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Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randall Smith yesterday. 9 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

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Comment by Plinius on September 8, 2014 at 3:21am

Grinning Cat, I don't have a driver's licence! =^.^=

But I always have a donor codicil with me, so if I'm hit by the tram they can start recycling at once.

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 7, 2014 at 11:38pm

k.h. ky, I'm glad you don't agree with me. Of course, you are correct! Carl should do whatever works for him. If whining, pouting, asking "why me", or sitting on a pity-potty works for him then he should do whatever. 

Thoughts, words and actions of a victim pull a person down faster than anything I know. Depression is a great killer and the way to become depressed and anxious is to feel, think and act like a victim. 

Change the language/change the feeling. Give it a try. Talk to yourself using negative frames and see how quickly you go into the dumps. Using pro-active language, such as, "I can do this!" or "Just get through one more minute/hour/day ..." or "This challenge is real and I am up to it!" brings better outcomes for seriously ill people. 

If a seriously sick person needs to vent, we are strong enough to walk that walk with him or her. If that same person wants to mobilize all his or her resources toward flourishing, then language can facilitate it.   

I know I sound tough, and that is what healing is all about., Kidney failure, cancer, infections and diseases need a kind of toughness to make it over the hump. As participant observers we can hold their hands, listen to their feelings, hear their struggles, pay attention to their fears, respect their anger, appreciate their sadness, be sensitive to their grief, sit with them through treatments, encourage them and affirm them as being up to the tasks. 

Comment by k.h. ky on September 7, 2014 at 11:01pm
Hey, Joan, this is one time l don't agree with you.
Carl, whine all you like. If not now when.
Comment by Joan Denoo on September 7, 2014 at 9:20pm

Carl, I know the feeling of starting a process and not knowing how it will all end. Of course, we know you will be a good patient and follow instructions without whining. One day when I was trying to figure out all the scheduling and was confused, I started crying. Cary told me that crying doesn't help and boy did I realize those were my words coming back at me. Do be alert for any signs of depression and get on it right away with a person who works with kidney transplants. For me, Cancer Care Northwest has an outstanding cancer therapist and she was able to pull me out of fast spiral down. Nip it in the bud because depression can be very serious. 

My neighbor had a young girl and brand new baby girl about 20 years ago and suddenly went into cardiac emergency. She had a heart transplant and is now pulling hoses around her yard as if nothing happened to her. That young girl is now a dentist. 

Comment by Grinning Cat on September 7, 2014 at 8:41pm

Carl, I'll add one more voice to those of us who may not have met you face to face, but care and are rooting for you! I'll heartily second this page full of comments.

Patricia, that church sign is a keeper. (I think it's a well-done photoshop.)

Plinius, many U.S. states let you declare your wish to donate organs on your driver's license. (I did.)

Comment by sk8eycat on September 7, 2014 at 7:30pm

k. h., I used to do that, but "they" won't even let me donate blood anymore...age, diabetes, and the meds I'm on apparently make me ineligible.  Shameful.

Comment by k.h. ky on September 7, 2014 at 4:12pm
I've signed my drivers license to be an organ donar ever since ky made it an option many years ago.
I wish more people would. My daughter does the same thing.
Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 7, 2014 at 11:51am

My many thanks to everyone here for all your supportive words and thoughts.  I'm quite moved.  I can't ask for more than to have a group of cheerleaders in my corner rooting for me from miles and miles away.  Thanks so much. 

Joan, I will be making a phone call this week to start the transplant process.  This is all new to me, and I don't know the timeframe or any procedures.  I'm just going with the flow and hoping it goes smoothly.  I have an excellent kidney specialist that I've been seeing who makes me feel very comfortable and confident. 

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on September 7, 2014 at 10:21am

Carl, so sorry to hear you have to go through this. I'm glad you have a positive and supportive family situation. You're very lucky for that.

Comment by Randall Smith on September 7, 2014 at 7:39am

Patricia, the message is pure gold. But I'm confused as to why it's on a church board. Who's responsible?

Ian, I was having trouble with the letters being cut off. Seems okay today.

 

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