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Local Color in the Neighborhood

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Plinius on Saturday. 24 Replies

It's getting on toward peak color season here on the North Coast.  I'm lucky enough to have some truly beautiful examples of it literally right outside my door and a short walk around.  So I thought I'd break out the Olympus and record some…Continue

Tags: trees, local color, autumn, fall

Fall is already here--do you celebrate the holiday season?

Started by Deidre. Last reply by Nick Bottom on Thursday. 25 Replies

I took a brief hiatus from here, and decided to come back. I've missed you guys, and hope you are all doing well. Hard to believe that fall is around the cornerThere's not much of a fall where I live. Having said that, I love Halloween. I don't…Continue

I put my trust in my cancer fighting teams

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Oct 6. 16 Replies

So, something made you ill,then God waited until many people petitioned him,then made you well again.Something makes people around the world illthen no amount of people petitioning Godmakes them well again.Cancer made me ill,I want no one to…Continue

blu (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Oct 3. 10 Replies

After what has seemed like a very long hiatus, TheraminTrees is BACK.  No great surprise, not only hasn't he lost a step, he may actually have gained a few!  That said, may I present:bluContinue

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Don't leave your keys on your desk: company copies keys from photos for $6

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by Grinning Cat Sep 23. 8 Replies

"Keys Duplicated" will make a copy of your house key from smartphone photos, for anyone with a credit card.…Continue

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Optical Illusions

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by sk8eycat Sep 22. 64 Replies

This one seems a bit creepy, like the middle one shouldn't be able to change rotation like that. from Cheezburger.comContinue

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Comment by Ian Mason on September 21, 2014 at 2:26pm

Comment by Ian Mason on September 21, 2014 at 2:25pm

Joan/Felaine: having worked in elderly care for 18 years, I've met quite a few people who "enjoy" their illnesses. It means that they're no longer responsible for anything. I myself used the same tactic when I was active as an alcoholic - "I suffer from depression,therefore no-one can expect me to stop drinking".

A pictorial version, by Schutz:

Comment by sk8eycat on September 21, 2014 at 4:49am

Joan, my mother was born in 1905...the middle of 8 children...5 boys and 3 girls.  (Two of them died before age 18...scarlet fever)

  She quit school after the 8th grade to help feed the family. but she never stopped learning...married an MBA from USC (I think he became a closeted atheist somewhere along the line)....was an avid reader. was as thrilled as I was by the Apollo moon landings....but she was also something of an Oklahoma fundie...but stopped dragging me to Sunday School when I complained about not having a "day off" when I was about 10 or 11.

In her later years she went back to reading the buybull, and listened to Gene Scott on a tiny radio (with earphones.)  I don't know if she was more perturbed by my atheism (I made no secret of it) or my sister's JW obsessions.  She specifically said "NO funeral" when it became obvious that her body was failing...

We had no service for Dad, either.  (Pissed off his sister, who married "the son of a preacher-man.") And I paid off my membership with the Neptune Society years ago.

And that's the troooooooththththth,

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 21, 2014 at 3:40am

k.h. ky, when I was a member of the Presbyterian church, we had sessions after sermons when the pastor would meet with anyone who wanted to discuss his sermon. When I would bring up the use of man, I interpreted that as excluding women. The pastor vehemently claimed that man meant men and women. I would respond with something like, "If you mean men and women, then say men and women". He was a stubborn man, with absolute belief in scripture and dogma, and out of stubbornness, I suppose, or maybe out of principle, he never included women when he said man, meaning man and woman. 

The old fart! During one of his sermons, I got up and walked back. The bell had rung for me, I knew I did not belong there. The siren sounded in my head, and I had no other choice, but to leave ... for good. I had some doubts at first, I expected a bolt of lightning to hit my chair, but no such thing ever happened and I am content with my decision. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 21, 2014 at 3:27am

People respond so differently to having cancer or any life threatening disease. Felaine, your mother clearly was a troubled woman and caught in cycles of helplessness and hopelessness. At least with cancer, she could exploit the disease. Your description of her sounds so familiar. People learn how to think of themselves very young and I am wondering about the quality of parenting she had. People growing up at the time she was had very little access to mental health care and if she was born into a dysfunctional family, she probably didn't have any way to see beyond the traditional. 

The good news is, you live in an enlightened age and know how to access resources in order to change the patterns that pass from generation to generation, just as genes pass along. Behavior is different, it is a learned behavior and learned behaviors can be replaced with healthy functioning. 

I am so sorry your sister has Asperger's disease. I know you learned all you could about it, and that is about all you can do. She is a reality in your life. She must create a lot of stress for you. You manage so well, you deserve a lot of credit for your care of her. You are one of the unsung heroes that provides care without complaint, and understands her condition. That is about all you can do. 

Comment by Plinius on September 21, 2014 at 1:51am

There was no one like Orwell to help you see patterns.

Comment by Ian Mason on September 21, 2014 at 1:09am

So, anyone who criticises the Catholic church is a right-wing fanatic. Odd how we others didn't realise that.

Hitchens has been aknowledged, even by those who oppose him, as one of the best users of the English language in writing and debate. He said himself that his biggest influence was Orwell, another champion of clear and simple statement.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 20, 2014 at 1:03pm

Thank goodness we have books written by Christopher Hitchens and so much audio/visual material of him as well.  His words are timeless even though he is no longer here. 

Comment by k.h. ky on September 20, 2014 at 12:54pm
Joan, isn't it ironic, and self serving, that the term 'man' is taken so literally in that book?
Comment by Joan Denoo on September 20, 2014 at 12:53pm

Let's not forget Hitchen's incredible comments of his opinions and the futile attempt of the questioner to stop him. He refused to stop, continued with his narrative and made valid points that people do to silence truth tellers. Hitchens shows that Religion causes otherwise morally sound people ...

 

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