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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

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Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

Richard Dawkins, Growing Up in the Universe

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 14. 2 Replies

Here is an oldie, the young Richard Dawkins teaching kids about the universe. I especially like the one demonstrating how the eye evolved. This should answer those who believe it was impossible to evolve an eye. Continue

Tags: universe, teaching, Dawkins, Richard

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Comment by Ian Mason on August 4, 2012 at 3:51am

Spot on, Joan. So very well put.

Comment by Plinius on August 4, 2012 at 1:01am

Good comment Joan! That way of thinking is rather destructive for sports (not that I mind) - after some time you see only people who try and others who don't and what does it really matter who won?

The people who don't reach the top never blame the god or his friend the devil - most of the time they talk about bad luck.

Comment by Steph S. on August 3, 2012 at 11:19pm

Comment by Paula T. on August 3, 2012 at 8:35pm
That's a great story, booklover. Very refreshing to hear you have such an open-minded(?) friend. She sounds like a keeper :)
Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on August 3, 2012 at 6:42pm

Good for Clara Hughes. I too got tired of hearing about God from winning athletes.

Comment by Idaho Spud on August 3, 2012 at 5:27pm

Love Tony's melting dog and saved it.  Also saved booklover's gene pool police.  I often want to shout that at someone.  Ian's angry cat also got saved.  

Thanks to all.  Some I like never got credit because I've been spending more time in the garden, walking, and bicycling.  My doctor was pleased with all the exercise I've been getting.

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 3, 2012 at 3:50pm

If someone works very hard, develops their coordination, trains their reflexes, learns to be flexible, keeps their eye on the goal, is coached by wise and caring people, has support of family and friends, overcomes obstacles and wins a race or some performance, the reference to god as reason for fine performance is to claim the performer and all those who participated in the achievement is somehow special, a chosen one/s.
What about the person who does the same hard work, has the same good coaching and support, and loses; is that person not special, not chosen by some higher power to come in first or do the best? 
A team, sports or work team, that prays before performance puts notions of achievement beyond their own capacity to perform and when they fail to "win, do they blame some deity? 
Did the first to climb successfully Mt. Everest, Sir Edmund Hillary and Tenzing Norgay in 1953, pray for success or did they keep telling themselves, "I can do it. One more step, then another," until they reached the top. 

What about the climbers who worked as hard, kept a positive attitude, and died in the attempts? Did they say prayers, or did they rely on their training or did they include prayers to a deity? Were they not favored in the scheme of things?
Whether succeeding at a task or failing, there are circumstances that make differences. With all the training and support in the world, disasters happen, especially when taking such risks. But life is like that, people who use good judgment and work hard may be faced with an uneven playing field, or there may be hidden information not available to them, either on purpose or not yet understood.

When a banker or financial mogul manipulates the markets, makes fortune for himself and his cronies, and others who work hard struggle just to keep functioning, then the struggler can hardly be blamed?

When one nation deliberately commits genocide, such as USA attempted destruction of Native American culture, can Native peoples be blamed for their harships?

When one segment of society, because of race, keeps others of another race in slavery, prevents education, and uses brutal force to "keep them in their place", can the slaves and their heirs be blamed for failure to flourish? 

Many wealthy act as if they earned their treasure because of work  they performed, when indeed, thousands of others may have participated in making the product.  

If an individual puts his/her faith in an unseeable, unhearable, and unknowable entity and expect things to happen, there is a dependence that begins in the mind and influences behaviors. 

If an individual puts his/her mind and body to work to solve a problem, there is no blame to impose, but rather encouragement to try again and keep trying until problems or conflicts resolve. Failure comes from dependence, not being open to different options, expecting others to resolve issues, and stopping thought and action. 

If a winning athlete credits god for his/her victory, then we witness delusion and denial. Call them on it. 

Comment by dr kellie on August 3, 2012 at 3:18pm

Booklover, you put it well.  God loves Gabby so much that she gets a gold medal while other kids get cancer and all kinds of horrible diseases, starvation, etc.  I just don't know sometimes.

Comment by Ian Mason on August 3, 2012 at 2:34pm

I wonder if people would be shunned in some countries if they didn't do the "thank God" routine? Or even stoned in a few! Expressing a non-comformist opinion can lead to being dropped as two Americans and one Aussie found out in '68 after the famous fist salute.

Comment by Paula T. on August 3, 2012 at 2:30pm
Wow, I hope our athletes in the U.S., both pro and amateur, begin to give THEMSELVES credit, along with coach, family, etc. I give Clara Hughes credit for putting the credit where it belongs!

It drives me crazy when I watch the Detroit Tigers on TV and a couple of players in particular knock in a run or hit a homer, they cross themselves, look, and point up. I look at it this way...If I was standing at home plate and hit a home run, THAT would be a miracle and god could possibly get the credit (if I believed!), but as sk8eycat said, athletes work for YEARS to have the skills they do in order to make it. No skydaddy was involved in their success - only their own dedication and hard work.
 

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