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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Seeing Things (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner yesterday. 2 Replies

TheraminTrees doesn't release videos very often these days,  but when he does, they are positive GEMS.  Most recent of his works is the following, wherein he dismantles some of the common rebuttals atheist get from believers when we assert our…Continue

Tags: seeing things, YouTube, TheraminTrees

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 15. 4 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

You'll NEVER Guess Who Just Showed Up on Mr. Deity!!!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 14. 11 Replies

I don't believe this one either, but ... well, here it is: And would you believe - Mr. D made me laugh!  RD, that is!Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Mr. Deity

Seth Andrews' Rebuttal to "10 Women Christian Men Shouldn't Marry" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Feb 6. 20 Replies

It seems as though some numb-nuts New York pastor by the name of Stephen Kim has written two marriage advice pieces for christian men and women.  Not surprisingly, his suggestions come straight out of his never-fail magic book.  Seth Andrews of The…Continue

Tags: advice, marriage, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, Stephen Kim

Seth Andrews' New Book, "Sacred Cows" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Patricia Feb 6. 7 Replies

For the last few podcasts, Seth Andrews has been alluding to a new literary effort he's been working on.  Well, the cat is out of the bag ... or perhaps I should say, the cow is out of the barn!  Seth's new opus is entitled: Sacred Cows: a…Continue

Tags: book, Sacred Cows, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Living in the Answers

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Patricia Jan 18. 13 Replies

I am weary of those who declare they understand all the answers to the creation of the universe and Earth. They claim they know the answers to the questions of life, meaning, death, and the afterlife. Those with all the answer speak with confidence,…Continue

Tags: confidence, education, government, family, afterlife

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Comment by sk8eycat on April 8, 2014 at 11:57pm

Napoleon, is that a mynah?  I used to "know" one who was raised next to a motorcycle repair shop, and he could perfectly imitate a Harley starting up and driving away.  He even went through some motions...rhythmic bobbing during the start-up, and then spreading his wings and leaning forward on his perch during the drive-away part.

Also, my father's aunt had a mynah who would say, "Why don't you get a GOOD cigar?" He's do that when Dad would light up his pipe. (Dad lived with Aunt Grace when  he was going to college...smoking a pipe was supposed to be "cool.")

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 8, 2014 at 11:51pm

Felane, wonderful questions. They go onto the sheet! 

Comment by Ian Mason on April 8, 2014 at 11:46pm

Well done, Joan. You have, as we say in England, bottle.

Patricia, I too search hard for a daily laugh or smile.

Loren, I'm glad you enjoyed your evening but I wouldn't attend myself. I used to take part in debates on Dawkin's website but soon tired of the sycophancy. "I can never be as good an atheist as Richard" was the comment that finally turned me off. Hero worship just isn't a part of my nature.

Comment by sk8eycat on April 8, 2014 at 9:11pm

"Do you really believe that a female was made from the rib of a male?"  OR "In the case of parthenogenesis, how did a woman give birth to a son?  Where did the 'Y' chromosome come from?"

Why didn't YHWH tell his "chosen people" that the earth is NOT flat?

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 8, 2014 at 8:30pm

Please don't misunderstand me. In 1974, when I was first trying to break away from being a victim, I used violence in return to my father. I would do it again. 

However, I find being unattached a better strategy when dealing with believers, especially the kind that want laws enacted that restrict my judgment, i.e. I will fight:

1) those who want to take away the right of a woman to have control over her own body and

2) those who want intelligent design taught in public schools.

In those cases, they intrude on my rights as a human being and an adult. 

In other encounters, I use the Socratic process: 

Do you really believe there is a supernatural energy who made heaven and Earth? 

or a supernatural energy impregnated a woman? 

or a virgin gave birth to a son? 

or a man who had supernatural power lived on the Earth? 

or in a supernatural spirit? 

or a supernatural man died, was buried, descended into hell? 

or a supernatural man who rose from being dead three days?

or a supernatural man ascended into heaven? 

or do you believe you are part of a group chosen by a supernatural being entitled to redemption? 

or that I have to testify that So-or-so is my lord and master? 

or in the communion of saints? 

or the forgiveness of sin? 

or the resurrection of the body? 

or in a life everlasting? 

As I hear their answers, I take note of them; then ask for the evidence they can give to validate their beliefs. 

There is no need to memorize scripture; all you need to remember are the basic principles of what is real and what is delusion. 

No argument is necessary; it is a strategy to ask and hear their answers. Not to argue with them, or challenge them, or to convert them. I simply want to get the question out into the air and hear their responses. The individual with whom I am in conversation may not ever give thought to what I am asking and their answer. But if there is an audience, especially if the audience is young, they have an opportunity to ask themselves whether these things are true or not. 

It is none of my business what another thinks. It is my business to speak my thoughts. The other can scream, shout, pout, cry, plead, demand, threaten, bully or try to dominate. Just come back with a basic question, "Do you really believe ....?" Leave questions in the air. 

Comment by Brent Feeney on April 8, 2014 at 5:44pm

You're right Joan. I shoulda stood up and basically told him to turn me in - and to shove it up a certain portion of his anatomy. That's my fault. I'm not gonna let it happen again.

That's an interesting story as well. Thanks for sharing. Hope you're doing well.

Comment by Idaho Spud on April 8, 2014 at 4:22pm

I love how you stand up to bullies Joan.

Comment by Loren Miller on April 8, 2014 at 4:05pm

And as promised, here's my Postscript to The Unbelievers event last night.  Turns out, it was as big a deal as the movie was, to me, anyway.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 8, 2014 at 4:00pm

Felaine, what a funny site. Thanks for the lead. I will surely make a daily visit there as I prepare for a perfectly wonderful day! 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 8, 2014 at 3:55pm

Brent, each person has to make their own decisions about how to respond to bullies. 

As for myself, every bully I ever stood up to backed down like a splat of snot. I have stood up in court when challenged on a child abuse case, I have faced down a plumber who told me he knew what he was doing, when he clearly was making a mess of the project. 

I guess fear goes after one has acquiesced as I did for 38 years. One day my dad came at me with his fist when we disagreed on how I was to manage my kids. I was 38, my kids were 10 years. old. We had run from an abusive husband and father. As my father approached me with his fist drawn back, I, sitting, lifted both my feet and shoved him as hard as I could. He did a back flop, the other side of a belly flop, and it knocked him out. When he came to consciousness I was standing over him and told him if her ever touched me I would sue him for everything he has and see that he got jail time. 

That was the end of my fear. Once one crosses the line of being a victim to being in charge of ones' life, everything changes.

I am smart enough to know there are some situations over which I have no control, but with a little forethought, one can usually dodge the bullets and blows. 

Stand tall, head held high, shoulders firm, feet anchored to the ground, a spine of steel and face the foe with competence and confidence. You do not exist to be a victim, nor a bully. You are human being worthy of respect and able to take care of yourself. 

There are times you need help, or a shoulder to cry on. That is perfectly healthy and appropriate. So pick your friends carefully and get rid of the bullies in your life. 
Happy Days! 

 

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