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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

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Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joan Denoo Apr 21. 81 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

Richard Dawkins, Growing Up in the Universe

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 14. 2 Replies

Here is an oldie, the young Richard Dawkins teaching kids about the universe. I especially like the one demonstrating how the eye evolved. This should answer those who believe it was impossible to evolve an eye. Continue

Tags: universe, teaching, Dawkins, Richard

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Comment by Ian Mason on October 25, 2014 at 4:38am

I hope the professionals manage to diagnose your mother's problem and find some way of easing it Brent. Good luck with the writing. It's very rewarding to be able to do something you have a passion for.

Comment by sk8eycat on October 24, 2014 at 11:59am

Brent, obviously xians believe they WILL "get out of it alive."  DUH!

Comment by Brent Feeney on October 24, 2014 at 11:45am

Thanks everyone for the kind words.

Sk8eycat, that hadn't crossed my mind about a TIA. I know she has a lifeline-type device that she can call for help, but one of us - me, sisters, niece and nephew - is always here so if anything goes wrong, we can call 911 and go from there.

I'll mention to the older of my sisters (I'm the oldest, with my brother next and then the two sisters) this idea and see how she wants to run with it. She's the shot-caller when it comes to mom's care, but it may not be a bad idea.

And yes, it's part of the whole process, I know. As was once put by someone, we're all speeding towards death at the rate of 60 minutes every hour. Or, as the great social philosopher Bugs Bunny put it - "the thing about life is - you'll never get out of it alive."

Comment by sk8eycat on October 24, 2014 at 10:27am

Brent, did anyone suggest that your mother had a Transient Ischemic Attack (TIA)?  I started having them when I was in my mid 50s, and had NO insurance, so went to a county hospital.  Nobody had a clue, but since it was/is a teaching hospital, they kept testing, scanning, etc.  It was all very frightening....I would lose control of my hands, legs, and/or mouth, sometimes just for part of a minute, sometimes longer.

They finally ran a carotid Doppler scan (because most TIAs are caused by intermittent blockage of the blood flow to the brain), and they found the cause.....in my case it was a grossly enlarged parathyroid that would press on the artery when I would turn my head a certain way....removed it, and no more TIAs.  So far.  (That was 20 years ago.)

They can be caused by almost anything...a clot or arterial sclerosis.....If your mother's insurance will cover it, make the doctors keep looking till they find the cause.  And/or get her on one of those services where she can just press a button and call for  help....IF such a thing exists where she lives.

Comment by Plinius on October 24, 2014 at 2:21am

Best wishes to you, Brent. I'm glad you're there with family that can work together and help your mother.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on October 23, 2014 at 11:01pm

Hi, Brent.  Glad you had a moment to sign on and say hello.  Sounds like you really have your hands full.  Sorry you've had some unsettling moments with your mother recently.  She's lucky to have you and your sister around.  I hope she continues to stabilize.

You sound very excited about your future prospects in writing.  I sure hope that all works out for you.  My best regards to you, Brent.  Thanks for the stopping in.  Feel free to do so more often if you're able.    

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 23, 2014 at 10:54pm

Brent, I know the changes taking place in your mother's behaviors and difficult to watch. The fact that you have good doctoral care, and had tests done is about all you can do. 

Because my cancer chemo and radiation were hard on my heart, I am having some symptoms not unlike your mother's. It is terribly frightening for my son. I am in no plain at all, but I have a change in behavior. Please don't let these changes upset you. They are part of the processes of aging. There is nothing you can do except be there for your mother and comfort her. If she becomes afraid, reassure her and maybe hold her if she likes that. She is doing the best she can. You are the caregiver now. You need to stay calm and do whatever it is that you need to do to assure her good medical care. Reassure her that she is not alone and that you are there for her. 

I am happy to learn of possible opportunities for you in the "news game". I hope all goes as you wish.

Thanks for keeping us posted.  

Comment by Brent Feeney on October 23, 2014 at 10:17pm

Hope everyone's doing well these days. Wanted to stop by and give everyone an update on what's been going on, especially with mom.

Overall, she's still doing well (the first anniversary of her stroke took place Tuesday), but back in September - not long after my birthday - something went a bit wrong.

She had just had a shower getting ready for a scheduled doctor's appointment and was getting dressed when she suddenly felt dizzy and weak. She was sitting on the toilet, so there wasn't any danger of her falling, but she almost felt out of it. She was speaking gibberish for a bit and looked blank.

My sister was there with me and she called the doctor to describe her symptoms. The doctor recommended she head to the hospital immediately, which she did. She would up staying for two days and the doctors there thought she had a seizure.

Some medication was prescribed for her, but it didn't work very well, plus it was leaving her pretty much out of it - sleepy, groggy and all sorts of things. We've weaned her off the medicine for that, and she's back to normal. We're not wondering if she had a recurrence of congestive heart failure or something else. All the tests that were ran on her in hospital either came back inconclusive or showed no new damage to her brain.

It really bothered me seeing her so out of it because of the meds. I continue to help take care of her during the week and glad she's better, though she still has some moments.

Personaly for me, I may be getting back into the news game. I've been doing some roundup-type stuff or a group of small weeklies near where I am (a long-time friend of mine, after being out of work for a few months, got a job at the papers and asked me to help). There's some other things going on I can't comment on at the moment, but I can say there's some good possibilities that may be coming down the pipeline.

Wish me luck on that!! I still have the writing biz in my blood, believe me.

Comment by Ian Mason on October 23, 2014 at 12:48pm

I've no idea about the cats, Spud. Just a Google search.

Comment by Grinning Cat on October 23, 2014 at 12:04pm

Mindy, well put, at least about the convinced, fully believing Christians. It's part of the mindware's "immune system" that suffering and dying "can't be" evidence that the belief system doesn't work so well, but rather reinforce that the mindware is "right" -- because everything will be made right in heaven.

I'll share again DarkMatter2525's video pointing out that most Christians might hope for heaven, but don't really believe in it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dMaK6k4oZ20

 

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