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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

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The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud yesterday. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

Richard Dawkins, Growing Up in the Universe

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 14. 2 Replies

Here is an oldie, the young Richard Dawkins teaching kids about the universe. I especially like the one demonstrating how the eye evolved. This should answer those who believe it was impossible to evolve an eye. Continue

Tags: universe, teaching, Dawkins, Richard

Seeing Things (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 25. 2 Replies

TheraminTrees doesn't release videos very often these days,  but when he does, they are positive GEMS.  Most recent of his works is the following, wherein he dismantles some of the common rebuttals atheist get from believers when we assert our…Continue

Tags: seeing things, YouTube, TheraminTrees

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Feb 15. 4 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

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Comment by sk8eycat on May 29, 2014 at 10:00am

Patricia, most of the time, we let the answering machine pick up...unless we're expecting a call from someone.  If a caller can't be bothered to leave a message, then I can't be bothered to make a mad dash across loose throw rugs and stuff to catch the phone by the 4th ring. 

Before answering machines, cordless phones (and aggressive telemarketing), it used to be considered "only polite" for a caller to listen for 6 rings before hanging up.  Now 4 rings seems to be the maximum.  (Like I'm gonna take a cordless phone into the bathroom with me.  Eye.  Emm.  Sew.  Shurrrrr!)

Comment by Plinius on May 29, 2014 at 1:26am

I love your family stories, Joan! Wonderful how positive these people are!

I'm sorry about your back, Ruth! Like sciatica, I guess. I hope you feel better soon.

 I can imagine you're worried about a BFF with an addiction, Booklover. But your daughter is a sensible person, who'll be careful.

Can you get a secret telephone number, Patricia? It helps a lot.

Husband and I are still working hard at brother-in-law's problems. We're still waiting for him to get a place in a care home, then we can move his stuff and his cat and sell his apartment. We're getting very tired of this job - there's not much left of our lives apart from working and sleeping. But perhaps the bulk of it can be finished before August.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on May 28, 2014 at 11:29pm

Patricia, I'm not on Facebook either but I do get Amber alerts on my smartphone.  Most often the kidnapper turns out to be a parent or other family member.  Our current technology has allowed very swift action and information to be released to the pubic.  I have to say, most times the Amber alerts are cancelled within a few hours because the child has been found. 

Hi, Ruth.  Glad you could come by and say hello.  I hope your condition improves.  I'm sending good thoughts your way.  You should expect them in Pennsylvania very soon. 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 28, 2014 at 3:25pm

Thanks for the baby rescue story, Patricia, and for your family visit, Joan.

Cute kitty cloud, Flying Atheist.

I've been less active lately due to a flare up of pinched nerve syndrome in my lower back. I had trigger point injections last Thursday and am able to use the computer again and return to the gym. Not perfect, but better. It looks as if I may rely more on my walker to take pressure off of my back.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on May 28, 2014 at 2:01pm

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 28, 2014 at 1:41pm

I hope you have seen Cosmos: The Immortals, Season: 1 Episode: 11. It explains the source of the biblical stories that are from the far distant past. If you want more information on the ancient stories, see my post, 

Cosmos, A Space Odyssey, The Immortals, Season: 1 Episode: 11

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 28, 2014 at 12:55pm

Carl, thank you for posting the family "Thank you" and that they focused on those who participated in the recovery of Victoria. A very nice acknowledgement! 

I feel good about this story, and the many others that surface such as this one. Another example is the young mother, Rebecca Vitsmun, who said, "I’m actually an atheist!". It took courage for her to say that word, and she didn't get lynched for being honest about her belief. The fears that keep up bound to silence, keep us bound to bigotry. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 28, 2014 at 12:45pm

Here is a team project putting up antenna on top of the tool shed to get local news. On Sunday, Larry, Zac, Laura and Dominic the dog comprise this team. The tractor holds the base of the ladder. They tried three different length ladders and this system worked the best. 

Zac is building this terrace system to handle the bank. The soil is glacial sand, and the steps have become un-level. Zac said that is a task for another weekend. Eventually, the terrace will extend to the right. Zac cut down the trees and used a draw knife to strip the bark. 

Zac's knives are sharp as a razor blade and he keeps them perfectly honed. He is a millwright at the local lumber mill. 

My granddaughter and Zac are expecting a baby in July and he is building the cradle. A new heirloom is coming into being along with my sixth great-grandchild. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on May 28, 2014 at 12:38pm

Good morning, one and all, I am unwinding from my 11 day visit to Shangri-La in the NE part of Washington state and the forest home of my daughter, son-in-law, my two granddaughters and their mates and five great-grandchildren. This is a most wonderful family I have ever witnessed. They work incredibly hard for five days of the week and while they work, they have what I call "buckets of problems".

They wake up to problems, sort them out, prioritize them, then start working the buckets one or two at a time. While finding solutions, they often stop and think about how to solve the problem of one bucket, explore options, do some test runs, and then progress to a solution. If it turns out the problem isn't solved, they explore, experiment, examine again, make a decision, put it into action, and watch for the outcome. They use this process all through the day, all the while laughing, joking, coming up with some of the most weird Goldberg solutions along the way, and by the end of the day, they prepare a meal fit for royalty, and rest and restore their energy. No unresolved problem gets in the way of their process and it is all done with hard, critical thought, effective and efficient action, and they pay attention to details, evaluating constantly.  

They handle their domestic and animal chores the same way. Identify the tasks that need doing, clarify their goals, explore options, develop action plans including the youngest five year old, do the work, and evaluate outcomes. Wash-rinse-repeat. 

Scattered in this process comes calls for them to run to a fire or accident or medical emergency. Four adult members put on their appropriate gear and head to the emergency, taking the equipment expected to be needed. One grandaughter and the older kids take care of the younger ones and provide backup services, i.e. water, food, as needed. Sometimes the calls come in the middle of the night. They spent one Thanksgiving day fighting a fire and came home to a cooked turkey dinner that we had planned to do together, The kids and I did the dinner and those five youngsters work as a team. 

On the left are Jared and Michelle and to the left of the fire chief in a white shirt is Laura with Larry standing behind her. 

Michelle works hard at training each child how to do the age-appropriate chore and sets high standards of achievement. They know how to do all the chores and how to fill in where needed. The oldest boy is 15 and he functions as a fully mature adult in that family. 

Play is an important part of all their lives, adults and children. Team work and individual activity, whether music, sports, hobbies and creative arts and crafts, or training and caring for their horses, dogs, cats, and the occasional lizard, frog or snake, or injured wildlife fills their day. 

This is team work of the most extraordinary variety. Even the great-grandkids are involved in "working the problem buckets". 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on May 28, 2014 at 10:56am

Hi, Steph!  Thanks.  Hope you have a great week also.

 

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