6:55pm

Arp, you make a very good point about no boy or girl should be trained for a priesthood. I had not thought about it in those terms. The real task of a mother and father is to raise each to be fully functioning as an adult, not as an adult who acts and thinks as a child. Every child needs that kind of training. 

Thanks for the feedback!

 

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