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Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Bertold Brautigan 7 minutes ago. 18 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

Tags: Christmas, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller on Wednesday. 11 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Chris G Dec 15. 9 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat Nov 26. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 24. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 22. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 4, 2012 at 11:58pm

The Neptune Society option is interesting. I just asked that my useable organs parts be donated, the rest used by a medical school, and what was left could be disposed of the cheapest way that's legal. Taking up a cemetery plot seems so not-green. The ocean is greener.

Comment by sk8eycat on May 4, 2012 at 11:26pm

I don't know if the Neptune Society is a national organization or not, but I joined and paid in full more than 10 years ago.  They take care of the cremation and then scatter the ashes at sea.  They give you wallet cards with instructions for EMTs and hospitals, and papers with more complete instructions to keep at home. 

I told my Jehovah's Witless sister that she could just flush my ashes down the toilet with the cat poop if she wanted to. I don't care.

I think my dad was a closeted atheist, and some years before he died he told Mother that he just wanted to be cremated and be tossed in the ocean with no services, but mother forgot to tell me until after I'd made the mistake of having his body sent to Forest Lawn because I thought he'd bought a plot there.  (I'd seen receipts and cancelled checks when I worked in his accounting office.  Turns out he sold the plot back to them, but I didn't know that, and by the time it was obvious that he was going to die, he'd had a massive stroke, and couldn't speak.) We had to go through a lot of phone calls and extra paperwork to have them do things the way he wanted, and it cost a lot more than the Neptune Society. 

Dad's sister and her husband were offended that we didn't even have a memorial service...my uncle was "a son of a preacher-man."  He always had to pray over his meals, no matter where he ate.

I did call Neptune when Mother died.  Almost 20 years ago!  Seems like yesterday.  She was a bit of a fundie, and got more so with age and illness, but she thought funerals were a waste of money, and god wouldn't care..

When our neighbors have lost a family member, I usually avoid the funeral and send a single white rose, or a white or pale pink phaleanopsis (SP?) orchid, in a bud vase to the house.

I also wear a MedicAlert bracelet (because I'm diabetic and allergic to morphine) that has "DNR" at the very top.  If/when I stop breathing, that's IT.

Comment by Steph S. on May 3, 2012 at 11:14am

Well Jessica you could state in your will the kind of funeral or non-funeral you wish. I just want cremation .. no ceremony or nothing.

Comment by Jessica on May 3, 2012 at 10:57am

Thank you everyone!  Unfortunately, there was not a lot of money left for her to buried so there will only be a graveside service.  I feel selfish in being happy over this development but I will not have to sit in a church and I am thankful.  

My Father in law was an Atheist adn my mother in law comes from a fundie family with preachers and all.  He told her after he got terminally ill that she could have whatever funeral she would like for him.  So, they had an all out Christian one.  I sat there ill at what had happened.  Ii know when you die that is it but I will be damned that someone throw me a christian funeral in my memory.  I'm just saying...

Since she passed I thought a lot about funerals and christianity.  Anybody else had a similar situation? 

Comment by Steph S. on May 2, 2012 at 11:55pm
You're the only Atheist in your family Jonathan? Same here with me.
Comment by Steph S. on May 2, 2012 at 11:53pm
Sorry to hear about your aunt Jessica. My thoughts are with you!
Comment by booklover on May 2, 2012 at 9:08am

I'm sorry about your Aunt, Jessica.  If you have to go to the funeral, you don't need a poker-face.  Just maybe think about good times you had with your Aunt, or something else nice, and try to ignore the preacher.  I've never  been to a baptist church , so I don't know what the funerals are like.  Maybe hard to ignore!  ~ Melinda

Comment by Jessica on May 2, 2012 at 6:34am

My Aunt Wanda died last night.  She was a tough woman who did not even let polio slow her down.  Her daughter died in a motorcycle accident at the age of 18.  She had been in the hospital several times this last year but she kept recovering.  However, she was 92 and it was just a matter of time.  She was also a fundie so I know the funeral will be at the church she went to, a baptist church.  Soooo, I am going to have to sit in that church and listen to jesus this, gawd that.  It makes me extremely uncomfortable and if it wasn't for my grandmother I probably would for go the funeral and just go to the funeral home.  I am dreading it bc I do not have a poker face.  Any time I have had to go to church funerals I always make faces (unintentionally) when the preachers say ridiculous things.  I needed some where to share this, I hate baptists churches and their bs.

Comment by sk8eycat on April 28, 2012 at 10:51pm

I got home about 2 hours ago (we stopped at a nice restaurant for dinner), and I'm still speechless.  Most of the songs were written by Sir elton John, but the number that blew me away was set to "Swan Lake."  I'm still breathless, too.

So many memories...

Comment by booklover on April 28, 2012 at 6:57pm

Glad for you getting to go to a show sk8eycat!  My daughter (now 20) and I got to see WICKED in NYC last year!  SO AWESOME!!!

 

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