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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Plinius 12 hours ago. 1 Reply

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo on Tuesday. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

Richard Dawkins, Growing Up in the Universe

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 14. 2 Replies

Here is an oldie, the young Richard Dawkins teaching kids about the universe. I especially like the one demonstrating how the eye evolved. This should answer those who believe it was impossible to evolve an eye. Continue

Tags: universe, teaching, Dawkins, Richard

Seeing Things (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 25. 2 Replies

TheraminTrees doesn't release videos very often these days,  but when he does, they are positive GEMS.  Most recent of his works is the following, wherein he dismantles some of the common rebuttals atheist get from believers when we assert our…Continue

Tags: seeing things, YouTube, TheraminTrees

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 15. 4 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

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Comment by sk8eycat on May 5, 2014 at 3:45am

Comment by Ian Mason on May 5, 2014 at 3:28am

From Asterix et les Gothes. Couldn't find the English version:" I can be a barbarian and still love flowers" is the gist of it.

Comment by sk8eycat on May 5, 2014 at 3:12am

Comment by sk8eycat on May 5, 2014 at 1:37am

Patricia, sometimes I could weep for you, and for others in here who had crappy childhoods.  Mine wasn't perfect, but both my parents encouraged me to ask questions and explore whatever interested me...even my semi-fundie mother.  Things didn't go bad till my early teens when Dad dove into a bottle of gin, and stayed there till after I "ran away to join the circus (ice show)."

I never, EVER invited a boyfriend into the house; I always waited for them on the front porch or on the corner, because I was ashamed of the old man passed out on the sofa.  But that's all; I was never told that I was worthless or going to some imaginary place of torment.

Dad sobered up (after an ugly family intervention that I'm glad I missed), I came home, and went to work for him for 7 years till he fell off the wagon, and I went back with Holiday till I had an appendicitis attack and surgery and was off the ice for 3 months.

I was extremely fortunate that the attack happened while we were playing Los Angeles, and I was living at home at the time.  I was also glad that I was still out of the show a few weeks later when we would have been in Memphis...that was the week MLK was murdered....

I went back to a different unit that summer, hated it, sprained my ankle while we were still in rehearsal, and got sent home.  All my luggage got sent to SFO.

I decided that at 28, living out of  suitcase wasn't the adventure it was when I was 18, and went back to bookkeeping and escrow work.  I still actually enjoy reconciling bank statements and doing manual ledger-keeping.  Making the books balance is sort like getting an ephemeral pat on the back.

Comment by Plinius on May 5, 2014 at 1:28am

Glad it's over, Patricia, and you did it so very well! Congrats!  I'm now also able to keep my balance when I meet the last remnants of my family, but they never make me feel good. Perhaps I should clear them out too.

Comment by sk8eycat on May 5, 2014 at 12:27am

Patricia. I'm so glad the Wicked Weekend is finally over!  You did everything right, and maybe, Just maybe, gave both your daughter and the maternal unit a few things to think about.

As for "forgiving & forgetting," that's bullshit, unless you're referring to cheating at cards, or accidentally tripping somebody...minor stuff.  There a a few individuals on this planet who have hurt me much less than your so-called family has hurt you, and I still will not see them or talk to them, because I know that they are more concerned with themselves than they are with the rest of the world, and I'm in no shape to give them a chance to hurt me again.  And I know they will; they can't help it, and they wonder why they have no friends anymore.

YOU have friends, and a husband who loves you, and will back you up no matter what, and you know what that means?

YOU ARE A WINNER!

Comment by k.h. ky on May 4, 2014 at 4:31pm
Patricia, you did good. I'm not big on forgiveness either but sometimes we gotta tolerate. You tolerated with style.
Comment by Joan Denoo on May 4, 2014 at 3:08pm

Ian a lovely photo of meadow flowers. Oh! to create such a scene! 

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 4, 2014 at 2:40pm

Oh! Patricia! You did it! You were in control of your feelings and not intimidated by her. You won that battle! Even of more importance, you have the tools to take on such people and so gain your own power. Felaine gave you excellent advice. 

One form of powerlessness is doing the opposite of what the powerful one wants and expects. That isn't freedom, that is dependence. So is doing what you think will please her. That is dependence. 

To be free of such influence, you called the shots, you made it a pleasant event for yourself, and my goodness, what a lovely way to have a nice dinner and breakfast, you enjoyed it, and so did your husband, I suspect. So it made no difference to you what she wanted or didn't want you to do. 

You are now FREE and NOT DEPENDENT!

Comment by Ian Mason on May 4, 2014 at 2:33pm

Glad to hear your news, Patricia. Well done. By the way, with that kind of feed on offer you can dislike me anytime :-D

 

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