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Christmas: Behind the Curtain (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by booklover 3 hours ago. 21 Replies

Well, it's that time of year again.  Time to gird our loins, put on our battle armor and join the (dah-dah DAAAAAH!) WAR AGAINST CHRISTMAS!!! [groan!] Yeah, most of us have heard that crap before, probably too many times, in fact, how atheists are…Continue

Tags: Christmas, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Seth Andrews - The Copycats: How Christianity Steals The Best Ideas

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller on Wednesday. 11 Replies

Many of us have observed or learned how christianity shamelessly borrows from other sources to bolster its position and show off its supposed wonderfulness.  Well, Seth Andrews of The Thinking Atheist podcast has compiled some of the more modern-day…Continue

Tags: steal, borrow, copycat, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Finding Your Roots

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Chris G Dec 15. 9 Replies

I've been into genealogy for a long time. It's fun, especially with internet help, but increasingly frustrating. You see, I've hit "brick walls". And being a Smith doesn't make research any easier.Wouldn't you think I could find the death date and…Continue

Secular and Reclaimed Winter Holiday Songs

Started by Grinning Cat. Last reply by sk8eycat Nov 26. 41 Replies

This is an appropriate day of the year for this subject...What are some of your favorite winter holiday songs?It would be especially good to share powerful new secular lyrics to tunes that have become associated with Christmas.…Continue

Tags: singing, lyrics, reclaimed, reclaiming, HumanLight

Aljam

Started by Randall Smith. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 24. 4 Replies

I'm not a news hound by any stretch, but I do like to stay informed about what's going on in the world. (I despise "local" news with all the reports of murders, robberies, fires, etc.)The national "evening" news shows really irritate me. I hate…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 22. 79 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Comment by sk8eycat on July 20, 2012 at 12:20am

@Flying Atheist: According to Wikipedia, Fatty Falwell founded his first church when he was 22, so the only time he might have been selling cars was part-time when he was in college.

Guess we'd have to call him a used-god salesman.

I saw him once, about 30 years ago, on the Phil donohue Show, and he was RUDE to the other guests and some members of the studio audience. I think buybull colleges teach their students  to interrupt and "talk over" anyone who doesn't agree with them 100%.  *faugh*

Comment by Sarah on July 19, 2012 at 11:49pm
Honestly, book lover, I wouldn't respond to you again as you seem like a judgmental person. But you don't get to tell me who I can and can't respond to. Sheesh, I'm starting to think this kid is lucky that you won't talk to him again. I fail to see the difference between saying you see no value in talking to him again versus you won't talk to him again. I don't think I have read anything into your comments or misinterpreted them, so I guess we'll have to agree to disagree about what you've conveyed.

I'm sorry I had the nerve to speak up and think it wasn't very nice to trash a kid by calling him an egotistical know-it-all when most 17 yos probably also think they have all the answers.

I really thought this site would be a welcoming spot where diversity of opinion and free thinking would be valued. But I'm finding it's a closed clique where newbies aren't welcome and people tune out anyone who doesn't fall lock-step in line with their thinking.
Comment by booklover on July 19, 2012 at 5:49pm

@ Patricia, lol.  This 'kid' is 17 and lives many states away.  He and my son and a bunch of other 'kids' are friends from XBOX Live of all things.  They have been for years.  There is another kid here from California.  THey are all friends.  Sorta cool they could all get together, but I personally would NEVER let my kid go visit someone I didn't know.  They are all mostly over at another friends house (the one hosting the guy from California).  Luckily I won't have to 'host' again for at least a year! lol.  Sorry about your fun situation with your son's friend.  At least that's over!!!!

Comment by booklover on July 19, 2012 at 4:57pm

Umm no Sarah, I did not convey that I found no value in talking to him anymore.  I said I wouldn't talk to him anymore, as he has all the answers.  Also, he is my sons guest, and I don't care to take up my sons time with him.  The visit is going just fine, I just don't care to speak to a know-it-all about something he doesn't know all about.

And, lol, as for your 'surmising', he couldn't have formed an opinion that I was looking down on him, as he didn't even listen to me. I spoke a few sentences, he told us all he was right, then he left to use the restroom, and my Mom and I agreed we wouldn't speak about it again with him.

As far as your surmising, your opinion, etc.  you weren't there and so you made-up a scenario, and no, it's not worth listening to.  It's as if you decided how the whole thing went and then picked a 'side', as if you knew anything about it.

I don't have a 'case' that needs to be 'helped', lol.  I was just told a story and you were the only one who made-up what happened, then gave an opinion on it, and then disagreed with me about something that didn't even happen.  WOW.  Please don't respond to me, and I won't respond to you.  Your 'apology' is insincere, and we don't have to like everyone on AN.  Life is too short, so have a good one.

@ Patricia, I totally agree, I am not going to lend him anything.  He has turned out to be just fine as a guest, but I have found he knows the most about EVERYTHING.  Coffee, driving, books, etc. lol.  I will be curious as to how my son feels about him having met him 'in real life'.  I won't tell my son I didn't care for him.  The kid is not a bad person at all, just a know-it-all.

Comment by Idaho Spud on July 19, 2012 at 3:50pm

The Flying Atheist, thanks for the link to Hitchens on Falwell.  I've not seen it before, and also love it.  Hitchens was great.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on July 19, 2012 at 2:56pm

Booklover....I remember myself when I was seventeen and into my early 20's.  I thought I was on top of the world and knew it all, however I don't recall being overly egotistical.  That's a personality trait I've never really had.  (At least I think so.)  However, some people are just plain egotistical at ANY age and express it openly.  This young man may grow up, become wiser about the ways of the world and still be obnoxiously egotistical.  I hope the remainder of his visit with you goes smoothly.        

Comment by The Flying Atheist on July 19, 2012 at 2:30pm

Sk8eycat.....was Jerry Falwell a used car salesman at one time?  Or where you just implying that he sounded like one?  BTW, I loved what Hitchens had to say about Falwell after he died.  http://youtu.be/52yTqMcwuQE

I'm reminded again about how much Hitchens is missed.  Absolutely no other person would dare go on television and say the things he said with such conviction and eloquence. 

Comment by Sarah on July 19, 2012 at 2:26pm

Booklover, I'm sorry you found so much offense in my comment. You did, though, convey here, at least, that it was egotistical of him to think he has all the answers and that you found no more value in talking to him as a result. And that much of this view is based on his age versus yours. I don't think it's unreasonable to surmise that it's at least possible he felt that attitude and responded to it. And really, if you read my comment carefully, you would note that I wasn't suggesting that is what happened, but that I would have responded that way at 17.

You're certainly not making me feel like my views are at all worth considering or have any merit, simply because I disagree with you. Aren't we supposed to be free-thinkers? As such, shouldn't we at least be open to the idea that other people might have different ideas and different views that are worth hearing? I don't want to go through life shutting out everyone who says something I disagree with.

Again, I'm sorry you were offended by my comment, but you haven't exactly helped your case by writing me off as someone to ignore based on one comment.

Comment by booklover on July 19, 2012 at 12:21pm

Thanks Idaho Spud.  I really wasn't and I don't talk-down to teenagers ever.  I have an 18 year old and a 20-year old.

Comment by Idaho Spud on July 19, 2012 at 12:05pm

Yes, booklover, It doesn't sound like you were unreasonable.

 

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