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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Comment by The Flying Atheist on January 24, 2014 at 12:00pm

Spud, it's always a pleasure to read your comments and to hear your views.  I second what Chris said......it would be fun to sit down and share a baked potato meal with you. 

When my sister lived in northern California, years ago she gave me the cookbook "Small Potatoes" from the Luther Burbank Home and Gardens in Santa Rosa.  The whole book is everything potatoes.  From appetizers, soups, salads, breads, entrees, and desserts.  I've had a lot of good eating from that book.   

Comment by booklover on January 24, 2014 at 11:53am

Spud, I agree that coming here helps.  I'm sorry there is no one to talk to in person, but we are real friends here.  I always say I like you guys better than most friends I have in person, because I don't have to try and not talk about religion with most of them. 

As soon as one thing is over and I don't have to worry about it, up pops another one!  Life sucks sometimes! lol.  And I'm on meds for it!  I know I drive my husband crazy when I immediately go to the worst case scenario upon hearing something having to do with my kids' health.  I don't even care about myself except in the context of what it would do to my kids if something happened to me.  At 19 and 21, they still need me. 

I need to learn to meditate or something! :)

Comment by Napoleon Bonaparte on January 24, 2014 at 11:41am

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 24, 2014 at 11:15am

Spud, I know what you mean when you wrote, "her thoughts are too Buddhist for my taste." They get on my nerves sometimes as well. I love the feedback. You are a true friend, honest, to the point, and clear. I have to say this site encourages such attributes. 

Comment by Plinius on January 24, 2014 at 9:57am

How I wish I could drop in for tea and a potato, Spud!

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 24, 2014 at 9:38am

Mindy, I can understand how you are stressed.  I would be much worse if I had children to worry about.

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 24, 2014 at 9:35am

Mindy, I'm a worrier too.  I don't handle stress well.  

My depression and stress have decreased dramatically since leaving mormonism behind, but I still have them more than I want.

I think this site helps a lot.  Joan is always giving good thoughts to calm us down, and I know she helps me, even though some of her thoughts are too Buddhist for my taste.  

Others here help me also, mostly by just being someone to talk to, limited as it might be on the internet.

Being alone, with no one to talk to is the greatest factor in my depression and stress.

Comment by booklover on January 24, 2014 at 8:06am

Thanks Patricia and Joan.  My son has always been a "money guy."  My daughter just laughs because she never has money.  Even when he was young, for instance, a neighbor just walked across the street, gave him $100, and asked if he'd mow her lawn 4 times while she was out of town.  I think he was 12.  People just give him jobs and gifts, lol.  I hope it stays that way! :)

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 23, 2014 at 11:22pm

Hey, What a son! Just a few rapids in the river of life. The good news is you and he have the courage, and wisdom, and intelligence to take them on, one at a time, and move past them. 

As you know, I am not a great fan of Buddhism, but I do the smorgasbord thing with their teachings. I found simple phrases help my move past a worry, i.e.

"What is, is" (Daniel likes this one, too). or

"The cause of all suffering is desire; end desire; end pain." or 

"If a problem is fixable, fix it. If it is not fixable, then there is no help in worrying." 

"Change takes place through action, not prayer or meditations, but action." 

I would change this one to:

"Change takes place through thought and action, not prayer or meditation, but through thought and action."

There is an old Liberation theology belief that Paulo Freire taught, that thought without action is of no value; action without thought is chaos.

"Choose thought + action = Praexis."

You know how those silent things we tell ourselves that keep us from solving a problem or conflict? Well, they are the negative self-talk that can spell the difference between success and failure. I can't cite the study that was done, but I remember the finding. Mountain climbers who say to themselves, "I can't do it" have less success at mountain climbing than the climbers who say to themselves, "I can do this!" 

Good thinking and doing!

Comment by Patricia on January 23, 2014 at 9:44pm

Sounds like your son is money smart!

 

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