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Local Color in the Neighborhood

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner 10 hours ago. 27 Replies

It's getting on toward peak color season here on the North Coast.  I'm lucky enough to have some truly beautiful examples of it literally right outside my door and a short walk around.  So I thought I'd break out the Olympus and record some…Continue

Tags: trees, local color, autumn, fall

Fall is already here--do you celebrate the holiday season?

Started by Deidre. Last reply by Nick Bottom Oct 15. 25 Replies

I took a brief hiatus from here, and decided to come back. I've missed you guys, and hope you are all doing well. Hard to believe that fall is around the cornerThere's not much of a fall where I live. Having said that, I love Halloween. I don't…Continue

I put my trust in my cancer fighting teams

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Oct 6. 16 Replies

So, something made you ill,then God waited until many people petitioned him,then made you well again.Something makes people around the world illthen no amount of people petitioning Godmakes them well again.Cancer made me ill,I want no one to…Continue

blu (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Oct 3. 10 Replies

After what has seemed like a very long hiatus, TheraminTrees is BACK.  No great surprise, not only hasn't he lost a step, he may actually have gained a few!  That said, may I present:bluContinue

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Don't leave your keys on your desk: company copies keys from photos for $6

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by Grinning Cat Sep 23. 8 Replies

"Keys Duplicated" will make a copy of your house key from smartphone photos, for anyone with a credit card.…Continue

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Optical Illusions

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by sk8eycat Sep 22. 64 Replies

This one seems a bit creepy, like the middle one shouldn't be able to change rotation like that. from Cheezburger.comContinue

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Comment by sk8eycat on February 25, 2014 at 12:42am

Joan, or challenge those who take, and take, and give (secretly) to those who run campaigns to elect people who help the takers get more of whatever they want.  I'm thinking of the Walton family (Walphart), and the Koch brothers who have joined up with Karl Rove...one of the most evil political puppet masters of our era.

Income inequality in the US is so out of line with other industrialized nations that it's outrageous.  Most European CEOs ratio of income compared to average workers is somewhere between 15:1 to 25:1.  In the US it's more like 300:1 to 400:1

Those clowns are just NOT worth that much money ...and thy are using their ill-gotten gainst to change our government at all levels.

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2014/02/24/1279850/-Income-Inequality...

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 25, 2014 at 12:42am

Chris, I am so very sorry you have all these pressures on you. There seems to be no relief for you in sight. Is it possible for you to turn off the phone, to lie back and just catch your breath? Can you say "NO" to some of the demands placed on you? Is there someone who can help?

As I understand your predicament, others make demands on you that they have no right to make. In a way, I am urging you to refuse to be a victim of life's circumstances and set limits that seem right for you. Is that at all possible?  

By all means, you are not weak! Your body gives you messages that you need to pay attention to and honor. You have the responsibility to pace yourself in the many tasks that lie ahead of you. Others have no right to impose tasks on you that are beyond your ability to handle. Your body is your friend telling you to set limits. 

If you feel any shame or guilt at not being able to do all the details, then you can just chuck those feelings in the toilet and get some rest, relax the way that works best for you, and take great pride in your gentle, caring nature.

I join in the group hug; my thoughts are with you hoping you can rest your body and your mind. 

Comment by Ian Mason on February 24, 2014 at 10:44pm

Sorry to hear about your siuation, Chris. Everyone has a point where he/she is over-burdened and you've gone beyong yours. That is NOT weakness. I hope you can find some way of delegating or of taking a break. You deserve some time for yourself. Hugs and good wishes from here.

Nice one, Napoleon. One day it might come true.

Comment by Napoleon Bonaparte on February 24, 2014 at 9:39pm

Comment by sk8eycat on February 24, 2014 at 4:34pm

Chris, you are beyond being able to relax on your own, especially if your heart rate is out of control.  Can't your GP give you something, a mild tranquilizer, to help you get through this stressful period?  So many people think "tranquilizers = evil" but at times we do need more help than our bodies can provide, and I think that's what's happening to you (even though I'm half a world away...almost).  I took care of both my parents at home while they were going through all kinds of medical hell...at the same time, and there were days when I wanted to run away...and leave no forwarding address.  I still feel that way when my sister's autism/Asperger's gets on my nerves, but I can't.  No place to run to, and no car to get me to one.  I'm stuck here.  And I do get occasional chemical help (I don't drink, so I get an Rx for a very mild relaxer, and am looking into herbal remedies.)

In the meantime, I AM thinking of you, wishing someone in your family would realize it's NOT YOUR JOB  to do everything.  And it's NOT YOUR FAULT that you aren't Superwoman.  Nobody is.

Adding my cyber-hugs to Mindy's {{{{{Chris}}}}}  And many purrs and head-bonks from my two lazy cats.  (How does one type a head-bonk?  >^..^<)

Comment by booklover on February 24, 2014 at 3:40pm
Oh Chris! I'm sorry about all that stress! You are right, what a stupid diagnosis from your doctor. I wish I lived by you and could literally take some of your workload from you. All I can offer is a sympathetic ear, and cyber-hugs!!! {{{{{}}}}}
Comment by Idaho Spud on February 24, 2014 at 1:14pm

Chris, I'm sorry about your stress-load.  

I would ask if you can delegate, but that's probably as stupid as your GP's suggestion.  Plus, I hate delegating.  I like things done my way.

I am learning my limit however.  When I reach it, I just refuse to do anymore, despite people thinking I'm lazy.

Comment by Plinius on February 24, 2014 at 10:33am

How I hate being weak! It has been a load of extra work of course, organising for brother-in-law, cleaning out his apartment, taking care of his cat, making everything ready for a move to a home for people with non innate brain damage, washing - have you noticed  how hospital staff find the woman in the patient's family and give her ten kilograms of washing? - visiting the patient, have endless talks with psychologists and social workers. I took the load of course, together with husband - till last week. My heartrate went up to a point where I couldn't sleep anymore, I'm nauseous and dizzy and I've spent the weekend in bed, lying awake and crying when someone says something kind to me. I can manage this, but I really don't know how to manage the extra work. The stupid GP says that I should relax; what a wonderful diagnosis...

Comment by Idaho Spud on February 24, 2014 at 10:23am

Ian, I like your "Screw it, I'm gardening" picture.

Comment by Ian Mason on February 24, 2014 at 9:05am

Joan: first, I agree with Mindy and second, I have 3 sets of skills that have been of less and less use as time has gone on (printer, B.A. lit and care worker) I was already too old to use the B.A. when I'd finished it at the age of 28, most printing work in Europe has now been moved to Poland or the Baltic states (no unions, low pay) and the current financial crisis is causing huge cuts at floor level in care work while the nunber of bureaucrats and "consultants" increases. At age 57 I would never get a place in any new training and am not attractive to employers. The truth is that for working class people in our times you can't win and without a good union you can't break even.

 

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