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Seth Andrews' Rebuttal to "10 Women Christian Men Shouldn't Marry" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat on Thursday. 13 Replies

It seems as though some numb-nuts New York pastor by the name of Stephen Kim has written two marriage advice pieces for christian men and women.  Not surprisingly, his suggestions come straight out of his never-fail magic book.  Seth Andrews of The…Continue

Tags: advice, marriage, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, Stephen Kim

Living in the Answers

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Patricia Jan 18. 13 Replies

I am weary of those who declare they understand all the answers to the creation of the universe and Earth. They claim they know the answers to the questions of life, meaning, death, and the afterlife. Those with all the answer speak with confidence,…Continue

Tags: confidence, education, government, family, afterlife

Twin terrorists caught

Started by Patricia. Last reply by Patricia Jan 11. 7 Replies

Canada: twin terrorists caught before going to Mideast Saturday, January 10, 2015 By Martin Barillas L-R: Carlos and Ashton Larmond The Royal Canadian Mounted Police arrested and charged a pair of 24-year-old identical twin brothers on…Continue

Betty Bowers Best of 2014

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Jan 4. 33 Replies

Happy New Year, everyone!  Now that we're off on another 365-day stint of sniping at believers, leave it to America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, to sum up the year past from her holier-than-EVERYBODY point of view! Have You had YOUR Betty today?!?Continue

Tags: 2014, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by booklover Dec 28, 2014. 23 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

Tags: Christmas, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Dec 24, 2014. 11 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

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Comment by booklover on August 20, 2014 at 6:29pm
Well my upper- endoscopy went fine. They didn't find anything to be concerned about. They did take a few samples to check. They said the Nissen Fundoplication I had looked crappy. It was sloppy looking she said. Maybe the surgeon did a bad job, or whatever, but she suggested not having it done again. I will just have to put up with the bad reflux. Follow-up in 3 weeks. Then I will feel real relief if the biopsy is fine. The doctor today was not concerned though, so I do feel relief.
Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 20, 2014 at 10:35am

Well, despite my vow to embrace turning 50 years old last month, it has hit me like a ton of bricks.  lol    While recuperating, I have only been leaving the house to get food and supplies or to keep my numerous doctor's appointments.  Yesterday, I went to the eye doctor.  I'll be wearing glasses full-time now to correct vision problems I've been having.  No big deal, though.  I'm kind of looking forward to getting them in two weeks.  I'll be able to read books again!

Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 20, 2014 at 10:17am

Thanks, everyone, for all your words of support.  It means a lot to me.  I know I can come here and find a receptive ear when needed. 

Joan, my panic attacks seem to be under control now that my kidneys are stabilized.  I'm definitely feeling calmer and more at ease.  Knowing what the problem is and having it taken care of is half the battle, physically and mentally. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 20, 2014 at 9:29am

Carl, this dreadful news must have hit you hard, even though your body was probably sending you messages for some time. I am so grateful the doctor caught it before a heart attack or some other dastardly event. You are a smart fellow and know how to research and ask questions and seek information so that you can take as complete control as possible. 

The trick now is to feel that you are not a victim, but a warrior taking on a challenge of a lifetime. Each day, each moment, you have things to do to help correct the malfunction of your kidneys. It is very easy to fall into a depression, I did, and get help with that immediately. Don't think it will go away with positive self-talk. Depression is far more insidious than that. 

I/we am/are with you, dear friend, able and willing to read whatever you feel like pumping into the computer. We are survivors. More importantly, we are the thrivers of the world. We flourish in the face of illness, disaster, misfortune. Life is more than our illness. 

It is a good idea to get help with panic attacks. It usually takes only short term care to get over them, but it does require a skilled practitioner. 

Comment by Plinius on August 20, 2014 at 3:20am

That's horrible news, Carl! I hope you feel better already now your treatment started!

I hope your check up brings good news, Mindy!

And thanks for the info, Joan! Your country has got a recipe for disaster, and I hate to think that our government wants to copy that recipe.

My pc is away for repair - I forgot to copy favorites and e-mail adresses, so I hope it will be back soon.

And I surely have the most nervous black cat in the world; last Sunday there was a big fire some  7 kilometres away, but the smell of it was in our house when we came home. Dido had been worrying and he couldn't pee once more. Luckily I had the medicins for it! 

Comment by sk8eycat on August 20, 2014 at 12:48am

Oh.  I thought you said (some time ago) that you had once flown into BUR, and had to take a shuttle (or something) to OC or LAX.

In any case, get well, wave as you fly over....OK?

Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 20, 2014 at 12:10am

Joan, for quite a long time I've been experiencing muscle weakness, especially in my knees and legs.  Over the past two years I have fallen or tripped easily.  I just found out this is due to a particular enzyme not being flushed out of the body by the kidneys.  I've also had bouts of panic attacks and racing heart beat and hypertension.  I've also had no energy and was very lethargic.   

A couple of weeks ago I was ordered to the emergency room by my doctor after some lab results came back.  I was having kidney failure.  I also had an extremely high potassium level which was giving me an erratic heart beat.  I was on the verge of having a heart attack as a result of the kidneys not getting rid of excess potassium.  Lucky this was all caught in time before any of this became fatal.  I was pretty close at that point. 

My condition was stabilized in the hospital. Now that I'm home I am recuperating, but it will take some time.  I'm still feeling very weak.  Side-effects from my drugs includ horrible insomnia, shortness of breath, terrible swelling in my legs and feet and a general feeling of lethargy and lack of concentration.  I also have an insatiable thirst which causes me to drink a lot which then causes me to urinate frequently. 

As of today I'm at the half-way point of two months away from work.  Hopefully during the next month I will continue to progress nicely as the medication side-effects start to diminish.

You are correct, Joan, this condition is mainly controlled by eating a low-sodium diet and keeping my blood pressure down   

Sk8eycat, hopefully one day soon I'll be back flying over your house.  However I've never flown into Burbank.  We only fly into LAX and Orange County out of Chicago O'Hare.  Believe me, If I flew into Burbank, I'd pick you up and take you to lunch. 

Comment by sk8eycat on August 19, 2014 at 10:30pm

Carl, Ohhhhh, no!  Will you be able to go back to work eventually....when they get the meds and disease under control?  I'm selfish; I hate the thought of you not flying into BUR anymore.....

Comment by booklover on August 19, 2014 at 10:11pm
Joan, Nortryptylene gave me back my quality of life. It's been a lifesaver for me.
There is a condition , called Barrets (sp?) esophageous, that is not cancer, but can become cancer. My brother- in -law has it from reflux. They will check me for that. You are right, I will have it checked over and over to make sure things stay "safe."
The only thing I hated giving up was coffee. I do love coffee!!! Oh well!
Comment by Joan Denoo on August 19, 2014 at 9:59pm

Mindy, these sound like dreadful conditions. Yes, I would worry about the reflux potentially causing changes to the cells in your esophagus. Good to have it checked, again, and again, if necessary. 

Have you found any strategies that seem to help? Eat small bites, for example, or chew your food thoroughly, drink lots of water, are the first things that come to mind. 

Your Rx, Nortryptylene, lists a lot of unpleasant side effects. Oh Goodness! My disease was easy compared to yours. I surely hope you get it under control. 

 

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