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Comment by Joan Denoo on February 25, 2014 at 1:21am

Felaine, excellent article, full of good data that reveals the scope of our dilemma. I agree wholeheartedly that it will not be government or wealthy oligarch who will bring us out of this miss. It is the people ourselves. We have to stand up to them, to challenge them, to confront them and then work like the devil to get money out of politics. 

Comment by Plinius on February 25, 2014 at 12:46am

Thanks for the hugs, that is something that really helps. Like Sk8eycat, I'm stuck here, there's no one to delegate. And I was never prepared to let my partner do all the work himself, so I tried to do half of the workload like any partner would. It's bizarre that it can break me in six weeks.

Comment by sk8eycat on February 25, 2014 at 12:42am

Joan, or challenge those who take, and take, and give (secretly) to those who run campaigns to elect people who help the takers get more of whatever they want.  I'm thinking of the Walton family (Walphart), and the Koch brothers who have joined up with Karl Rove...one of the most evil political puppet masters of our era.

Income inequality in the US is so out of line with other industrialized nations that it's outrageous.  Most European CEOs ratio of income compared to average workers is somewhere between 15:1 to 25:1.  In the US it's more like 300:1 to 400:1

Those clowns are just NOT worth that much money ...and thy are using their ill-gotten gainst to change our government at all levels.

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2014/02/24/1279850/-Income-Inequality...

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 25, 2014 at 12:42am

Chris, I am so very sorry you have all these pressures on you. There seems to be no relief for you in sight. Is it possible for you to turn off the phone, to lie back and just catch your breath? Can you say "NO" to some of the demands placed on you? Is there someone who can help?

As I understand your predicament, others make demands on you that they have no right to make. In a way, I am urging you to refuse to be a victim of life's circumstances and set limits that seem right for you. Is that at all possible?  

By all means, you are not weak! Your body gives you messages that you need to pay attention to and honor. You have the responsibility to pace yourself in the many tasks that lie ahead of you. Others have no right to impose tasks on you that are beyond your ability to handle. Your body is your friend telling you to set limits. 

If you feel any shame or guilt at not being able to do all the details, then you can just chuck those feelings in the toilet and get some rest, relax the way that works best for you, and take great pride in your gentle, caring nature.

I join in the group hug; my thoughts are with you hoping you can rest your body and your mind. 

Comment by Ian Mason on February 24, 2014 at 10:44pm

Sorry to hear about your siuation, Chris. Everyone has a point where he/she is over-burdened and you've gone beyong yours. That is NOT weakness. I hope you can find some way of delegating or of taking a break. You deserve some time for yourself. Hugs and good wishes from here.

Nice one, Napoleon. One day it might come true.

Comment by Napoleon Bonaparte on February 24, 2014 at 9:39pm

Comment by sk8eycat on February 24, 2014 at 4:34pm

Chris, you are beyond being able to relax on your own, especially if your heart rate is out of control.  Can't your GP give you something, a mild tranquilizer, to help you get through this stressful period?  So many people think "tranquilizers = evil" but at times we do need more help than our bodies can provide, and I think that's what's happening to you (even though I'm half a world away...almost).  I took care of both my parents at home while they were going through all kinds of medical hell...at the same time, and there were days when I wanted to run away...and leave no forwarding address.  I still feel that way when my sister's autism/Asperger's gets on my nerves, but I can't.  No place to run to, and no car to get me to one.  I'm stuck here.  And I do get occasional chemical help (I don't drink, so I get an Rx for a very mild relaxer, and am looking into herbal remedies.)

In the meantime, I AM thinking of you, wishing someone in your family would realize it's NOT YOUR JOB  to do everything.  And it's NOT YOUR FAULT that you aren't Superwoman.  Nobody is.

Adding my cyber-hugs to Mindy's {{{{{Chris}}}}}  And many purrs and head-bonks from my two lazy cats.  (How does one type a head-bonk?  >^..^<)

Comment by booklover on February 24, 2014 at 3:40pm
Oh Chris! I'm sorry about all that stress! You are right, what a stupid diagnosis from your doctor. I wish I lived by you and could literally take some of your workload from you. All I can offer is a sympathetic ear, and cyber-hugs!!! {{{{{}}}}}
Comment by Idaho Spud on February 24, 2014 at 1:14pm

Chris, I'm sorry about your stress-load.  

I would ask if you can delegate, but that's probably as stupid as your GP's suggestion.  Plus, I hate delegating.  I like things done my way.

I am learning my limit however.  When I reach it, I just refuse to do anymore, despite people thinking I'm lazy.

Comment by Plinius on February 24, 2014 at 10:33am

How I hate being weak! It has been a load of extra work of course, organising for brother-in-law, cleaning out his apartment, taking care of his cat, making everything ready for a move to a home for people with non innate brain damage, washing - have you noticed  how hospital staff find the woman in the patient's family and give her ten kilograms of washing? - visiting the patient, have endless talks with psychologists and social workers. I took the load of course, together with husband - till last week. My heartrate went up to a point where I couldn't sleep anymore, I'm nauseous and dizzy and I've spent the weekend in bed, lying awake and crying when someone says something kind to me. I can manage this, but I really don't know how to manage the extra work. The stupid GP says that I should relax; what a wonderful diagnosis...

 

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