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Seth Andrews' Rebuttal to "10 Women Christian Men Shouldn't Marry" (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Jan 22. 13 Replies

It seems as though some numb-nuts New York pastor by the name of Stephen Kim has written two marriage advice pieces for christian men and women.  Not surprisingly, his suggestions come straight out of his never-fail magic book.  Seth Andrews of The…Continue

Tags: advice, marriage, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, Stephen Kim

Living in the Answers

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Patricia Jan 18. 13 Replies

I am weary of those who declare they understand all the answers to the creation of the universe and Earth. They claim they know the answers to the questions of life, meaning, death, and the afterlife. Those with all the answer speak with confidence,…Continue

Tags: confidence, education, government, family, afterlife

Twin terrorists caught

Started by Patricia. Last reply by Patricia Jan 11. 7 Replies

Canada: twin terrorists caught before going to Mideast Saturday, January 10, 2015 By Martin Barillas L-R: Carlos and Ashton Larmond The Royal Canadian Mounted Police arrested and charged a pair of 24-year-old identical twin brothers on…Continue

Betty Bowers Best of 2014

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Jan 4. 33 Replies

Happy New Year, everyone!  Now that we're off on another 365-day stint of sniping at believers, leave it to America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, to sum up the year past from her holier-than-EVERYBODY point of view! Have You had YOUR Betty today?!?Continue

Tags: 2014, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by booklover Dec 28, 2014. 23 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

Tags: Christmas, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Dec 24, 2014. 11 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

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Comment by Joan Denoo on September 7, 2014 at 11:38pm

k.h. ky, I'm glad you don't agree with me. Of course, you are correct! Carl should do whatever works for him. If whining, pouting, asking "why me", or sitting on a pity-potty works for him then he should do whatever. 

Thoughts, words and actions of a victim pull a person down faster than anything I know. Depression is a great killer and the way to become depressed and anxious is to feel, think and act like a victim. 

Change the language/change the feeling. Give it a try. Talk to yourself using negative frames and see how quickly you go into the dumps. Using pro-active language, such as, "I can do this!" or "Just get through one more minute/hour/day ..." or "This challenge is real and I am up to it!" brings better outcomes for seriously ill people. 

If a seriously sick person needs to vent, we are strong enough to walk that walk with him or her. If that same person wants to mobilize all his or her resources toward flourishing, then language can facilitate it.   

I know I sound tough, and that is what healing is all about., Kidney failure, cancer, infections and diseases need a kind of toughness to make it over the hump. As participant observers we can hold their hands, listen to their feelings, hear their struggles, pay attention to their fears, respect their anger, appreciate their sadness, be sensitive to their grief, sit with them through treatments, encourage them and affirm them as being up to the tasks. 

Comment by k.h. ky on September 7, 2014 at 11:01pm
Hey, Joan, this is one time l don't agree with you.
Carl, whine all you like. If not now when.
Comment by Joan Denoo on September 7, 2014 at 9:20pm

Carl, I know the feeling of starting a process and not knowing how it will all end. Of course, we know you will be a good patient and follow instructions without whining. One day when I was trying to figure out all the scheduling and was confused, I started crying. Cary told me that crying doesn't help and boy did I realize those were my words coming back at me. Do be alert for any signs of depression and get on it right away with a person who works with kidney transplants. For me, Cancer Care Northwest has an outstanding cancer therapist and she was able to pull me out of fast spiral down. Nip it in the bud because depression can be very serious. 

My neighbor had a young girl and brand new baby girl about 20 years ago and suddenly went into cardiac emergency. She had a heart transplant and is now pulling hoses around her yard as if nothing happened to her. That young girl is now a dentist. 

Comment by Grinning Cat on September 7, 2014 at 8:41pm

Carl, I'll add one more voice to those of us who may not have met you face to face, but care and are rooting for you! I'll heartily second this page full of comments.

Patricia, that church sign is a keeper. (I think it's a well-done photoshop.)

Plinius, many U.S. states let you declare your wish to donate organs on your driver's license. (I did.)

Comment by sk8eycat on September 7, 2014 at 7:30pm

k. h., I used to do that, but "they" won't even let me donate blood anymore...age, diabetes, and the meds I'm on apparently make me ineligible.  Shameful.

Comment by k.h. ky on September 7, 2014 at 4:12pm
I've signed my drivers license to be an organ donar ever since ky made it an option many years ago.
I wish more people would. My daughter does the same thing.
Comment by booklover on September 7, 2014 at 12:38pm
I'm so glad you have a Specialist that you are comfortable with, Carl. It makes a big difference! Keep us posted, and know we are thinking of you, and rooting for you!
Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 7, 2014 at 11:51am

My many thanks to everyone here for all your supportive words and thoughts.  I'm quite moved.  I can't ask for more than to have a group of cheerleaders in my corner rooting for me from miles and miles away.  Thanks so much. 

Joan, I will be making a phone call this week to start the transplant process.  This is all new to me, and I don't know the timeframe or any procedures.  I'm just going with the flow and hoping it goes smoothly.  I have an excellent kidney specialist that I've been seeing who makes me feel very comfortable and confident. 

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on September 7, 2014 at 10:21am

Carl, so sorry to hear you have to go through this. I'm glad you have a positive and supportive family situation. You're very lucky for that.

Comment by Randall Smith on September 7, 2014 at 7:39am

Patricia, the message is pure gold. But I'm confused as to why it's on a church board. Who's responsible?

Ian, I was having trouble with the letters being cut off. Seems okay today.

 

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