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Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

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Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

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Richard Dawkins, Growing Up in the Universe

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 14. 2 Replies

Here is an oldie, the young Richard Dawkins teaching kids about the universe. I especially like the one demonstrating how the eye evolved. This should answer those who believe it was impossible to evolve an eye. Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on March 19, 2015 at 12:45pm

Good morning world! Sun shines, expected to be 62 degrees today, green begins its yearly commencement, my muscles hurt from yesterday's spreading of 3 yards of manure, I am happy, and all is right with the world.  

My older cousin reminded me that we are in our 80th year and I reminded him we are elders. To my way of thinking, that is an honor not many enjoy.  

My thoughts and yours as well are of Carl. His vulnerable body continues to take terrible hits. If anyone can survive all that, Carl will. 

I offer a bit of spring imagery and sound to get is into the swing of coming spring. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on March 19, 2015 at 12:14pm

Chris, this dreadful news provides no reward for all the work you have done for others. With flat feet, unequal leg length, weak ankles and X-legs, that means your spine gets distorted. Not a good way to go into your Golden Years. 

Now for the reality check. 

Is there anything you can do to have less deterioration and pain?

Are you doing those things? 

Are they working? 

If the answer to those three questions is 

"Yes," then you solved the problem.

"No," then you have some choices to make. 

1. Do more of something, do less, or do something else. 

2. Roll up into the fetal position and become a zombie. 

3. Use feelings: cry, moan, depression, anger, sadness, fear.

4. Allow the reality to define you. 

5. Think of yourself in terms of universal time, from the Big Bang realizing that you exist in just a sparkle of time.

6. Decide how you react to your personal reality.

7. Pay attention to the story you tell yourself about the problem, i.e. "nobody wants my opinion. So I'll get used to it" is your story. 

When we get our story wrong, we get our future wrong. 

8. Listen to your story and decide if that is your desired future story. 

Chris, I hope this isn't just boring material to you. My intention is to offer a process to change what is happening to you as being a "winner". You observed people who needed help, and you did what you could to help them. You knew people needed to learn a new language, and you developed a plan and worked it so that you could help them. You grew up in a dysfunctional home and created a different lifestyle for yourself and your partner. Now your body shows the ravages of overwork, not enough rest, perhaps not enough laughter. Whatever your reality, you can turn it into your victory.  

When I see the words "Chris" or "Plinius", I think of a person with courage, intelligence, healthy instincts. I observe pro-activity, a good heart, skills, care, compassion, talent, and empathy. I admire you and feel honored to have such a trustworthy and steadfast friend. 

Comment by Plinius on March 19, 2015 at 11:22am

He didn't tell me, but I've had flat feet all my life.

Comment by Idaho Spud on March 19, 2015 at 10:16am

Sorry about your knees and legs little mermaid.

Did your GP say why you have flat feet?

Comment by Plinius on March 19, 2015 at 5:05am

Another fine mess I've got myself into... My GP told me that the heavy work of the last fifteen years has worn out my knees. On top of that he told me that I have flat feet (I knew that), weak ankles, and legs of unequal length that are slowly turning into X-legs. I think that I'm far too young to turn into the Little Mermaid, but nobody wants my opinion. So I'll get used to it.

Comment by Ian Mason on March 19, 2015 at 3:25am

Carl's operation should be over by now. I hope it went well and that we hear from him soon.

Comment by Plinius on March 19, 2015 at 1:51am

I know the Flemish are always ready for fun, Joan. You know how I think.

Comment by Joan Denoo on March 18, 2015 at 4:31pm

Carl, don't watch this unless you are prepared to laugh!

For those needing a laugh, I just want you all to know that we Belgians stand out in unusual ways. 

I know, Chris, I'm resorting to nationalism again. But, what the heck! 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on March 18, 2015 at 1:00pm

Joan, you have impressive gardening energy. I haven't even removed last year's dead Asiatic Lily stems yet.

My well wishes for Carl too!

Comment by Joan Denoo on March 18, 2015 at 12:37pm

Good morning world! I just came in from a couple of hours in the garden, I am exhausted and ready for a nice nap. Cary and I spread 3 yards of manure over the boxes and piled the rest where I get access to it easily.  

I hope everyone has a great day. I trust my snoring doesn't wake you up! 

 

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