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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by booklover 2 hours ago. 23 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

Tags: Christmas, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller on Wednesday. 11 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Chris G Dec 15. 9 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat Nov 26. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 24. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 22. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on September 20, 2014 at 12:53pm

Let's not forget Hitchen's incredible comments of his opinions and the futile attempt of the questioner to stop him. He refused to stop, continued with his narrative and made valid points that people do to silence truth tellers. Hitchens shows that Religion causes otherwise morally sound people ...

Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 20, 2014 at 12:53pm

I want to correct a mistake I made in an earlier post.  I stated that Chicago's cardinal George compared the gay community to Nazis.  That was wrong.  He compared the gay community to the KKK.

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 20, 2014 at 12:42pm

Carl, I see no reason to respect comments such as Francis George made nor do I have any rationale to regard their opinions on anything. Yes, I acknowledge religious do some outstanding work in outreach, that provides no logic to overlook their slaughters, negative judgements of women, gays, and in historical past, Blacks.

When religious try to manipulate a discussion by referring to their good works, they change the subject matter and avoid the subject of domination. Man shall have dominion over all that swims, crawls and flies, Genesis 1:26.

Their generosity is a different subject than their factual history. They are two separate subjects and cannot be included in the same discussion. Choose their charity or their history and then change to the other.

Heretics burned at the stake 

Comment by Ian Mason on September 20, 2014 at 11:56am

Sorry to hear that you're having a difficult time, Ruth. I hope things take a turn for the better soon.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 20, 2014 at 9:15am

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Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 20, 2014 at 9:13am

Joan, I had no idea you had first hand experience in dealing with the RCC in Spokane! 

Chicago is a VERY highly catholic city, so any news of this type is prominently featured in the local media ad nauseum.  (rolling my eyes with disdain.) 

Our current cardinal Francis George was criticized a few years ago for calling the gay community "Nazis" because our Sunday pride parade passed by the front of one of their parishes, thereby ruining the day for the parishioners.  How dare we! 

I see that Cupich was very vocal against the passage of Washington's same-sex marriage law.  And he is considered a "moderate" compared to the more conservative cardinal George. 

Comment by sk8eycat on September 20, 2014 at 9:10am

Ooooohhh!  I like that Hitchens quote; I'll have to remember that.

Comment by Plinius on September 20, 2014 at 4:14am

I've heard that before, people hanging on to their disease - and wondered why. Not being special, of course. I sometimes thought that they must be afraid to face the daily struggle. All the more reason to pity them, but quite horrible if you happen to live in the same house with them.

I remember a Hitchens quote - :"I'm not fighting cancer, the cancer is just killing me."

Comment by sk8eycat on September 20, 2014 at 2:13am

Chris, my objection to the neologism "battle" is when it's referring to diseases like cancer, AIDS, and other conditions that CAN be fatal. 

With Asperger's  the patient fighting him/hers-self, or the entire world.  (My sister is an Aspie.) No treatment for adults...and very intensive behavioral treatment for young children only seems to work about 50% of the time.  And any Aspie who was born before about 1985 was outta luck, anyway.  Nobody knew Jack Schidt about it.

My mom underwent 2 courses of chemo for metastatic lung cancer, and it didn't look like a battle to me.  She was extremely passive/submissive...to the point where I sometimes wanted to slap her.  "Whatcha want for dinner, Mom?"  "Ohhhhh.  I don't care."  IOW, "You don't need to feed me; just let me starve to death." 

That was NOT when she was on chemo...by  the end of the year she was completely cancer-free, and it never came back, but she was depressed that she didn't have cancer any more.  She wasn't "special."

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 20, 2014 at 1:27am

I need to clarify my interpretation of mother's behaviors that I witnessed at Morning Star. About a third of the mothers and fathers, if they were involved, had rigidly strict, unrealistic parenting styles. They didn't know age-appropriate behaviors and made demands that the boys simply were not able to perform. They used harsh punishment that generated either anger from the boys or timidity. These were the boys who were the bullies or the bullied. 

About a third of the parents were too lenient with their sons. They had no boundaries, no structure, and children just don't thrive in such a loose environment. Appropriate discipline did not happen and those boys tended to be wild, careless, took risks with lives and property. They just didn't think things through and my colleague called them "dyslogic". There was no this-then-that, no cause-and-effect thinking. 

About a third of the boy had parents who used good parenting skills, had clear communication between the parent and between parents and child.They set realistic behavior standards and used responsible discipline when needed. The parents showed love and caring and the boys felt secure. These boys tended to let peer pressure be their guide for how to behave. Some of them were in trouble with the courts because of truancy or shop-lifting or alcohol use. 

I designed a parent training model that I used in group sessions. Parents of all three types came to the classes and learned from each other. They could see the costs and benefits of each parenting style and the influences of peers on the age group of elementary through high school. 

 

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